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  1. It's alright. It wasn't like I was particularly devastated or anything, it was more of a WTF type of event.
  2. You can mitigate this on your browser by downloading the Facebook Purity plugin (yes, ironic name considering the situation). It completely eliminates those suggestions as well as other annoyances. There isn't really much you can do in the FB app though. I combine that with a healthy dose "friend" purges periodically.
  3. All relationships have some shitty risk involved. I don't really take myself too seriously anymore but rather enjoy them while they're exist and enjoy the single life when they don't. I also see you're from Belgium. I'm going to guess that Christianity there isn't as strict. Here in the US, every Church that I've been to has an aggressive altar call driving people to recommit their lives to God. This is why I had my bad experience to an otherwise positive relationship (albeit brief) relationship with a Christian woman back in 2013.
  4. I see nothing wrong with dating a Christian like the one you describe. Hell, there are plenty of Christian women I know like this that I would date in a heartbeat. It's just a matter of overcoming the annoying irrational holdovers from faith that will occasionally pop up. If the person has sufficient positive traits then it's worth it. However, from an experience that I had a few years ago, I must warn you. As long as the God virus is implanted in this person's brain, there will always be that risk of a sudden "revival" or "recommitment to God". If this happens then they'll likely brea
  5. The answer to this is simple. A Christian might be logically consistent in all areas of life. However, there is always that mental compartment that shields their faith from any form of scrutiny. In the case of prayer, it isn't about logic, it's about wrapping oneself in a blanket of false hope. Despite events transpiring exactly as they would regardless of prayer being uttered or not, a Christian's confirmation bias might interpret that outcome as answered prayer regardless.
  6. Sometimes we have to put beliefs away and just embrace our humanity. If someone's loved one is passing away, I'll say a prayer if asked. I understand that it won't change the outcome but at least it brings comfort to that person. If I among Christian friends and asked to say grace over a meal, I usually ask someone else to do it. I bow my head and stay quiet, seeing it as a mere formality. No need to ruin a hangout or create tension for no reason. This doesn't mean I won't stand up for my lack of faith when the time comes, I just rather pick and choose my battles.
  7. Another person I knew has a similar accident. She claimed that she saw angels dancing over her and it reinforced her faith. Fortunately you're still with us and did not have that reconversion inducing hallucination like her.
  8. Time is the only cure for bitterness in some circumstances. As you mature as a person, as more time elapses since your loss of faith, the feeling will subside. Eventually you will be free to feel joy, meaning, and purpose once again.
  9. I've come to the conclusion that the "voice of God" is but a rogue "agent" in a Christian's brain. See the following link, specifically the part describing level 3 sub personal agents. Those fit the bill nicely. http://meltingasphalt.com/neurons-gone-wild/
  10. I lost 10 years of my life and countless opportunities. I was so distracted by Christianity that it affected my performance in college, jobs, etc. The "Jesus will take care of everything" mentality was akin to being high on a drug, it killed all motivation. I lost my self esteem as well, that took years to rebuild after the fact. I count myself fortunate though. Some people are trapped in this loop for decades. Some are born into it. Some go from cradle to grave not knowing a single moment of true mental freedom.
  11. Although this is hurtful, it is necessary. Some of your decisions will inevitably distance your friends. This person doesn't seem very pleasant to be around with in the first place. You only have so much time in life to build meaningful friendships so let these people filter themselves out and focus on those who are worth it.
  12. When it comes to the basics (kindness, compassion, etc), everyone but the psychopathic outlier can agree. If you begin to zoom out to a more broader definition, most people here wont. Everyone believes that their ideology somehow promotes a greater good. The Christian will try imparting their faith on others because it's the right course of action. They are oblivious unintended consequences (as the stories in this forum show). The philanthropist may campaign to send food or clothing to an impoverished nation. This might cause a population explosion or destroy the local textile industry t
  13. So when does a person stop or start being good? One can do good deeds their entire life and one indiscriminate action can have them labeled as evil forever. Bad actions seem to carry far more weight than good ones so measuring this like a scale is meaningless. What about the following scenario? You are in the middle ages and your town is raided by some conquering army. You might consider the invader that decided to spare your life as good in relation to his peers who have been killing without mercy. Good is perhaps an irrelevant term, everyone is capable of beneficial or destructive acti
  14. This is a simple question. What do you really consider a good person?
  15. Does almost doing something weird count? I was almost convinced to walk into a strip joint blindfolded with a ministry to pray over the debauchery. Fortunately, even in my most batshit days, I had enough sense to abstain from that.
  16. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anno_Domini The BC/AD calendar system was devised centuries after Christ's supposed death.
  17. This site is a representation of some of the best and worst of human nature. It is just a reflection of the real world. That is all.
  18. First and foremost, do not focus on the world because in reality there isn't much you can do about it. You can't do anything about Brexit and you can't stop violent human nature. If you find a way to stop worrying about these, you will at least alleviate some of that psychological weight. As for your mother and your single status, these are factors in your life that you CAN control. I don't know the nuanced details of your situation so this is the extent of the advice I can offer. However, it does seem like you're falling into depression. I know from personal experience how that can g
  19. I ran into a few Baptist preachers back in the day that swore by the KJB alone. Their argument would fall apart when I brought up the issue of the Bible being translated into languages besides English. I suppose those who read the Santa Biblia are doomed because the translators weren't divinely guided or some other nonsense. Oh well, regardless it's a level of bullshit on top of another level of bullshit.
  20. Well, neither did I until I started contemplating how unnecessary the whole story of salvation is. But that is for another thread.
  21. I wasted my 20s on positive speech and thoughts. According to the narrative I was deluded in, it would have been enough to guarantee success. Funny how the most positive of believers were afflicted with the worse of circumstances. Words don't mean a damn thing in this world, only your actions count.
  22. Ask yourself this. Why would you want to stay anywhere if the only thing binding you is guilt? It seems like church has nothing to offer you except negative emotions.
  23. As a side note @shelleymak6376, I find your enthusiasm towards embracing this transition as refreshing.
  24. Take it from my personal experience. Embracing hate towards Christians or other groups who share a differing view will backfire and poison your mind. Unless they are attacking you personally or everything you hold dear, it is best to refrain from such emotions.
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