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BendyLine last won the day on August 4 2013

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?

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  1. Good therapists are hard to come by. I was very lucky to find one about three years ago that had worked with former cult members, and was very sympathetic towards my feelings about religion. She really helped me process a lot of my feelings, but unfortunately, she died in a car accident a few months ago. (Because of that I am reluctant to seek another one, but that's a different story.) Sometimes it takes a few sessions to "click" with a therapist. But if you feel like your therapist isn't the right fit for you, please don't be afraid to look for another one.
  2. I can relate to that. And for me, that's saying something. But I'm not sorry I went through it, because life is much better without it.
  3. Circes, I don't have much productive to add, but I just wanted to say that I've been following this topic and I'm rooting for you. Please don't be afraid to advocate for your happiness, whatever that looks like.
  4. I fucking love that album. It came out a bit after I deconverted, but really helped me process a lot of my feelings.
  5. I used to miss it. Like you, my deconversion was long and drawn out. I spent quite a few years trying to find some form of Christianity that "worked". As someone with disabilities, I was afraid to give up the "safety net" of having a God watching my back. So it was complicated. But I eventually found that the negatives far outweighed the positives. I had a terrible self-esteem problem (to the point of being suicidal) that Christianity made much worse. I think that's why I don't miss it anymore; being able to love myself is so much easier without being told that I'm a rotten undeserving person by default.
  6. Welcome! I can relate to your story. If someone had told me a few years ago that I'd be an atheist, I would have either been scared out of my mind or laughed in their face. The good news is that it all gets easier. While losing my faith was one of the most difficult things I've ever gone through, I feel so much better off on the other side. I guess the best advice I can give you is to find some like-minded people to help you cope. For a lot of folks, leaving Christianity is heartbreaking, and it helps to have people to talk to who understand. There are plenty of private Facebook communities for ex-Christians around these days; you can PM me if you're interested. And of course this website is a great place to start too. I've met people here that have become wonderful IRL friends over the past few years. Also, I'd like to plug the blog of a friend of mine: www.godlessindixie.com. Neil writes about being a nonbeliever in the Bible Belt, but even if you don't live there it's good stuff if you're surrounded by Christians. While it is an atheist blog, he's good about not treating Christians like idiots (something I find pretty distasteful, since I used to be one myself).
  7. Sometimes non-believers who lean towards atheism can get a little nasty towards people who question xtianity but stick with some form of spirituality. For people who used to be religious and are still processing through the crap, it can be a sore spot. And people who grew up without religion sometimes have a hard time relating to people who were raised in it. I mean, there's a reason the spirituality section on this forum is so heavily moderated here. Whatever the case, keep searching wherever you need to search and don't let the jerks get you down. (And it sounds like you don't need to be told any of this stuff by me.) I really did miss God for years, even when I still believed in one. It probably had a lot to do with the way I coped with being disabled. I've always had a lot of uncertainty in my life, and belief in a God who was watching out for me was a great comfort. It was hard giving up the idea of a safety net. But for me, that safety net came at the cost of my self-esteem. I really felt like I couldn't do anything for myself without God's help. Anyway, I'm rambling and I don't know that any of that stuff applies to your situation. Whatever the case, good luck with your journey, wherever it takes you.
  8. Hey Tom! Thanks for your post. Your post brings back a lot of memories. While I did have some bad experiences that helped me along into asking the tough questions, it was asking the tough questions that finally killed my faith. It was a heartbreaking experience, but I'm so happy I'm on the other side. Looking forward to reading more of your journey!
  9. It's only natural to mourn. I like to compare my deconversion to a bad breakup. It was sad to let go, and I needed time to grieve, but in the end I'm better off. Things will get better.
  10. Becks, I promise you it gets better. It's always a little sad at first; but most people end up thriving after going through a sort of "mourning period". Meanwhile, this is a good place to find support among like-minded individuals. Love and peace, my friend. And welcome.
  11. Love you, Margee. You are a treasure.
  12. Isn't there a bit in Matthew about not praying in the street like the hypocrites?
  13. I think they made it that way because people were trolling that section of the board. While I'm through with spirituality myself, I think it's a good thing for people to have a safe space to explore it without being ripped on by atheists. I mean, there are plenty of other places to rip on spirituality within this forum.
  14. Does that affect his opinion or crazy smile in some way? is it bad to be gay in your eyes? No, I honestly believe he's a closeted gay man. I don't really have anything against him (his comedy is... not great, and I've heard some people say it's kind of sexist), but as far as Christian entertainers go, he's relatively benign. He just fits the stereotype.
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