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Storm last won the day on February 19 2016

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About Storm

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  • Birthday May 22

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    I was a Christian for the majority of my life. I became really frustated by the church and its "teaching". I was a blind follower for a long time. I have realized many truths and they weren't found in the bible. I am learning a lot about myself and how I hope to live the rest of my days. Its a lot of hard work, but I am enjoying it for the most part.

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    My wife. She makes humans.

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  1. I am in the same boat. I go back and forth about how I feel about my leaving the faith, what I think about things and the certainty of uncertainty. I press on because I know I can't go back. TrueFreedom nailed it on the head and expressed what I was thinking too. The more you know the more you realize you don't know. Its a paradox for sure. But I would take that over Christianity and its black and white thinking and its "gotta have all the answers" mentality. You're doing well. Keep up the good work!
  2. People who care about you will challenge you when you're not doing good for yourself.
  3. "For God is not a God of disorder, but of peace..." 1 Corinthians 14:33 (NIV) Or if you like the KJV: "For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace..." If you're getting mixed messages, then you can't say its from God
  4. At the time 2 Timothy was written, the only scriptures that existed were the ones that make up the old testament. So, its not possible that the new testament would be included as part of this scripture. Another mistake often made by Christians.
  5. It sounds like a toss up between living arrangements. The existing arrangement with your mom isn't very healthy. So you're already in an unhealthy environment. How unhealthy would it be to just move and make the 11 year old deal with it until she's old enough to be in the drivers seat of making her own decisions? Do you think she'll throw such a fit that it will ruin your new relationship? The whole thing sounds like a double edged sword and the choice between a toss up of the lesser of two evils. So which one is the lesser evil? Its funny and ironic that to
  6. Well said Tin Man! I believe your post can definitely help someone.
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    I am glad to know you were testing me. I was starting to wonder...lol I love what I do and I do the best I can to help others. I agree that there are big issues with the way recovery is done. If I can help a handful of people make it without going the traditional route, I can hopefully start the seeds of change. Time will tell.
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    In my experience, too much emphasis has been placed on the experience, and not enough on the education. Too many sponsors who have recovered really have no idea how to help others, but they get instant "street cred" simply because they have been successful in their recovery. Ultimately they alienate their sponsees because they can't connect with them or they can't explain how they achieved their sobriety in any coherent way. There's really no criteria to be a sponsor other than your sobriety. This is a problem. Its also why when my state chose to start licensing individuals, using experience a
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    I have helped many people be successful in their recovery. I challenge a lot of common things taught in recovery. I know I have something to contribute, and I do contribute. Just because you or others think I am wrong doesn't mean anything. They are just opinions. Much of the research and therapies that are used in recovery were created and studied by people who weren't addicted to anything. So, that kind of speaks volumes about what non-addicted people can do for the recovery community. I know you know this already, but just because a lot of people think something doesn't make it
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    A lot of people I work with say that to me. I don't agree. I understand human behavior more than most of the people I encounter who are addicts. Their experience often gets in the way of their recovery. We are all human. We all experience life and we all cope with it in our own way. Some people make it harder by using substances. I don't need to use substances to experience life and to learn to live it as best I can. And I don't need to experience substance abuse to help you understand how to make your life better. I have empathy and understanding. That is more than enough.
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    Point for you and understood. A little education does the world good too, though
  12. Storm

    Secular Grace

    I think I would have to generally agree with you, End. I think that this current generation of individuals is working towards accepting life on life's terms and challenging the norms we have in society today. I have to say that its refreshing to see. Of course, people can and do take it too far at times, but I think the underlying message is getting across.
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    Only addiction I have experienced is to caffeine. Gave it up last year for the second time in my life. I was caffeine free for about 7 years until I started drinking tea again. Hated being a slave to it, so I gave it up again.
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    I get what your saying and I don't necessarily disagree. But as someone who works in the addictions treatment field, it is frustrating when people toss around those words with various definitions. Its much like the term spirituality. Its a loaded word and has numerous meanings and this broad application waters it down and makes it essentially meaningless in the big picture. Addiction is that same way. In the context of this discussion, I understand what you are referring to, but that doesn't make it less frustrating. I would like to point out that you seem to be using t
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    The evidence doesn't support an addictive personality. Your examples could be (and should be) classified as maladaptive behaviors. That isn't necessarily the same as an addiction. The research shows that there are common features among some of the people studied, but there are no features that are universal in all of them. Because of this lack of universality, there isn't a justification to label an addictive personality. Simply because someone used another maladaptive behavior to replace an existing one doesn't mean that there is an addictive personality. Like I mentioned upthread, we do what
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