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  1. 3 points
    When I came back from my morning walk, look what was on the kitchen counter. The one in the back is chocolate pecan. Right now she's working on her signature lemon meringue. After that she'll start in on the turkey with stuffing; mashed potatoes with gravy; and green peas. And all this from a woman who is in constant pain from 22 surgeries and has four rods and ten screws 3/4 the way up her back, a steel plate in her neck, and two artificial knees and an artificial hip. She has to sit on a stool to cook. (I offer to help but she won't let me. She's afraid of what might happen.) Am I a lucky guy or what!!??
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    Regarding your exhaustion have you had that diagnosed? Certainly a lot of potential reasons for it (diet, parasites, sleep issues, illness, allergies etc). If you know the cause then its a question of whether it is resolvable or if you don't then you should focus on getting that corrected.
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    Give yourself time, and plenty of it. This isn't a matter of changing your life in a matter of weeks or months, but years. Patience is key. I would also see a secular therapist and talk about this with them. It helps a lot with learning to cope and gain a new perspective. As to those, well if god is out of your life and religion made your miserable, I would celebrate with a bonfire, watch them go up in smoke and say hello to a brighter future. Seeing them on the shelves will only hold memories for you you don't need at this point. Another option is just donate them to a used book store.
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    Don't put a time limit on anything, including when to let go of the religious stuff. Just allow everything to happen and don't fight it too much. I threw out my religious things one at a time and on certain days when I was ready to let it go. If you pick up a hobby and don't like it, try again. Or do them all. Be as OCD as you want. Read for a while, take a walk, do some housework, watch history youtubes, keep investigating why you are not a believer anymore. Just do what you want. I know it can feel empty for a while but that vacuumed hole well start to fill in with other things. But it takes time so don't be hard on yourself. I went back to work. I hate it but it's the best thing in the world for me. Best of luck...and keep posting.
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    Cult mindsets don't always start with slaughter, but can often go that far. And where religion holds a grip on societies, little holds them back from fanaticism. Our own government and culture has deep-seated fundamentalism which is far more concerned with passing laws to appease an angry god than caring for the poor and needy. Religion is often toxic. I think part of it stems from a long history of evolution, tribes slaughtering other tribes for stuff and females (the Bible's "young virgins"). I watched documentary on chimps and saw one tribe sneak up to another sleeping tribe, attack, slaughter, eat the young, and take the fruit tree in which they had lived. Appealing to gods to help win such battles was common in later tribal times where we have records. And tribal cultures have a long memory about grievances, so wars of hatred can go on for hundreds of years. The Middle East (and previously Mexico, and even Norway) is home to intolerant fanatic religions. You may have seen this animated parody of Andy Williams singing "This is My Land" which shows the constant slaughter done in the name of gods.
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    Must read this sometime away from Christian family of course
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    Those tv evangelists are the biggest con men..but they do it well.
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    I dunno how it is in the US, but I live in Canada and yesterday I spent a good part of the day greeting people at the mall, and it's overwhelmingly positive reaction to Happy Holidays. But then again I live in a city with a very international vibe and I'm guessing a good 50% of the people are not of any Christian "heritage."
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    I usually say Happy Holidays if I don't know someone's religion. If they greet me first I usually reply with the same greeting, including Merry Christmas. As others have said, the only time I get upset is when I say Happy Holidays and get a angry Merry Christmas in return.
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    Not seeing the pies. But yeah, you're a lucky one for sure! Not many women today know their place. Yours does! Congrats!
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    Just finished this book by David Madison, who is a bible scholar and an ex-pastor. One of the best I've seen at describing why christianity fails from historical, moral and philosophical perspectives. He has a good sense of humor and I found the book to be very readable. The topics he brings up can't be swatted away by christian apologists (not that they haven't tried). If you are looking for a source to help crystallize your thoughts on the key problems with christianity I recommend this book. Here's a quote from one reviewer... "Dr. David Madison pulls no punches in this wide-ranging critique that explains why Christianity fails to satisfy human reason, evidence, or even basic human social needs. From the problem of evil to the claim that the Bible is the word of God, Dr. Madison exposes the problems of Christian belief as few others can. As a former believer, he understands why Christians believe what they do. As a formally trained biblical scholar, he can detect all the ways that bad biblical scholarship is being used to prop up Christian belief. Given its highly accessible language, Ten Tough Problems in Christian Thought and Belief is ideal for those who wish to start exploring why Jesus is not the answer, and why Christianity has never given good answers to life's most important questions." --Hector Avalos, author of The Bad Jesus: The Ethics of New Testament Ethics and The End of Biblical Studies.
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    When I was able to do so I used to dance, kayak, hike and play tennis. (I forever regret that I never tried hang gliding.) My physical disabilities pretty much preclude these things now, but those would be my other suggestions from my own experience. But you, of course, would have to go with what you like. One could create a list of a hundred or so different hobbies or activities to choose from, but I assume you could do that yourself. It's just a matter of finding what appeals to you. There are lots of groups out there that are involved in various "causes" or "efforts": environmental, social justice, etc. I'm not sure just what I would be doing right now if I weren't writing. When I finish I'll have to figure it out too. Sorry I don't seem to be able to be much more help, but good luck.
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    I don't know if I have an answer. I'm actually rather like you. I find it hard to take interest in lots of things. I never watch TV. When I turn the thing on I just scan down through what's showing and then turn the blasted thing off again. And I've never understood why anyone was interested in watching sports. Are they just ..... well, no sense offending the sports fans at this site. Can't remember the last time I went out to a movie. For almost the last two years I have more or less "sequestered myself" to write some books (one of which I have published). That is what is keeping me going. Do you have any interest in writing?
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    It can be hard to find/rediscover hobbies after religion. I used to love cooking and for a long time after life fell apart, I wanted nothing to do with it. A year later, I’m loving it again. i try to stay flexible with hobbies. I’ve never been a person to pick one thing and stick with it. Recent things I’ve tried have been needle felting- use a special needle to repeatedly jab a ball of wool(very therapeutic, lol). Also belly dancing- look up videos by Irina on YouTube. I also live in an older house and have kept busy by painting rooms, or the wood trim. Ive watched many kdramas on the app viki. I enjoy using Pinterest. Even if I don’t pick up a particular craft, I do enjoy collecting ideas. Tryto to be patient with yourself. Losing religion is an immense change.
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    Yeah, I cant do the jewelry making using soldering and metals and glues...the glues are the worst for me. That is why I do beads, buttons, knitting SPOOLs, small looms, Pinwheel, Flower, YoYo makers, string the beads/buttons etc. on beading thread, ribbons...the only dangerous object is a sewing needle and beading needles (which aren't sharp pointed). I keep it safe, healthy. I don't buy the necklace clasps so I don't need crimp beads, crimp tools, beading wire and wire cutters. I keep it really simple...my, and many of the really awesome professional creations I have seen on the internet, use the same round rings that are used in ladies bras (cut off and save rings before throwing away an old bra) to tie the necklaces/bracelets on...and other simple ways to close them. Walmart always has dollar, 2 dollar, 5 dollar bins of fun items. The bead stores are very expensive.
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    Could I give a little advice. Sometimes when we try new things but have set our minds with the preset "I'm likely going to fail" or "I'm probably not going to like this" it doesn't turn out too well because we have already half made up our minds before we begin. So it's better to just try things without any expectations at all and we might be surprised. As well, if you suffer from exhaustion and your mobility is limited, setting a one hour goal for exercise is way too much in particular if you're just beginning or trying to get back to a rythm. You'll become discouraged when you can't do it so you won't try again. Aim for 15 minutes or so and increase it gradually. Same goes for learning languages. We are all learners and can do it but it needs to be broken down into small objectives we can achieve, or we will give up. Starting out with flash cards or learning the language a fun way really helps. The key is don't put pressure or expectations on yourself and do it just to have fun. Therefore if you end up learning something it's just an added bonus.
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    I am unsure. I’m trying to get into jewellery making but can’t where I live due to chemical fumes. It’s something I’m into but seems very expensive. I want to make cute kawaii jewellery to sell. I thought about stamp collecting but I’m only interested in certain types of stamps. Japanese or floral designs in particular. I cant paint or do any Arty stuff... I’m clumsy!. I tried origami but I’m sooooo bad at that. I want to make cherry blossom crafts or something with a Japanese or a floral design if I can. Not into knitting or sewing I’ve had so many bad experiences with that. I did do dot to dot books and also have tried sticker by number which was ok but frustrating these two hobbies. Don’t find them peaceful. I am trying sticker collecting right now. Trying to finish an album. I have tried anime but it just doesn’t hold my interest. I’ve seen a few j movies which were ok. Not into Japanese movies apart from the ones I saw. I might see “your name”. I was never much into Studio Ghibli. I used to like Kiki’s delivery service and Arrietty (was a big fan of that).i liked “when marnie was there” and “whisper of the heart” I used to like several movies and also period drama movies. I used to be huge into pokemon, digimon... I might see Mirai when it comes out. And might see Mary and the witch’s flower. I used to love barbie movies. I also tried “whipple” a craft set a few years ago.. went everywhere... looked awful lol. Never had luck with kits. The whipple originates from Japan.. no surprise there. I am buying a hemp bracelet kit or picture bracelet kit soon. No doubt going to fail. I like craft stuff but I’m no good at it! I also tried paper flowers years ago but it was a fail too. i did consider geocaching but not into that idea it seems kinda dangerous and I can’t travel. I play onlline bingo and the app of cooking mama (Japanese origin too lol). It’s casual and ok for me. Will delete cooking mama soon because it’s just the same recipes every day. If if anyone knows any Japanese games I’ll try them out. I seem to gravitate towards Japanese stuff for some reason As for exercise I’m very weak, tired and have trouble even moving due to exhaustion. I want to do it but it’s hard. I want to go for daily walks. I had planned an hour a day but it didn’t work. I also have tried learning japanese but I’m not a good learner and it’s incredibly hard for me.... just not interested enough either. I would like to know it but it’s overwhelming learning a language. I did attempt learning Italian which I did like..but abandoned that for my faith. I found it an interesting language. I used to own tamagotchis. I’ve been wanting to try animal crossing for a few years and Mario kart and Nintendo in general as I didn’t grow up with it and feel I missed out. I want to play something with princess peach.
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    Also fun is participating in the feeder count, I used to do that every winter.
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    We have had endless hours of great enjoyment and learning about different kinds of birds with spreading Birdseed around on the ground and hanging Hummingbird Feeders. We don't buy the Seed feeders for numerous reasons. For the most enjoyment and to help the little sweeties the most it is best to just walk around your home tossing/scattering pinches of seed so it lands around and under the plants. This has the birds scratching and pecking for the seed like they would normally do. It gives every bird a fair chance to get their share of seed. You don't need to clean feeders (yuk). Doesn't bring Raccoons, larger birds, predators etc. to your yard. The hanging and platform feeders are a draw for predators and species that you don't want around your birds. You can watch the bird activity, social interactions, habits, personalities, moral codes, lifestyle, courtship rituals of each species...not just see some birds fly up, grab a seed and go away. When they have their babies every year you can watch the fuzzy baby birds walk along beside mommy being fed seed as she picks them up and gives them to them. And later watch them learning to feed themselves. It is all great fun.
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    When I deconverted, I read. I mean, I read a lot. Whatever I could find about science, tech, and space travel, I was into. Not so much any more, unfortunately. :/
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    I like painting, writing, crochet/knitting, poetry, reading anything and everything, there is so much to read I never got into while religious, photography, baking, and dabbling in graphic art. Next on my list is joining a group to improve or rather gain some public speaking skills.
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    I'm a sucker for art! Have you tried painting or using colored pencils/markers? It doesn't matter if you don't think you can represent things accurately - it can be super fun just creating abstract blotches of color! Also if museums are accessible to you they are always excellent for visits. As for Japanese culture... Have you tried checking out Japanese films (non-anime?). Kurosawa is a super famous and influential director. Did you know the original Star Wars (Episode IV) was inspired in parts by The Hidden Fortress? These are just thoughts!
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    The one thing that helped me the most was martial arts, and if you have a love of Japanese culture and history then that could appeal. There are traditional martial arts like karate, jujitsu, judo and ninjitsu that have schools all over the world. Martial arts improve fitness, flexibility, helps meet new people, sets achievable goals and gives useful skills. Most schools are reasonably priced with the only expenses being a uniform and club fees. But most of all it is good fun.
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    Oh wow, sorry you are struggling. Here is a list of possible options. 1) Color Pencil and Watercolor Color booking: Every subject matter that exists has color books. Most are pencils only. Some can be gently Water colored with not much water . There are books, pencils and paints in every quality level and price range. Something for everybody. My favorites are the middle price, ok quality paper, adult line Creative Haven Collection, (they have kids books too)by Dover Publishing. Can buy directly online from them and many places. Some retail stores carry at least some of their very large collection. 2) Sit and Be Fit with Mary Ann Wilson R.N.. Excellent exercise that can be done standing or sitting or combo of both. Researched and put together by medical professionals not just the latest exercise trend guru. Easy, gentle, safe, effective. Especially for those with limitations. And even those without! She has a daily show on my PBS station. But you can also buy her last couple years of programs in DVD sets. Try your local library and youtube to preview before you buy if not carried on TV in your area. 3) Yarn, embroidery floss, crochet thread is No longer just for Knitters (I cant and hate traditional knitting and crocheting). Many companies carry Boutique lines of awesome yarns, threads etc.. They are great for getting very creative with small looms, knitting SPOOLS, hand knitting(NO Knitting Needles, just use your hands), to make SOFT jewelry, arm sleeves, shawls. Or combined with beads and buttons etc. Then there are of course Yoyo, Pinwheel, Flower Makers from Clover that allows adding FABRICS etc. to the creative mix. Excellent web sites exist that for free have a gazillion step by step how to's. And just looking at the photos of what others have done can fire up your internal creativity. What I love about 1 and 3 is the fabulous colors. The textures are also cool. And the bling/shine. Many of the yarns have metallic threads and tiny sequins. There are also metallic threads. And of course most beads have at least some shine to them. Crayola for kids and expensive brands now make Metallic and Glitter watercolors and color pencils. I don't know if Red Heart has discontinued their great Boutique yarns. When I purchased many years ago they were awesome. But It's a company to start with. Just a few things that you might look into if you love color, textures and playing like a kid again. And like me need to use the creative side of your brain. I had totally lost all creativity. That part of my brain was dormant for so long.
  27. 1 point
    How about finding an online social media site were people bitch about Christianism and Religiosity? No. That's lame. Never mind.
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    Cheers again for the warm responses and to update, I'm doing better and alive. I am back enjoying things and active. I still feel occasional guilt and sorrow for not having that fatherly like connection but through Christianity and coming down from it I have came to know myself even more and my place in the world, and the wisdom I have received I am able to apply that in my life and I know how people work better. The fear of hell is not as bad and I dont feel as condemned, I start to think critically about things. For example why did God draw me to his son and gave me faith if he knew I was going turn my way and leave the faith 4 months later? If there's a judgement day I would ask that question because the bible says only the father can draw someone to being a Christian.. and there are other things I am starting to find confusing aswell. To be honest lately hell seems better than nothing at all for eternity. I still fear death like everyone does naturally but I am more focused on my own life than death.
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  30. 1 point
    It would appear that Jesus doesn't make people all that happy.
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    Margee said "fuck off." *hides under my tiny umbrella*
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    Regarding the "safe space." Everybody here has come out of Christianity. Most were harmed in some way. The majority of Ex-Christians not surprisingly want to question why someone would leave one magical system that lacks evidence and move to another. Everybody is recovering and everybody has to figure it out. Those questioning or even challenging "spiritual paths" that just don't happen to be Christianity also would like to find out what's going on with others and why. Faith has left a bad taste because it is nothing more than belief without, or in spite of, evidence. The majority are not okay with that and it is inevitable that challenges will arise. Try not to overreact.
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