1. Should we tell our daughter about our deconversion? (Feb 10): http://www.ex-christ...enage-daughter/
2. We told her and she took it very well (Feb 27): http://www.ex-christ...hter-follow-up/
3. A Facebook discussion involving one of her friends (David, who is a church going atheist) and other member of our former church (March 14): http://www.ex-christ...church-members/
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The story since then...
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Since telling her about our deconversion, we haven't talked with her about it again in any depth. She hasn't brought it up and we had no interest in pushing anything. We were able to joke about things a few times since it was out in the open, but nothing serious.
I've been taking her to clubs as much as possible on Saturday nights to see local bands play (we know a few of them, David's band being one of them). We've had a great time and don't get home until 2 to 4 in the morning Sunday morning. This has pretty much kept her away from church in the last month and she didn't seem concerned about it at all.
She went to the church youth group for the first time in weeks last night. On the way there to drop her off, my wife (2honest) asked her if she had seen my facebook thread (#3 above) with David. She read it on the way to church. After church, I picked her up. David walked out with her. Turns out they have been sitting together at church and talking a lot.
When we left church, I asked her if she had read the facebook thread, and she said yes. I asked her what she thought, and she said "I feel the same way as David". I said "what do you mean? Do you doubt the existence of god?" She said, "I've never really believed it. I was waiting for evidence and it never showed up. What David said made a lot of sense to me". She also said "I stopped listening to Perrianne (the youth leader) a long time ago".
I was a bit surprised since she seemed to have really engaged with church since 2honest and I deconverted and left that church. I asked her about that, and she said her engagement was all about the opportunity to sing (she is on the worship team once a month). She also said she was engaged because Perrianne has made such a big deal out of her song writing ability.
So, I think she might go to church once and awhile, but just to hang out with her friends including David, and to sing once a month. But now that our deconversion is becoming a bit more public, I'm not sure how long they will let her remain on the worship team. We have been encouraging her to branch out (away from church) with her singing and we are going to facilitate that for her.
Either way, she is either out or mostly out of xtianity. Some how, 2honest and I produced a couple of freethinkers. Who would have thought?
Again, thanks for all the support you guys have given 2honest and me through our deconversion and this story with our daughter.
