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Astreja last won the day on November 27

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About Astreja

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  • Birthday 08/07/1957

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    Winnipeg, Canada
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    Music, writing, gardening, meadmaking, astronomy, sleight-of-hand
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    I'm a cranky and eccentric polymath who, for most of her life, has had a morbid fascination with religion and society.

    If you talk to the left hemisphere of my brain you'll get a skeptical, science-friendly humanist who periodically engages in activism -- I have broken a metatarsal bone in a five-mile protest march; yelled at a prime minister; waved gay-rights signage; and videotaped Laura Secord's cow at Portage and Main.

    If you talk to the right hemisphere, I'll cheerfully tell you that I hang out with the Æsir and Vanir; that my older sister is the Bodhisattva Guan Shi Yin; and that my guardian dragon would like another coffee and donut, please.

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    Humanist and agnostic polyatheist

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  1. Dialogue needs a lot of work - it's stilted and unnatural. People just don't talk like that.
  2. Then you have absolutely no grounds whatsoever for raising the slightest objection to me saying "Oh, do shove that attitude of yours up the Holy Spook's ass."
  3. I'll say this elsewhere. Thanks.

  4. Have you ever tried mindfulness meditation? You can start with something simple, like closing your eyes and just observing your breath going in and out. Try it for 15 seconds, then a minute, then longer, and when your mind wanders and you become aware of it wandering, just go back to watching your breathing. It's an excellent way to stay in the moment, and it does gradually get easier.
  5. Why? I just don't get this. Really, I don't. Why such an all-or-nothing perspective on gender and personality? I just want simple civility without an agenda. And, getting back to the OP, please don't bother following me.
  6. Thank you for that. Yes, the experience has been very positive, like getting a second chance at life. I'm actually very good at compromising, and accepting valid criticism. Win-win situations are my gold standard, and owning up to mistakes and fixing them is integral to the way I roll. Sometimes, though, the dynamic is so biased in favour of one person or the other, not just once but over an extended period of time, that one person does all the giving and the other does all the taking. That, IMO, is where trauma is actually created -- in the wearing-down of
  7. If you want respect, you need to give it. I find the bolded statement utterly reprehensible.
  8. And dumping someone who demonizes one's sexual orientation fulfills the goal of lessening that suffering. Speaking for myself, I flat-out refuse to cultivate relationships with people whose views I find abhorrent. Why bother, when I could spend that time hanging out with people who accept me as I am? Why bother, when I know I'd be happier alone than with them? A personal anecdote to explain where I'm coming from: I spent 26 years with someone who wanted to do a Pygmalion number on me, usurping my free time, sponging off my paycheque rather than contributing
  9. That's why severing ties with a stressor is so important. Allergy? Stay out of areas where there's a high concentration of the allergen until you've undergone a course of desensitization treatment. An upsetting situation triggers a fight-or-flight reaction? Put some distance between yourself and the trigger event or person and then work on your sensitivity, if you want to do so. Not everyone wants to forgive and forget. Some of us deal with a problem individual by walking away and never going back; some of us deal with it by evicting the troublemaker from our space and making
  10. There is nothing whatsoever wrong with the reason being in one's head, or the reaction being due to sensitivity. "You're too sensitive" is a trope regularly used by abusive people to deflect the fallout when their victims react to how they're being treated.
  11. This, right here, is IMO a sufficient reason to keep him blocked. If it feels like a personal attack to you, it is a personal attack.
  12. On the contrary, I suspect I understand Christianity far better than you do. I began to distance myself from it back in 1964, after reading the Bible, whereas you're still stuck in mythological quicksand. Jesus is just one potential role model, and far from the best of the lot. Even as a seven-year-old I found the character uninspiring and drab, and derived vastly more benefit, happiness and meaning from being a Beatles and Mercury and Apollo program and The Man from Uncle and Batman fangrrl in the same time period.
  13. No, Christianchat_chatbot, "Jesus" is not perfect. That's just a story you tell one another so that you can justify the hideously immoral things you say about your fellow travellers on Earth -- creating a false dichotomy of a fake saviour with fake perfection versus real people with real (and frequently endearing) character flaws. If you want to talk to imaginary friends, knock yourself out -- but don't expect us to take you seriously.
  14. We're talking about our experiences. Sometimes that requires talking about what we *used to believe* and sharing the observations and emotions that ensued as it all came crumbling down. I think you need to lose your faith, so that you'll have a better understanding of what this site is about, and why we're here. In fact, I think the demise of your faith should begin right... about... now. (clicks stopwatch) I hope you realize that by hanging out here, you're vastly more likely to lose your faith than we are to regain it. As the saying goes: "What has bee
  15. I do hope you prayed for something sensible, like good health and prosperity. Because if you prayed for something stupid, such as petitioning your god to make us believe, that prayer has now been intercepted, modified, and forwarded to a select collection of deities. (FYI, the gods on call for the week of October 5-11 are Cthulhu, Sarasvati, Tyr, Juno and Anubis.)
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