As some of you may recall, my husband began his de-conversion shortly after I did. I'd say he is somewhere around agnostic, completely rejecting the "bible god" and all forms of religion, but not (as I am) closed off to the idea of a supernatural realm or divine creator. He mostly just doesn't care though.
We have 3 children, two of whom are too young to really know the difference, though our 3 year old has asked about church a few times. Our 6 year old daughter though is very bright for her age and has been very involved in church and religious groups within the community. VBS all summer long, church camp in the summer, a weekly bible class (with dinner and play time) at a local ministry once a week, AWANAS once a week and church every Wed and and Sunday. She has always talked about god and Jesus and the bible a lot and has said "the" prayer and asked to be baptized. If you ask her, she will tell you she is a christian.
When I left the church over a year ago my husband kept going for awhile, taking our kids with him, so she has not been out of church as long as I have but has been out for awhile. About 6 months, I suppose. She still asks to go about once a week. I just tell her "We don't go to church anymore." and so far she hasn't asked why.
She does still go to AWANAS and the local ministry, though. At first I was ok with that because I don't have to be there. I thought "Well, her religion is her choice, if she wants to go she can." and my husband agreed, but as time goes on I am feeling less and less comfortable with this. She is still so young, it's really not her choice, it's just me allowing her to be brainwashed. Or at least that's how it's beginning to feel.
She doesn't know that I no longer believe in god. I'm not sure I should tell her. I don't know that she could really understand. I always don't want her to think she is not allowed to go to church or not allowed to believe in or talk about god. I want her to feel free to explore religion and talk with me about it. But I don't know how to do that.
Those of you with kids, how did you help them deal with the change you were going through? What did you do about church and kid's ministries?