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  1. Well, which mod wants to do the deed and delete my profile?
  2. Also, I wish I could go back to 2012, before the filthy politics crept into the atheist community. Back then, the only time politics were mentioned was when Christians were trying to undermine the separation of church and state. The specter of social justice or left vs right wasn't really upon us and if present, was nothing but faint background noise. Of course, one cannot rewind back the clock in such a manner unless you had the power to put every atom, every particle, and every quantum state exactly where they were 7 years ago. There is one particular person, the very first atheist friend I had, even before I joined this site who I would not lose with careless words. She played a vital role in severing that last bit of attachment to my faith and hence how I started this journey. I drove her away with careless words unfortunately and I would have chosen them much better with my current wisdom. Hell, there are many people I drove away but now I see that it was an inevitable consequence of my personality and their personality. It was a rocky start indeed but still, I was at peace in the greater community then far more than I am now.
  3. I'm probably drawing this out more than necessary but I might as well get everything off my chest now while I still can. One thing that Ex-C has also taught me is that there is an immutable aspect of my nature. It is not in me to be a neutral, agreeable, moderate individual. Though I can suppress that for extended periods of time, eventually the polarizing side of me always wins. I have fought this for years and every time this has caused me to emotionally hurt someone, I've looked at myself with disgust. I don't have the energy to fight it anymore and thus, I choose to accept and embrace it. Because of that potential that still lies inside of me, the most caring action I can take is removing myself from the equation. The "tribe" that I mentioned in an earlier comment are people who can accept and work with that aspect of myself.
  4. @ag_NO_stic there isn't much I can say to your post that I haven't said in our last two years of conversations. I can agree with much of what you've said. It seems that you have also moved on from this website and are forging your own path. I'd like every new member (or lurker) reading this to take note, this fierce mental independence and resilience should be your end goal. Beware of dogmatic ideas that are no better than the religion you just left behind. Do not be emotionally dependent on the group, sure you can have friends but learn to stand on your own if necessary. Your mind is yours and yours alone.
  5. If someone makes their whole life about Jesus for example, is it possible to have a relationship with them? Do you really want to be around a person who brings up religion constantly? I certainly don't. This is also applicable to individuals who bring up racism, sexism, patriarchy, etc every other conversation. When a person's identity is tied to their ideology to such an extreme, ideas that are intellectually repugnant in my opinion, there can't be a normal relationship. It's like being around an alcoholic, sometimes they're normal but most of the time they're drunk and unruly. To be fair, a good portion of the members here are moderates but the overall climate leans left.
  6. I'm still here for a bit longer till I reply to some messages that I've been sent and wrap up all conversations. I understand that the recovery cycle is different for everyone. However, my personal advice is be aware of when each step of the process ends and you're ready to move on to the next. I wen't through an angry phase for example where I bashed Christianity and started many arguments/debates because of that anger. Eventually, I reached a point where I wasn't compelled to do that anymore because those feelings subsided but still did it anyways because I wanted approval and acceptance from my atheist community. Do not fall into that trap, it will impede your progress. Do not rehash that which you have moved on from. Most importantly, do not trade one set of dogmas for another, you will find many atheist hold on to other ideologies with the same adherence as they did religion. That's all I can say, good luck to both of you and thank you for those responses.
  7. This post has been a long time coming, I feel it to be a necessity in order for me to truly move on. I joined this site June of 2013 and it served as a new community after severing ties with my church circles. Over time, I've talked to some incredible people, some I've had the privilege of meeting in person. I've even found relationships here, twice, something that I didn't expect from a forum of this nature. That's not to say that I've gotten along with everyone but that's inevitable when you gather many individuals with separate life experiences all in one place. Many who were with me on this journey are now long gone from the site and thus, perhaps it's time I follow in their footsteps. There are several reasons why I'm choosing this route. I see this site as a sort of medicine, a kind or treatment for people who have been negatively affected by Christianity. I'm at the point where I hardly think about it in a daily basis, the days where I was a church drone are in the distant past now as well as any residual emotions that came along with them. I think it is safe to say that I have completed the recovery cycle and have moved on to other things, other groups, other interests, etc. There is no sense in continuing to take the medicine if you aren't afflicted with the condition it was intended to heal. There is nothing more that I can gain from this site or contribute. Sure, I might encourage new non believers here every once in a while but there are those here who feel more passionate about it and thus will do a much better job than me. On top of this, an ideological rift has formed between me and the majority of the members here. I don't think these differences are reconcilable, the tribal nature of humanity precludes that from ever happening. I suppose that I've found my tribe elsewhere at this point. I would like to thank everyone who recently commented on the thread where my father passed away. I much appreciate the advice and encouragement. The same goes for everyone who is still reading me and have done the same in other instances. Right now I will reach out and say my goodbyes to some of the members here via PM. Once they all reply, I will ask Margee or one of the mods to permanently delete my profile. Anyways, that is all I have to say for now.
  8. I burned my bible while taking the lord's name in vein. To those of you on the fence, try this, you will see that god will neither strike you down or give a damn because he doesn't exists.
  9. There is nothing worse for mental illness than adding religion to the mix. I have some breathtakingly infuriating stories from my church telling it's members to get off their meds and avoid proper treatment which I've posted in other pasts of the forums. It's seems you can't communicate about this issue with your parents without their toxic Christian indoctrination. Do you have anyone else you can talk or other means of seeking help while you're back with them?
  10. People change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for worse. 20+ years will make a girl that you once fell in love with utterly unrecognizable, this is especially true if she's been infected by the god virus and possibly traumatized due to a horrible marriage. The past is something that's best put away, you're sacrificing romantic possibilities in the present for someone that for all intents and purposes is gone. The most amazing women in my life didn't show up till I was past 30 and I look at the people from high school with complete indifference now.
  11. Later in the bible, you'll find verses (Ezekiel 18:20) stating that the child shall not pay for the sins of the father. Not that it matters though as the whole book is one contradiction after another as anyone who's even casually studied it knows. The original writers of Genesis just needed a reason to state that we had a built in defect. Without this, they couldn't sell us their solution (atonement for sins) so thus, the concept of our sinful nature would have taken root. Christianity wouldn't have survived with the fear of hell dangling over it's believers and you will find that other successful religions tend to have some sort of punishment in the afterlife for not adhering to their rules.
  12. There is a new development now, that is my mother is starting to lose her mind. She claimed that my dad came and visited her today, she felt "a heavy presence" upon here. So yeah, something else for me to worry about.
  13. I remember when I was in a young adult prayer group. One of the guy's mother suddenly passed away and the pastor was formulating a strategy to witness to people in such a situation. I understand that some of these people are insatiable and have no shame whatsoever. Therefore I have to keep a close eye on the entire thing for such problematic individuals, the good news is that most of my father's friends aren't particularly religious. However, I don't want a repeat performance of my grandfather's service.
  14. Furthermore, my father despised religion, he was marginally catholic in is earlier days but then realized the absurdity of it all. He also saw enough of the world to realize that there is no god watching us. I know that he sighed in relief when I deconverted, happy that I left such absurdity behind. It would be a disgrace if there is another wannabe preacher in the service again.
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