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  1. RealityCheck

    Are atheists happy

    I've met horrible atheists at the same rate that I've met horrible Christians. I've also met people who were unhappy and disconnected on both sides. The reason you might notice that we seem unfulfilled is because we're open and honest about it. The last church I attended was filled to the brim with believers who's lives were not going anywhere. They were good at hiding this fact behind the veneer of God's timing, purpose, or some other nonsense. They weren't really allowed to display unhappiness or discontent. This frequently spilled out during prayer groups.
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    game changer

    I do have mixed feelings about AA, on the one hand, it helped one of my good friends quit his compulsive drinking. However, it replaced that addiction with a god one. I may not be an expert in psychology or addictions but I'd say that one is truly free from these ills until they are can stand on their own mentally. In other words, be able to operate without the crutches of either mind altering substances or mind altering imaginary friends.
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    From Christian to Pagan

    Greetings and welcome. You've started walking the path from Christianity and towards mental freedom. This route isn't straight but rather meanders around, forks off into dead ends, and you might have to backtrack. I can understand all the struggles that you are going through, I also understand the sense of loss. Even now I sometimes miss that church community and the positive (if few) aspects of the faith. However, revisiting my writings from the time and my mindset as a believer quickly dispels such feelings. I also always enjoy reading through people's blogs, every post is a paint stroke that creates an image of who they are. I think I will read yours when I get off work.
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    Why did she broke up with me in such a cruel and bad way?

    This person is showing signs or mental illness (bi-polar). The problem is, Christianity takes anyone who is prone the these conditions and makes them far worse. The form of rejection she is showing is especially despicable as she is hiding behind her god as an excuse rather then being direct. It's going to take time for your emotions to subside and you to come to terms with that. This of course will make the process of deconversion more difficult but thats what this community is for.
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    so sick of facebook :P

    Well, there isn't anything preventing you from deleting your profile.
  6. RealityCheck

    Verses that bug you in the bible

    Can't tell if that's a warning or some raunchy fanfic.
  7. RealityCheck

    Verses that bug you in the bible

    Psalms 137:9. "Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks." I need not elaborate on why this may disturb someone.
  8. RealityCheck

    First Christmas as Ex-C

    I merely see Christmas, or Xmas (or whatever you prefer to call it) as this background noise with Christian overtones. By this point (past the 6 year mark as an atheist), I have no religiously driven emotional connection to the holiday whatsoever. I think the goal for most of should be (or has been) eliminating the religious emotional substrate from all areas of our life, to uninstall the last traces of the god virus from our minds.
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    How did you choose your nickname?

    I chose my name because everything in my life up to this point, including the desertion of religion is one reality check after another.
  10. @Questioningone, see my PM.
  11. There is no transformation, as you experienced, Christians are subject to the same behaviors as nonbelievers. It's not to say that some people can't do good deeds in the name of their faith but so can atheists just for the sake of doing good. We can work and change ourselves by our own efforts, praying to a god isn't going to accomplish that. Don't feel frustrated, feel empowered. The type of person you want to be is in your own hands.
  12. I reread your post to be sure that I wasn't missing anything. It seems your primary focus was on how Christians treated you hence why people here might misinterpret your story. Fellowship or friendship, regardless of what your focus was you were still treated badly by fellow believers. This in itself poses a problem as people supposedly undergo sanctification (as per Presbyterian jargon), a transformation towards being more Christ like that never seems to happen. As far as inconsistencies in the bible, unanswered prayers, etc you aren't going to get many answers from them except for mental gymnastics. Christianity just fails at every possible level.
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    Drifted away from God

    Does it get better? The short answer is yes, the long answer is yes but it will take you time and mental deprogramming. You may or may not have to seek counseling to aid in this detox but that will be up to you.
  14. Questioningone, I see reflections of my own story with Christianity in your testimonial. I was sucked into the church at age 19 for the very same reason, because I wanted friends. Like you, I experienced all manner of rejection and pain merely for the crime of being myself, for not fitting into a certain mold. For almost 10 years I tried the same formula of wanting to fit into the church community and failed, suffering everything that you have. When you build relationships around the fairy tale of religion, expect those friendships to be as much of a fantasy. Now that I think about it, I didn't really have anything in common with those people and they weren't that great after stripping off the veneer of faith. Christians market themselves as the pinnacle of desirability when they actually rank near the bottom (with some exceptions of course). The friendships that I have now are concrete and based on real world dynamics and interests. I have had to learn to live and be fulfilled on my own before I got to that level, which seems like something you are aiming for. I do have a question though, how long have you been a non believer (or agnostic as your profile states)? Have you had time to explore interacting with others outside the church? I'm sorry that you're feeling as alone as you are.
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    Welcome to the site. During my time as a Christian I heard countless stories of these occurrences. Upon following up it always turned out that the person was lying or exaggerating the story to garner attention. There is also confirmation bias to consider, a person sees a coincidence as evidence for god's intervention. Other times key detains will be omitted from accounts, a cancer patient would be said to be "miraculously healed" but you will hear no mention of the medical attention they received. The best way to approach these claims is with skepticism, look further into these accounts and don't accept them at face value.