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  1. Just because a person is an atheist/non religious doesn't mean that they're suitable to be a lifetime partner.  Likewise, just because a person is a Christian, doesn't mean that they're unsuitable.  If I had to commit to marriage I would rather have a faithful, stable, Christian wife than some of the individuals I've seen in the atheist community so far.  Of course, I don't know the whole story or what else could have gone into her decision (besides pressure from her Christian mother and her child).

    (Sorry, I meant to reply directly to your status but posted here by accident, I can't delete this now).

    1. Lost

      Lost

      Thank You for the reply Reality Check :)

       

      I don't know really details about this whole story. But I know and I always felt that this girl does not fit into Christian beliefs. During Christian home meetings she was asking many questions, just like me and she was reading lots of books (I am different, I hate reading).

       

      She was raised only by her single mother, cause her dad died, because of alcoholism. Her mother used to be an alcoholic, but Jesus saved her.

       

      I guess romance with a secular man (a little bit Catholic actually) disappointed her and maybe she started to feel hopeless with a whole perspective to raise a child alone.

      Here where I live, maybe there is 5 % of Protestants in my whole town. Maybe 5 groups that count around 30 people, SO I was hoping that there are some people who like me have doubts, are not afraid to admit it and I was hoping thst I'm not alone with my deconversion.

      I think that her  break from Christianity was not intellectual actually, so she easily was catch by goodness of Christian freinds and family that she always knew.

       

      Weird thing is that her cousin left church without a word and I have to admit that I was impressed and that gave me some hope that one day I will do the same.

       

      I thought that her cousin will influence her. And I thought that it happened...

       

      By the way...

       

      It made me kind of sad that what You wrote about some individuals from Atheist Community. If they are unstable and can not stay in a relationship for a long time...it sort of give Atheists a bad name.

       And yeah, people prefer to have morally good friends and family members, cause they are stable thanks to "God has everything under control".

       

      Christian partner better than a secular one? - good topic forb a new thread :)

    2. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Currently there are two Christian women in my life who if given a chance, I would date without hesitation.  They are both attractive, highly motivated, have much going for them, are uplifting, and most importantly they are stable.  I would date them over the atheists who wallow in cynicism, complacency, ect (although, I can't say I am without those faults myself).  They have exactly what I'm looking for in a partner and I'm willing to overlook belief differences.  Likewise, when I was a Christian I was very attracted to an atheist girl because I could be myself and free around her.  At the time, it was what I was looking for and what made me feel complete.  That was years ago however, and the atheist movement has been contaminated with self righteous justice warriors, identity politics, self victimization, and a whole other basket of ills that I find repugnant.  I can't be myself anymore without offending someone.  I'm also attracted to raw femininity which again, the atheist community seems to discourage.  The point I'm trying to make is that for many, a person's religion isn't the main factor in determining compatibility.  The perceptions in this forum are skewed because many have been hurt by Christianity and therefore cannot be with someone who embraces it.  I've been out of the faith for long enough that those wounds have healed and I can look at the world in a different perspective.

      While a Christian, I saw my peers dating secular individuals for a multitude of reasons.  I've also seen atheists do the same.  Your friend is dating a Christian man because he probably offers something that her atheist peers do not.  Maybe he offers her the security and stability that she lacked for most of her life.  Maybe he offers the love and affection she's been craving.  If that's the case, don't be disappointed or concerned.  Instead, be happy for her, maybe get a chance to meet this guy.  You may find the reason why she is attracted to him.  Maybe yes, she did leave Christianity for non-intellectual reasons or perhaps she is in a transitional phase like some people here.  I do wish her the best.

    3. Lost

      Lost

      Yeah, You are right :)

       

      I think that if these Christian girls that You know are notfundamental in their beliefs You have a chance to build with one of them a really great relationship.

       

      All the best for You in Your plans :)

  2. We have become our own Trumps building walls amongst ourselves.

    1. florduh

      florduh

      He certainly pushed a lot of buttons!

  3. Election night alcoholic beverage suggestions?

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    2. florduh

      florduh

      Heroin is probably the best choice for that particular evening. How much worse could it be, even if you overdose?

    3. Margee

      Margee

      florduh...Lmao! We will really need to get out of reality for a while, eh?

    4. Astreja

      Astreja

      Make a hot rum toddy with brown sugar, cinnamon, cloves and hot water.

  4. Solitude is like rust eating away at the pillar of my reasoning. I'm beginning to desire the community the church brought me once again.

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    2. florduh

      florduh

      There are so many secular communities one may join. They all are quite superior to any church. Join a bowling league, book club, photography club, take some adult education classes . . . . . . .

    3. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      I did the meetup.com thing and found that groups worth joining are two hours away on the mainland. Not feasible at the moment. All I have is co-workers who drink and lament.

    4. milesaway

      milesaway

      ooh, that's tough! are there others around you can get to know instead?

  5. Today I celebrate 4 years of freedom from religion.

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    2. Wings

      Wings

      Yay, good for you!

    3. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Though I want to move on, I still have the urge to stick around and encourage others.

    4. milesaway

      milesaway

      Yay! It's been 3 years since I walked out those doors, and yet it feels like a lifetime ago.

  6. "Violence never brings permanent peace. It solves no social problem: it merely creates new and more complicated ones. Violence is impractical because it is a descending spiral ending in destruction for all. It is immoral because it seeks to humiliate the opponent rather than win his understanding: it seeks to annihilate rather than convert. Violence is immoral because it thrives on hatred rather than love. It destroys community and makes brotherhood impossible. It leaves society in monolo...

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    2. Lilith666

      Lilith666

      So, what, SkipN? The Dallas shootings fixed police shootings?

    3. Deidre

      Deidre

      Violence has never solved a damn thing. If it did, there still wouldn't be endless violence.

    4. Deidre

      Deidre

      That's self defense, brah. Self defense is obviously different. Instinctive, even.

  7. By now you're all aware of the Orlando shooting. This hits very close to home, I lived there for years. I walked in the area where the incident occurred countless times. Furthermore, I'm not sure that everyone I know is okay...

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    2. Thurisaz

      Thurisaz

      *mockingly playing NRA freak* If only the victims would have had 20 guns per person, this wouldn't have happened!

      >.<

    3. milesaway

      milesaway

      i'm so happy to hear your friends are ok, and at the same time sorry for what you've all been through!

    4. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Thanks everyone. As far as I can tell, nobody that I know was directly affected.

  8. The end result of attempts to reflect upon my life is nihilism. That is all.

    1. TrueFreedom

      TrueFreedom

      The challenge lies in inspiring Sisyphus to smile.

    2. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Smile as I roll a boulder up a mountain for eternity? Okay...

    3. TrueFreedom
  9. It seems I'm atheist but leaning conservative (not on every issue). Well, I'm not winning popularity contests anytime soon...

    1. mymistake

      mymistake

      So? It's okay to disagree about things. Not the end of the world.

  10. I think I'm ready to move on from this site. Don't get me wrong, it's been extremely helpful and I've met countless amazing individuals. However, there are many reasons why I need to be gone, far too much to list on here. I ask TF or one of the other mods to delete my profile. Thank you all and farewell.

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    2. milesaway

      milesaway

      it was nice knowing you! hopefully we'll see you again sometime.

    3. yunea

      yunea

      All my best to you! Hugs!

    4. Ellinas
  11. Hell isn't a fiery afterlife. Hell exists in our minds when we experience fear, guilt, anger, and depression. Carefull with what you say and do, you never know who's emotions you'll set on fire. They might even be your own.

  12. "He that will not reason is a bigot; he that cannot reason is a fool; he that dares not reason is a slave." ~William Drummond

  13. Jesus puts the "mess" in "messiah"

    1. Helvetios

      Helvetios

      Wish I could 'like' this status. Instead I'll have to steal it. :)

  14. I'm living up to my user name and having a reality check. Being kind to others is something that should be done with caution. Acts of kindness tend to become a liability. Showing goodness towards others can come right back and bite you in the ass.

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    2. TrueFreedom

      TrueFreedom

      Being open and kind entails risk, but I'm willing to risk it, despite the likelihood of getting hurt.

    3. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      You're spot on Mequa. And TF, lets just say I won't be letting my guard down again.

    4. TrueFreedom

      TrueFreedom

      I'm sorry to hear that.

  15. Pensive is sometime synonymous with insomnia...

    1. Deidre

      Deidre

      hope you got some sleep :)

    2. RealityCheck
  16. Late night run, need to tire myself to sleep.

    1. Deidre
    2. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Did you ever restart that workout thread? I haven't really checked.

    3. RealityCheck
  17. There is a certain peace that comes when you know exactly who you are and what you stand for.

    1. Deidre

      Deidre

      hugs, very true.

  18. Completely at peace...

    1. Brother Jeff

      Brother Jeff

      That's awesome. Glad to hear it! The Lard's peace, which surpasses all understanding... Glory!

    2. Deidre

      Deidre

      That's great. :-)

    3. milesaway

      milesaway

      it's the only way to be, really.

  19. :(
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    2. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Just feel down about a few things.

    3. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Also, Im sorry your job stresses you out. I hope you can find something more fulfilling eventually.

    4. Deidre
  20. Sometimes you need to realize you're not equipped to help everyone. It doesn't mean you shouldn't try though, your actions and kindness will plant a seed in their minds and hearts. You man never see the fruit of what you've done, you man never see the end results. Being good just for the sake of goodness is the hardest but most compassionate of route to take.

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    2. RealityCheck

      RealityCheck

      Sorry if my grammar and spelling is causing confusion. Spell check on my phone sucks.

    3. moanareina

      moanareina

      I also think we can just relax because it is not our task to help everyone. Not even to try to. Though there are those opportunities where we can help others and when we do it is the best thing ever.

    4. RealityCheck
  21. It's easy to write certain people off. Life however, has taught me to look beyond the surface. Many individuals are going through struggles and issues that we're not aware of. Everyone deserves love, compassion, and understanding.

  22. Sending my positive thoughts to all you fellow Monday-phobics.

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    2. RealityCheck
    3. TrueFreedom
    4. crazyguy123

      crazyguy123

      The positive thoughts must have gotten lost in the mail because I certainly haven't received them.

       

      Mondays still suck.

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