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new2me last won the day on February 25 2013

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    support from fellow de-converting Christians
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    My extimony: http://www.ex-christian.net/topic/53936-i-am-a-monkey-girl/

    While I always had some questions about the "why's" of Christianity, the first big chink in the armor was reading the book "Monkey Girl" and finally realizing that God did not create humans... we evolved from primates. More research, and an underlying sense of "this just doesn't add up" led me to abandon Christianity. This all culminated this year. I am so glad I found this forum because I would love to connect with other atheists to bounce ideas off of and learn how they have dealt with the problems I am also wrestling with.

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  1. I remember young women in church who talked about how they felt they would not live to see old age. Usually it was because they were certain that Jesus would return before they would reach old age, not because they expected to suddenly die. As far as I know, all of those ladies are still quite alive right now. But if enough Christians express their "knowledge" that they will die young, inevitably some of them will be right.
  2. Posted by a Catholic friend on FB: "I will not wash this McCoy jersey..... It has holy water on it from two masses that yielded two wins." All I can think is, "FUCK your imaginary magical friend and his magical water that can supposedly impact a stupid sports game that has no real meaning in this world, but has no power to actually cure the sick or improve anyone's real life suffering!" Geesh.
  3. I just watched this video. It is the same blatant emotional manipulation churches use to find people who are hurting and try to use their pain to suck them into the church. They're looking for people who don't have enough love in their life and are desperate for someone to love them, and they try to insinuate that they can only find that love from God. Better advice for those people who are experiencing that pain is to spend time with a qualified therapist so they can find ways to work through their issues and make positive changes in their lives. And I just loved how one of the points for women included that they were "more valuable than that score on a math test." Because of course women are bad at math. Note to women: don't buy into this bullshit!!!!!
  4. The thought of spanking an infant makes me want to throw up. I couldn't have done that to my babies. So glad you escaped Christianity and found us! Welcome to Ex-C.
  5. Nope, not disappointing at all. It sounds like you made the best call based on the information you have.
  6. Are you kidding? I was totally riveted! You are an excellent writer, clearly well-read, and I just loved the quotes you picked out to weave into the narrative. Welcome! I am so glad to have you here with us on this site.
  7. Welcome, Scottsman! You know this already, but I'll say it anyway... any friend who will ostracize you when they learn you are not a Christian is not a friend. Wave bye-bye to those people in your life. It's good that you're making plans to get out and make your own life. You are young. You will make new friends! Find some activities that you like outside of work, and you'll meet people there. I made a lot of new friends when I moved to a new place by playing volleyball. Your parents paid for your education, but they did not purchase your life choices with their tuition payments. You did not ask them to pay for this education, nor does it sound like you even wanted to attend that school. They got what they paid for when you got your diploma. You do not deserve to feel guilt about this. You seem like a strong person to be able to break out of religion despite your forceful indoctrination, and to speak your mind openly even under coercion. I know it will be difficult to deal with your family, but I suspect there will come a time when you won't be able to stop yourself from being honest with them about your non-belief. I know that the future all looks scary right now, but once you forge through, create your own life and become comfortable with yourself, I believe your esteem issues will diminish and your confidence will grow. I'll bet at that point, you'll start having more success with the ladies, too. I'm looking forward to hearing more from you!
  8. Welcome, FreeBTS! A year ago, I came to the conclusion, much like you did, that none of this mess called Christianity makes a bit of sense. The more I hang out here and the more I learn about all of the contradictions, absurdity, and outright lies that make up the Christian doctrine, the harder it is for me to understand how I ever believed any of it. My excuse is that I was brainwashed with it as a child, but I just did not adequately question it for a very long time. Good luck as you continue working through your questions and doubts. Go ahead and throw out a post with any concept that you're wrestling with - there are a lot of people here who can give you food for thought. My thought on the baptism is that you should come clean with your minister friend about your doubts before agreeing to be a godparent. Since I think a godparent is supposed to be one who provides spiritual guidance, you may not be in the right mindset to perform the role as he might have hoped. At least if you talk about it he'll have a chance to decide if someone else would be a better choice.
  9. Wow, Mycroft - it was very brave of you to step out and be real with your parents. It sounds like you handled this conversation very well. Stepping out for the night to allow them to deal with their own feelings was probably a very wise decision. You may be in for a bit of a bumpy ride over the next few weeks, but hopefully things will improve after the shock wears off. Welcome to the forum! There are lots of us here to help.
  10. The thought of death is unsettling for most people. For me, one of the most difficult parts of deconversion is the belief that this life is all that you get. I had been really looking forward to reuniting with my dear departed loved ones, to knowing the answer to all of life's questions, to exploring the vast universe and enjoying my glorified body. It sounded like great fun! The disappointment of giving up eternal "good times" is tempered by the fact that this life feels so much more important than it ever did while I was a Christian. I try my best not to waste my time feeling sad or stressed out. (I know, easier said than done!) I try to wring as much enjoyment and joy out of the precious moments that life provides every day. There is no "unforgiveable sin" because there is no such thing as "sin" and no one to forgive it. I know I can tell you this, but you may not be able to absorb it right now. However, once you really know this, I think the concept of hell will drift away and stop causing you anxiety. Read about the falseness of the Christian religion. Listen to (and read) Sam Harris, Christopher Hitchens, Richard Dawkins, and others present their eloquent arguments. I always highly recommend the YouTube series by Evid3nce and prplfox. Interact with the people here who have gone through the same things you are experiencing right now. Give yourself time. It is not easy to undo the brainwashing. You will get through this. We are here for you!
  11. Welcome, amateur! I can relate to a lot of what you've said. It was reading children's Bible stories that finally allowed that "still, small voice" of reason to whisper to me that none of the magic-y stuff in the Bible could possibly be true. And all of those vague rules, right?? You would think that an omnipotent, omnicient God - one who knows humans better than they know themselves - would be able to communicate more clearly to us. And if the message was getting misconstrued through the years somehow, that he'd figure out how to step in and clear things up. So, if God exists, either he can't do better, or he doesn't want to. An impotent God seems pathetic and mean - he expects us to be perfect, yet he is not perfect himself. An uninterested God is just cruel and heartless. A nonexistent God makes a lot more sense to me. Suddenly, all of the mental gymnastics are at an end.
  12. Glad to hear it, Duckie! I had been wondering how you were doing. Sounds like everything is moving in the right direction!
  13. Welcome, WaitingInfinity! I just love your story, and I love that you found us! Freedom and happiness. It just doesn't get better than that.
  14. Welcome, Dan! I, too, began to lose my faith in Christianity when confronted with the truth of evolution. It seems that my mind followed the same path of logic as you did when you began to wonder what in the Bible was true, if anything! And I have also come to the conclusion that I am really very confident that the God of the Bible does not exist. Hang out with us here for a while! We're all in this together.
  15. There are lots of folks here who don't identify as atheists. You'll "fit in" just fine here.
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