sandiego4me Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 This has nothing to do with the whole sin thing. I just feel sorry for women who live with their boyfriends. 95% of the time, these women want to get married but their boyfriends always have an excuse for not getting married. To all of you ladies who are stuck in this predicament, a real man will dive head first into a marriage for a woman that he loves. If you have been living with a guy for several years, then he's a turd. Get rid of him Why settle for someone who doesn't want to marry you? Yes, I realize that some women actually start off just wanting to live together, but, as the years pass, very few want to stay in this situation. There is a local radio station in San Diego. Each day, the DJ fields a call from a woman who thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her. The DJ then calls the boyfriend, pretending that he is a local florist and informs the boyfriend that he has been randomly selected to send a dozen romantic roses to anyone he wants. 99.9% of the time, the boyfriend sends the roses to his lover or new fling, all while his girlfriend sits on the other line, silently listening in. 75% of the time these are live-in boyfriends. Ladies, the fact of the matter is that guys that don't want to get married almost always either have something going on the side, or are keeping their options open. Why would you want this? You're better than that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Ravenstar Posted December 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2013 Why would you feel sorry? You know very little about women, not surprising... Being female I have had the opportunity to speak to a lot of other women… a lot of us DO NOT WANT to get married. It's not the guy, it's us. There are many good reasons not to get married, independence, financial autonomy, etc. etc… and each women would have their own. Defining our relationships in new ways is part of the way culture and society is moving… most women make their own money these days and in a lot of cases getting married is not the best move. Commitment is very possible without marriage… and I've been married, twice… and I've experienced a deeper commitment with a live-in boyfriend than I did with either of my husbands.. actually, I had an even better long term relationship with a man I never lived with. I would never get married again..ever. 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilith666 Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Some people don't want to get married for various reasons. Why tell them what is right for them when you don't know their individual situations? 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post mymistake Posted December 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2013 Statistics sound 73% more convincing when you make them up on the spot. 12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waitingongod Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 You do realize that a marriage is merely a legal agreement sanctioned by the state right? A couple can be equally committed without having to get the piece of paper. You can even get a ring and have a ceremony and not be "married". Your "god" doesn't even require a ceremony. Often times, it makes more financial sense to not get "legally" married. As far as your DJ scenario, it is required by law to notify the caller that your calling, why and that you will be on the air. You have to agree to it. Not doing so gets you in big trouble with the FCC, so those are probably stunts. Please provide the citations for your claims, I'd like to review them. Oh, and christians have a higher divorce rate than some other groups (random statistic for ya, thought it would make the post more legit). 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator TheRedneckProfessor Posted December 11, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted December 11, 2013 From apologist to marriage counselor... well, you're moving up in the world. Could you get me a Slushie while you're at it? 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MerryG Posted December 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2013 Sigh. So Sandie is still around starting new threads while not participating in his old ones. Agreed with all above. Sandiego, I'd feel sorry for any woman YOU lived with or married, given that you seem to think we all fit 1950s stereotypes. Just fluffy little airheads, wanting nothing more in life than to "catch" a man and tie him down with government strings. Indeed, count me among the women who have happily cohabited and not wanted to marry. Marriage only means that either a church or a government or both give their consent to a relationship -- and I think that's a completely idiotic and offensive idea. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milesaway Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 You know what, Sandiego? If they're both consenting adults, why should it matter to you? Who the hell died and made you boss of the world? We're adults. We don't need validation from you and your ilk. Our lives, our choices. Not your life? Not your choices? Not your business. BTW, Sandiego, why won't you answer any of the other threads you started? You opened that can of worms, you need to deal with the consequences instead of being a coward and running away. Own it. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
◊ crazyguy123 ◊ Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Why does anyone even respond to Sandiego4me's posts? Maybe everyone should follow the ways of bdp and put him on "iggy". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fernweh Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 This has nothing to do with the whole sin thing. I just feel sorry for women who live with their boyfriends. 95% of the time, these women want to get married but their boyfriends always have an excuse for not getting married. To all of you ladies who are stuck in this predicament, a real man will dive head first into a marriage for a woman that he loves. If you have been living with a guy for several years, then he's a turd. Get rid of him Why settle for someone who doesn't want to marry you? Yes, I realize that some women actually start off just wanting to live together, but, as the years pass, very few want to stay in this situation. You are extremely naive. There is a local radio station in San Diego. Each day, the DJ fields a call from a woman who thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her. The DJ then calls the boyfriend, pretending that he is a local florist and informs the boyfriend that he has been randomly selected to send a dozen romantic roses to anyone he wants. 99.9% of the time, the boyfriend sends the roses to his lover or new fling, all while his girlfriend sits on the other line, silently listening in. 75% of the time these are live-in boyfriends. Ladies, the fact of the matter is that guys that don't want to get married almost always either have something going on the side, or are keeping their options open. Why would you want this? You're better than that. If you believe those radio shows are real then you are also extremely gullible. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astreja Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 I've been married and divorced. After I dumped Whatsisname (A bargain! I only lost $3K in legal fees, half a house, a guitar, a boom box and 26 years of My life), My female best friend and I moved in together. We saw Canada legalize same-sex marriage (and in fact lobbied for it ourselves), and at one point considered getting married. In the end we didn't marry and had a very amicable split to pursue our respective goals independently. We visit with each other on a regular basis and are still best friends. No need to feel sorry for Me -- Things are fine. Marriage is grossly overrated. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator florduh Posted December 11, 2013 Super Moderator Share Posted December 11, 2013 Marriage is about property, period. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
par4dcourse Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 To all of you ladies who are stuck in this predicament, a real man will dive head first into ........ Thought it was going together good there for a second! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mymistake Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Why is it that so many Christians are against co-habitation when the Bible clearly allows men to own concubines? Modern co-habitation is about women being in charge of their own bodies and their own lives. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
austere Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 What made you think it was a good idea to post this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenstar Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 ^^ EXACTLY, my mistake of course now we are all a bunch of fornicating sinners…because we don't wish to be owned. sigh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
austere Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 It's not even technically on topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
◊ crazyguy123 ◊ Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Why is it that so many Christians are against co-habitation when the Bible clearly allows men to own concubines? Modern co-habitation is about women being in charge of their own bodies and their own lives. That must be why Christians are against it. They don't want women to be in control of their own lives and bodies because it's not Biblical. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RankStranger Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 I feel sorry for you, Sandiego4me. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RosebudMarie Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 My husband and I met and married in 9 months. We lived together for 8, though weren't sexually active due to our Christianity. I wanted to marry him from the beginning. We both did. We've been together for 15 years now, and still madly in love. I really do believe he is my soul mate, and I suspect we may have known each other in another life. I did what was right for me. As a Christian, I would have agreed that it isn't okay to have premarital sex or live together, mostly because that was the opinion I was TAUGHT to have. Now, as an x-C my attitudes have changed. It's not my business what people do, as long as it isn't hurting someone. However, I don't believe people should unless they want to make a serious, long-term commitment, whether marriage or something similar, simply because it can really cause serious emotional damage. Sex with a person you know won't leave you is so much better than casual sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenstar Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 This isn't about sex though, it's about marriage. (haha I made a funny!) I understand some people feel that way… but not everyone has the same view, or experience, on casual and/or premarital/post-marital/non-marital sex. Sometimes you WANT them to leave. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeadTOm Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 This has nothing to do with the whole sin thing. I just feel sorry for women who live with their boyfriends. 95% of the time, these women want to get married but their boyfriends always have an excuse for not getting married. To all of you ladies who are stuck in this predicament, a real man will dive head first into a marriage for a woman that he loves. If you have been living with a guy for several years, then he's a turd. Get rid of him Why settle for someone who doesn't want to marry you? Yes, I realize that some women actually start off just wanting to live together, but, as the years pass, very few want to stay in this situation. There is a local radio station in San Diego. Each day, the DJ fields a call from a woman who thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her. The DJ then calls the boyfriend, pretending that he is a local florist and informs the boyfriend that he has been randomly selected to send a dozen romantic roses to anyone he wants. 99.9% of the time, the boyfriend sends the roses to his lover or new fling, all while his girlfriend sits on the other line, silently listening in. 75% of the time these are live-in boyfriends. Ladies, the fact of the matter is that guys that don't want to get married almost always either have something going on the side, or are keeping their options open. Why would you want this? You're better than that. Right, because all women want to get married and all unmarried men cheat. What a shit head. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeverAgainV Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 … a lot of us DO NOT WANT to get married. It's not the guy, it's us. .... Yep! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slave2six Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Why not save your pity for, say, those poor dopes out there who feel sorry for people they don't know based on assumptions that all the people in that group are simply poor abused females who really, really want to marry prince charming. Grow up. Then come back and post something intelligent. Please. The adults are tired of listening to your childish drivel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midniterider Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 This has nothing to do with the whole sin thing. I just feel sorry for women who live with their boyfriends. 95% of the time, these women want to get married but their boyfriends always have an excuse for not getting married. To all of you ladies who are stuck in this predicament, a real man will dive head first into a marriage for a woman that he loves. If you have been living with a guy for several years, then he's a turd. Get rid of him Why settle for someone who doesn't want to marry you? Yes, I realize that some women actually start off just wanting to live together, but, as the years pass, very few want to stay in this situation. There is a local radio station in San Diego. Each day, the DJ fields a call from a woman who thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her. The DJ then calls the boyfriend, pretending that he is a local florist and informs the boyfriend that he has been randomly selected to send a dozen romantic roses to anyone he wants. 99.9% of the time, the boyfriend sends the roses to his lover or new fling, all while his girlfriend sits on the other line, silently listening in. 75% of the time these are live-in boyfriends. Ladies, the fact of the matter is that guys that don't want to get married almost always either have something going on the side, or are keeping their options open. Why would you want this? You're better than that Marriage, well it's 50% successful anyway. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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