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  1. If believers only knew how many other cultures had this same story, almost exactly, and long before the Israelites picked it up and added it to their folklore. Many of the OT bible stories were taken from other ancient cultures myths.
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  2. Good for being aware of focusing on your breath. I was going to add a YouTube link for you, but no success. Anyway, check out Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn's Introduction to Meditation. My depression and anxiety are under control largely to Kabat-Zinn's Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction. What I like about his teaching is that it's scientifically based and not woo-woo stuff. I bought his books on Audible and find his guided meditation very helpful. Keep focusing on your breath. FTNZ is right, "This too shall pass."
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  3. you go girl! you are in control of your own life, and if someone is gonna try to control your life for you, you need to get out of that scenario ASAP. you deserve to be happy! this is gonna really suck going through all this drama, but it will be worth it in the end! we are all supporting you and whatever you do dont give up!
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  4. Great story. Keep up the progress of getting rid of this fake idea of God from your head. It is a long hard road but it seems like you are doing great!!
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  5. Praise science! I'm so glad you are okay. You would have died if you let that go too much longer. Get some good rest and have sweet dreams.
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  6. zomberina, Thanks for posting this insightful essay. You make the case clearly and convincingly. The following paragraph illustrates it quite well. The example of the predator and the prey is disturbing. "It is akin to a pick up artist at a bar, trying to find an emotionally vulnerable woman he can proceed to lay out all his accomplishments to while gently pointing out his target's failures. Ironically, this stands a chance of elevating his desirability as a role model in the victim's eyes, hopefully eliciting a knee jerk response to want to prove she is worth his interest." Aga
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  7. Have you seen the film "Miss Representation"? It is on Netflix. I watched it last weekend. It touches on some of the issues covered in your post. It's not just rap and hip hop. Other genres have that weird sexist thing going on. It's just more overt in hip hop and rap, imho. There are cultural reasons for it and they run pretty deep. I think that the outright sexism and misogyny found in popular music speaks to something deeper having run amok in our modern culture. What's wrong with America that our artists and musicians are putting out such content? It's not a lack of Jesus per se bu
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  8. If there is a God, he/she/it/they took notice of your humanity vs. their elitism and shut that ridiculous place down for you.
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  9. Ecclesiastes is my favourite book of the Bible, and the only one that's even worth reading. Obviously, I don't take it literally, but do find it interesting that literature written over 2000 years ago reads like it could have been written today. In my opinion, the book ends at 12:8, with the rest of it being "filler", because the original ending is so sad. But I have given thought to trying to figure out from the book of Ecclesiastes, what are the "commandments of God" that the ending could be talking about. The only thread that seems to be that common is enjoying your food, drink, wife, labo
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  10. "Being honest with myself" is such an important thing to grasp and practice. I used to rely heavily on the opinions of others. I used to accept stuff without much questioning because I had been convinced by 'people who know better' that god is real, jesus is real and so on and so on. I preached this stuff because I believed it. Then I woke up and had to come to terms with my previous nonsense. I had to work at 'being honest with myself'. That is what brought joy and a sense of freedom.
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  11. “No. "Unbelief" is honesty. "Doubt" is the path to unbelief and honesty, but that path is often not traveled due to the fear instilled by the religion itself. The meme of Christianity has evolved to continue to exist by overtly stating that doubt is caused by external, evil forces...” My period of doubt ended after I read a passage in a book that convincingly made the case that the world works exactly as it would if there were no benevolent deity overseeing and intervening. This realization turned my doubt into unbelief. Being honest with myself required it. At a certain point,
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  12. If there is one message I want to get across to newer members is, leaving religion isn't the end of the road. You must abandon your tendency to gravitate towards one ideology or another, you must mentally stand on your own.
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  13. This is so profound for me, in that I've not considered the "bundle" idea. You're right, we do accept the "package." I've come to the conclusion, even though my deconversion and recovery from religion is still ongoing, that I'm not interested in "peddlers of hate" from any organization. On the atheist side as well of the Christian side, there are plenty of those. At this point, I just want to live in peace, and enjoy what life I have left. I've give too much, for too long, to those with agendas that don't match my own. Gone are the days of meekly swallowing the bullshit, just to be
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  14. Good posts and very relevant for today's culture. When I left religion I didn't, and haven't, acquiesced to being pressured into joining all the nonreligious atheists causes, political movements, and general mindset. As a Christian I was a political conservative. When I left religion I didn't become a political flame throwing liberal. I still tend to be more politically conservative than liberal, except for social issues. I am a social liberal. I see no conflict in holding both conservative and liberal views because neither view has all the right solutions. Once you id
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  15. I'm convinced that the New Testament version of Satan is adapted from Angra Mainyu, the "evil god" that the Zoroastrians believe in. In the OT, Yahweh has no enemies with supernatural power. By the time of the NT, the Jews apparently believed Satan was nearly a god. Well, he was a god, but they couldn't admit that because there was supposedly only one god. But having been in Persian captivity, they borrowed the idea of a nemesis for the good god (Yahweh for them, Ahura Mazda for the Zoroastrians) and assigned it to "The Satan" (translation: "The Adversary"), whom they'd heard of in the book of
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  16. At the time 2 Timothy was written, the only scriptures that existed were the ones that make up the old testament. So, its not possible that the new testament would be included as part of this scripture. Another mistake often made by Christians.
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  17. A facebook friend (and Methodist minister) recently posted something to the effect of "'Thy Will Be Done' -- the prayer that never fails." She clearly didn't understand how ironic that is. If this god were real, it would be his ultimate "get out of all responsibility" card. What it really is, is the best way for a person to ignore any cognitive dissonance they may experience. Another thing I've noticed is people who have a lot of problems, after they've described the latest serious difficulty in their life, adding "God is good all the time, and all the time God is good." Really? Th
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  18. I was the same kind of Christian. There’s a book called “When God Talks Back” by cultural anthropologist TM Luhrmann. It’s about people like us!
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  19. @hockeyfan70 Search Yoga for Adriene on YouTube. Her vids so far have been pretty great.
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  20. How utterly sad. How heartbreaking this is. So tragic. This story of Scott is the epitome of a human brain that had snapped and only saw hopelessness in those last days. Death would become the only way out of the pain. He had no hope left and he didn't want his wife to have any either. For whatever reason, maybe his hopelessness and depression had caused her to want to begin another life and he wasn't going to let her. Maybe she just wanted to move on because the relationship wasn't working? But whatever, his sick brain said 'no' to her. So he took her to. Heartbreak can cause its' own mental
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  21. Thanks, I still have a bit more to go. I will update the post later tonight to finish the summary (It was getting late last night so I decided to save where I was at and continue from there). If you look here this time tomorrow there'll probably be a few more paragraphs (if that is of interest to you). I'm a fan of Price. I've spent a lot of time listening to his podcast the Bible Geek, and I've listened to a few of his debates and the biggest takeaway that I have of his is that he is like a fountain of knowledge. He's read extensively and it shows. With regards to what you said. I
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  22. Keep up the good work JA! I'm down 70lbs as well since last April, and still going strong. Never give up!
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  23. Thanks very much Travi and rjn for your comments, today. So true, Travi. It's interesting how some people treat you differently in life depending on your label. I think our differences are what makes life interesting. @ rjn, yes, that's exactly it. I'm aware of what the Bible has to say on certain subjects, but God is a loving God to me, and we are not to use the Bible as a tool to condemn someone else, that's how I see things now. Now that I ever condemned anyone before lol But, my faith is about a purity in Jesus, and not about doctrines and dogmas that are what led me away from the faith i
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  24. Hugs. Would seeing your therapist or doctor be an option? It can be a good idea to let your BF and anyone who is around you day to day know you're concerned about getting unwell, so they can keep an eye on you. Chances are you will be fine, but having a plan and a check up might give some reassurance. A good therapist can help you plan ahead and have written down what you would like to see happen if things changed. Good luck, and hang in there. "This too shall pass".
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  25. I can so identify with you Flower. It's psychologically unhealthy to live the Christian life - all that fear and trembling and anxiety! Who wants to live like that? Brainwashed people, that's who! I lived that way for 59 years! No more! Peace be with you, babe!
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  26. People like her actually don't change. You might be interested in researching narcissistic personality disorder. These types of people just change partners. It may seem that she is drama free, but trust me...people who use others, just don't magically stop one day. You should not allow yourself to know anything going on in her life, go no contact. By no contact, this means do not ask others about her, do not allow others to talk to you about her, and do not lurk on her facebook or any other social media. This is to bring healing to yourself. You haven't healed from this yet, but when you do...
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  27. It's interesting how we convince ourselves that when family rages at us and tries to control us, that they love us. I too grew up in a very dysfunctional home, and while things are much better between my dad and me now, I don't settle for crappy behaviors from him or anyone else. Giving you hugs, and be brave and I hope that things work out for you.
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  28. i wouldnt judge you no matter where you stand spiritually. Whatever is right for you, go for it. No one should ever judge someone or look down on them for having a faith they don't agree with. that's just plain stupid. we all got our own opinions here, but we arent looking to single anyone out.
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  29. I am glad to see you are strong and you are trying to move on. Like you i realized life is tough sometimes and putting a "religious patch" on the problems life dishes out just wont work. Actually, it seems to make it harder. You are doing great. Keep progressing like you are doing.
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  30. The footprints in the sand are yours. Your foundation is the values that you have and the identity that you build for yourself. That has always been the case. The only thing that's changed is that you now realize it. Keep going - eventually you will discover what you want to do with your life an studies and you will build further from there. As to loneliness, I'm afraid the only cure for that is to develop a circle of friends and (if possible - depending on your circumstances) to get back in touch with your family.
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  31. I just want to bless the Lard for you, Sister! Glory!
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  32. You are sooooo right about the on the edge behavior that happens around Easter. On "Good Friday" I had a co worker, on my personal Facebook "sadden" that my daughter might marry her girlfriend and made it clear how bad this would be. I have learned not to counterattack in these circumstances; it just escalates things and gives them a standing (in there mind) of being attacked and "persecuted". So instead, i wrote a paragraph directed toward both of my kids and their SOs assuring them that they were very special, that they were not to allow anyone to make them feel or believe otherwise, an
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  33. I'm a people pleaser to a fault. Yuna, I so very much resonate with that sentence. It took me forever to realize that because I was so busy running after everyone else's preferences, I literally had zero idea what my preferences were. Being comfortable, and confident, in your own skin can be so difficult. I haven't really started wearing mine until the last four or five years now. And with that ownership came a whole other level of confidence that I really didn't even think I deserved to enjoy because of all my mistakes and imperfections. I'm so glad I started hanging out on this website a
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  34. Haha, it didn't even cross my mind that my story could inspire anyone, but if it does, all the better. You're probably right, too - the more I think of it, the more grateful I am that he went ahead and did it. And yes, I won't be missing any check-ups anymore, I learned my lesson! I also already scheduled more appointments for much less acute tooth problems I know I have, and I'm looking forward to discovering whether I'm even phobic anymore after this extreme shock treatment.
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  35. Wow, if ever there was a story that can get people to the dentist regularly, this is it. I think he knew it could/would be very painful, but he didn't want to risk your life by any delay in getting you to the hospital. I'm so glad it turned out ok in the end. Dental check up every 12 months from now on then?
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  36. Wow. Thanks for sharing. I can really relate because I too suffer from mental illness (bipolar disorder and BPD) and I too have attempted suicide multiple times. I wrote about it here: http://smokeyinthebox.com/thoughts-suicide/ I totally agree that the mental health system in this country needs improvement. But I have to say that I am getting excellent care right now.
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  37. hi rach, I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering so much distress. Are you not leaving the house at all now? How soon will your a-mum's religious be over with? What sort of coping techniques have you used in past situations, to help you get through? Is there anyone at all, or some support (crisis) telephone number you can call, so you can talk with someone when you feel like your situation is too much to bear? (Please keep reaching out here for support also.) I wish you peace. Human
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  38. Jaded, I feel you on the positive reinforcement. It's hard to do that when all you want to do is see that number on the scale go down for the reinforcement. I think you should start taking some encouragement in the changes you are making for starters. That isn't anything easy. I will tell you this. I tried the lower cal sodas. They made me crave even more than just skipping or substituting coffee instead. I also made certain times of day off limits for consumption. I don't know if it will work for you, but you might try that. But yes, baby steps pay off in the long run. That's why I focuse
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  39. Very good post D! I agree. But, sometimes I wonder if the journey isn't necessarily a destination, but just to stay away or go somewhere else. Its like your time as a Christian was like you moved to a new city. It was originally seen by you to be a strong, prosperous city that you happily lived in and were glad to be a part of. But slowly and surely, the city began to have issues and you became disconcerted with everything you trusted and your happiness left you. The city that used to be a monument to the joy and happiness that christianity brought to your life became just a wasteland of f
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  40. I share your angst. Am I idealistic to believe that if every child were taught and modeled Humanism, popular sentiment and society would be different? People of all genders and orientations and lifestyles would treat one another with respect, equality, and compassion. Maybe I'm an anomaly in believing in that. If we honor Humanity and demonstrate that to one another, little by little, more people will see what they have rather than what they don't have. They will see who they are rather than you they are not. And maybe we won't ever see the entire society change. But we will see individual min
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  41. zomberina, You've described very well. It took me several months after walking away from the church culture, to delete all the church people from my fb friends list. I do understand the addictive aspect of the religious experience. I wonder that I did what seven77 did, examining the faith all the way to its end and then coming out the other side, all in an effort to stay ahead of the addiction. Otherwise, I would still be in that former mindset and environment, smoking the holy crack. Peace, Human
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  42. Messianics (the branch of the Christ-cult I was involved in) find such preaching to be, well, disgusting. It's a sign of someone not being properly "intellectual" or something like that. They believe that if a person is talked into faith, they can be talked of it. So they rarely evangelize or anything like that. Yeshua (Jesus) will draw people to His holy presence through you (or sometimes via the Spirit). That's one of the things I liked about the church I attended. No preaching, no evangelism, no altar calls. Either you believe in the message due to its perceived merit or you don't. Case
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  43. Church signs make me laugh too. They can also piss me off. I've heard that insipid saying before about doing your best and God doing the rest. My ass. In my experience as a Christian, my best was never good enough for God. I continually fell short of his standards and Jesus' death on the cross really didn't save me after all. So God wasn't required to do the rest for me. Only the good little lemmings got to be around the caring, loving, happy, helping hands version of God who listened to their problems and helped them. Me, I got to do it all on my own, then listen to his self-righteous
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  44. Bah. Any scientist that tries to prove Creationism or Intelligent Design needs to have their heads examined. Creationism is flawed because it is based on a theory that some guy pulled out of his ass (sorry, bible) in the 15 or 1600s. We don't need to look any further than that to dismiss it. ID proponents have come up with all sorts of neatly packaged hypothesis, but none of them are workable for the reasons you mentioned. Flawed methodology, falsifiability issues, assumptions, assertions, deliberate misinterpretation, twisting of words, moving of goalposts, etc.
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  45. I like this entry. However I like to keep things simple. When I encounter the "You can't know for sure . . . " line I simply repeat it back except I replace "God" or "deity" with Superman. God is a specific fiction that humans dreamed up. If there were strange beings somewhere in the multiverse and these beings shared a few traits humans gave God that would be a coincidence.
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  46. I think zomberina, you can be proud of yourself to have had the courage to let your daughters go for those five years in order to be able to face your own issues. So many parents just try to keep on the smiles and not even realizing it is not doing any good to their kids. Like my adopting parents who to this day are not able to communicate the most trivial things like what time they wanted to leave the house for a vacation. And meanwhile they pretend as if they had been the best parents who did everything right and don't realize how damaging that is not only to me but themselves as well. Make
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  47. Well, you are not rejected here. Thank you for sharing this.
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  48. Want to try and cheer you up a bit but I honestly don't know what to say... so...
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  49. "Only the unborn is deathless. Find what is it that never sleeps and never wakes, and whose pale reflection is our sense of 'I'."
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  50. Oh my gawd.....THAT would be soooooooo fun!!! P.S. (I almost got my husband deconverted too!! shhhhhh...... he dosen't know it yet.... ) .... then we could all have a big 'non-believing' bar-b-que together!!!
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