Getting Grounded Without God

[GirlOnFire]

Okay, first of all, it is super weird that I came into Ex-C today and found a post by MOHO on the very thing I am dealing with (divorce).  

 

In light of that, I was going to ask you all, what do you do now when you feel super stressed out to get grounded?  For so long, if I felt stressed out or worried, I would pray.  Obviously, that isn't my reaction anymore, but it has admittedly left me floundering, trying to figure out how to get grounded and centered whenever things in my life get mega-intense.

 

Last night (night 1 of my separation from my husband), I was laying in bed, unable to fall asleep because my mind wouldn't shut off.  I did the only thing I could think to do, and, because I'm a musician, I wrote a song (well, a chorus) to distract my mind.  Still....  If anyone has any good techniques or strategies for dealing with stress without god/prayer, I'd love to hear them.

 

[MOHO]

Still,

 

I fing that grape juice work wonders! Just dont' over-due it!

 

How hard it is to shut the mind off when you are trying to, eh?

 

Grounded. Yes. I whip out my Strat or my Gibby and bang out some BB. Calling a level-headed friend helps tremendously.

 

A walk in the park or at the beach.

[GirlOnFire]

Grape juice and tequila.  I'm seeing a theme emerging here. 

[♦ Fuego ♦]

Two of my most peaceful times were in water. Once floating on my back in the ocean in a shallow bay in Canada, the other relaxing in a hot spring at Breitenbush watching a roaring river surrounded by snow and cold raindrops falling on me.

 

I go back to those places, revisiting the sights, sounds, and smells.

 

Alternatively, I listen to my breath and make it deep and long, feeling the coolness as it enters my nose.

 

Also I had a mediation technique from my days in Aikido, focusing mentally on a spot of light where my center of gravity is, in the lower ab area. I visualize it sending roots down into the center of the Earth.

[quinntar]

Okay, first of all, it is super weird that I came into Ex-C today and found a post by MOHO on the very thing I am dealing with (divorce).

 

In light of that, I was going to ask you all, what do you do now when you feel super stressed out to get grounded? For so long, if I felt stressed out or worried, I would pray. Obviously, that isn't my reaction anymore, but it has admittedly left me floundering, trying to figure out how to get grounded and centered whenever things in my life get mega-intense.

 

Last night (night 1 of my separation from my husband), I was laying in bed, unable to fall asleep because my mind wouldn't shut off. I did the only thing I could think to do, and, because I'm a musician, I wrote a song (well, a chorus) to distract my mind. Still.... If anyone has any good techniques or strategies for dealing with stress without god/prayer, I'd love to hear them.

1.Masturbation helps you sleep.

 

2.Focusing on other people's problems keeps you mentality fit.

 

3.Crying keeps you emotionally healthy.

 

4.Keeping things simple helps physical restraints and burdens.

[Guest]

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

[quinntar]

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

All bullshit.

[Daffodil]

I went through a pretty ugly period the last couple of days. Hormonal, depressed, lots of dark thoughts. Weirdly lost all feelings of love and affection toward my husband. Not at all the life changing stuff you're going through, but still really soul crushing to me. It might sound a little nihilistic, but after briefly catching myself starting to pray for relief, I was reminded that nothing really matters on the grand scale of life. We're all just tiny blips in history. All we can do is to do our best for ourselves and those we care about. I come on here to read others' stories to remind myself that I'm not alone and to let people "love on me" when I need it. Then I go back to loving on those I care about IRL. It works for me.

[Daffodil]

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

All bullshit.[/qu

 

Oops, hit "post" too quick.

[Daffodil]

 

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

All bullshit.

Whoa there, theanticrash, what's that all about? If it works for lavendula, what do you care?

[♦ Fuego ♦]

All bullshit.

 

 

Chill dude.

[GirlOnFire]

 

 

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

All bullshit.

Whoa there, theanticrash, what's that all about? If it works for lavendula, what do you care?

 

 

I do love tea.  And yoga.  And being outside.

[quinntar]

 

 

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

All bullshit.

Whoa there, theanticrash, what's that all about? If it works for lavendula, what do you care?

Ah it's all good, that stuff works well too.

 

Until I remembered I was molested by my mother, and no amount of scented candle burning or rubbing my naked feet in the grass fixed that demon running loose in my head.

 

I need hard formulated chemical drugs to calm my shaky nerves.

 

But if you need a basic mood stabiliser I say, go for it.

[quinntar]

 

All bullshit.

 

Chill dude.

I'm chilled, I'm chilled. In fact, I can't stop laughing.... Shit yeah that's another thing that's therapeutic.

[GirlOnFire]

Fuego's images for the win!  So funny!

[quinntar]

 

 

 

Some things I do are to use essential oils like lavender, drink herbal tea or take tinctures (things like lemon balm and skullcap). Listen to guided meditations or music; do yoga, light candles, read something relaxing, or go outside. I find going outside and getting my bare feet on the ground (and the fresh air!) really helps. Or I write in my journal.

All bullshit.

Whoa there, theanticrash, what's that all about? If it works for lavendula, what do you care?

I do love tea. And yoga. And being outside.

Well chicks love that shit, guys don't do yoga and tea. It's just not manly, and if we are seen doing that stuff we'll be the butt of every office joke.

 

Give me a 6 pack of beer and a porn mag and ill be sucking my thumb in dream heaven, when I sleep that night.

 

Why don't you girls try it out.

[GirlOnFire]

I live in hippie city here in NorCal....plenty of dudes do yoga and drink tea.  It's pretty commonplace in my little slice of the world.  (But I do recognize that's definitely not the larger cultural norm.)

[quinntar]

I live in hippie city here in NorCal....plenty of dudes do yoga and drink tea. It's pretty commonplace in my little slice of the world. (But I do recognize that's definitely not the larger cultural norm.)

It's just satire doll face, even I've done tai chi, and meditations, I burn incense all the time, I'm bare footed most of the day and night, I'm mental for every style of music.

 

I'm like the girlyman

 

And I do like tea, and chat.

[GirlOnFire]

I wondered that.  It sucks how sarcasm and satire are often lost online.

[quinntar]

I wondered that. It sucks how sarcasm and satire are often lost online.

I'll stop now, and leave you to discuss the original post.

[GirlOnFire]

 

I wondered that. It sucks how sarcasm and satire are often lost online.

I'll stop now, and leave you to discuss the original post.

 

 

It's all good.  The humor is helpful, honestly.

[TheRedneckProfessor]

I found breeding rabbits to be quite therapeutic in the early days.  And driving a tractor.  Pretty much farming in general.  Except sheep; they're terribly stupid animals.

[Geezer]

I listen to classical music accompanied by a large glass of wine or two, & sometimes three.

[Guest]

theanticrash, that was hurtful and uncalled-for. I won't judge your ways of coping, and would hope that you won't judge mine.

[yunea]

If I'm extremely stressed, I take prescription meds for anxiety so I can function and maybe do something about what's stressing me. In sudden situations where I just need to survive for a few seconds or minutes, I focus on my breathing and my toes, remembering the ground under me.

 

Smaller stress that I can't do anything about for now is helped by crocheting, pampering my pet snails, and writing stupid articles into my country's version of Uncyclopedia.