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Idontevenknow99

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About Idontevenknow99

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    I want to become a journalist someday.

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  1. Just to echo what others have said, I hope you can work things out. I've never been in this situation before, but I don't like seeing people split up. Yeah, hopefully things will turn out for the better. Wish you all the best.
  2. Xian memes and other propaganda stressing me out like a mofo! I'm just saddened to see people I care about be so biased and thick-headed.

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    3. TheRedneckProfessor

      TheRedneckProfessor

      Are you feeling any better today?

    4. Idontevenknow99

      Idontevenknow99

      Other than some other personal stuff going on, and final exams next week, I'm doing fine :)

  3. At the church I used to attend, they're all about the "come as you are" line when trying to recruit new members. It's the praise team (similiar to choir, or "praise band" whatever you want to call it) that I was worried about. It's like they secretly uphold this classist view of integrity. They make the praise team dress elaborate, like something so unnecessary, matching outfits every single service! My friend, who has been a part of the praise team for about three years now, she's always concerned about money and having to go out to buy some "fluorescent blue/hard-to-find shades of green" cardigans, camis, pants, you name it. It's ridiculous! Obviously, who ever is in charge of that has no empathy for people who might be on a tight budget. As if they have some ready-made wardrobe full of clothes. Very inconsiderate, and classist. All they care about is appearance.
  4. 1. "If you want to leave, just get up and leave...!" said one of the pastors in the middle of service when talking about members who grudgingly carry on, and stress over church affairs. I bet there were a lot of people in that congregation who secretly, somewhere deep down inside wanted to walk out. I mean, he invited people to just walk right out. Because let's face it, church can be stressful. For some churches, their leaders (or bosses) treat it like a second full-time job. But of course no one is actually going to just leave like that, it would be rude in their eyes. I would have left sooner if I had known any better. It's all just fear tactics to keep people whipped up into shape. They want you to forget that you have a choice, and instead keep you in a state of oblivion and false bliss. 2. "There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end therof are the ways of death." Proverbs 14:12; 16:25. I remember this being taught many, many times. I thought those "ways that seemeth right" were just my own reasoning and not the ones I later realized that I was programmed to think were the ways of God. Whose to say reasoning is a bad thing? That's called learning from trial and error, and this verse and the Christian thinking in me tried everything to avoid that. 3. "Quit your whining! It's not about you, it's about God!" Pretty self-explanatory. I hate hate hate hate this phrase.
  5. One of the things that brought me to question my faith was me worrying about somebody knowing something about me that I didn't know! Seriously, it's paranoia. You worry if people are looking inside your head, you worry if by any chance they're blaming you from something as outrageous as "sins of relatives who died generations ago." You don't know how accurately this depicts many Christians I've come across. Here, all this time I thought they were so called "gifts from the holy spirit." I think people just really want something they can call you out on. People wondering what you've done in the past. It literally drove me to tears. I was begging god to make everything that I had done, though harmless as it really was, vanish completely. Nobody really wants to get to know you. I find that too many people believe if they truly go after what they want in life, well they're too afraid to do it because of what their "god might think" a.k.a. other Christians. So much fear from a group that thinks their god has not given them a "spirit of fear." As long as you have their god in common, maybe their denomination, a few other traits you might share, that's all that matters.
  6. For me, it had nothing to do with contradictions in the bible, nor was it people. I just told myself, "I'm not growing from this." I wasn't getting anywhere. My beliefs held me back from a lot, so I didn't want anything to do with it anymore.
  7. Now I realize that almost everybody here felt alone when they were in the earlier stages of deconverting. I know I felt alone. I used to type in 'ex-Mormon' or other non-trinitarian, fundamentalist religions (and compare them) that were well-known for having ex-members, but Christianity? No way. I couldn't even bring myself to type it in the search bar until one day, I did a little more digging. I found Ex-Christian and lurked around for a few minutes, then left it alone. The next time I'd come back, it would be October and I've been a part of the forum ever since. Ex-C is full of intelligent people who point you in the right direction towards learning how to think for yourself.
  8. Another one of these soapbox-y metaphorical speeches that never really make any logical sense: I want to pull my hair out at this point! Since when does food poisoning make for a good detoxing? Nothing good should come of food poisoning. It's food poisoning!!! Sometimes Christians use the most indisputable (not in a good way) analogies I have ever seen because there is no debating at this point.
  9. My story is very similar to yours. I grew up a nominal Christian and had so many influences, until one day, I finally decided to start believing in god for myself and went to church by myself, and left...by myself. I'm glad that you made the decision that was right for you, and that whole church telling you what was god's will for your life was kinda of creepy. I understand where you're coming from. I'm so glad you feel more liberated because I do too!
  10. LOL! I get a laugh out of these tweets on Twitter because I follow the #noshamemov tag and they reference these awful slut-shaming christian twitter accounts that start off with "Ladies..." and usually end with what a girl should be like just so a guy could like you. It just makes me so mad. They don't deserve Twitter or Facebook! Some of them are triggering and I can't go back and read them because of the misleading and ignorant preachy things they say.
  11. Someone posted this after their 'Trip to Hell' experience, an alternative to haunted houses for Christians. Sounds like there are two different things going on here. Hell is real for a lot of a Christians, but they've "never been in it directly" yet it's their reality? Makes no sense. This is why I do not and can not do this blind belief anymore. I just can't do it. I feel like, as Christians, most people don't even know what they are saying, but it only sounds rights because of the 'hell' implications and they fear hell.
  12. I just think this video (and the 'male version') play on gender roles, and not very discreetly, either - blatantly. I would have been sold had it not been for the stereotypical and emotional problems that girls go through simply because they're girls, and all of those things he rapped about were "girl problems" Because the videos were rooted in Christian messages, nevermind that there's a girl out there who wants to be a better athelete, or a guy who deals with insecurities or struggles with Math. And I don't know why people ignore that.
  13. I couldn't finish it. It reminds me of what I miss about the zombie cult. But then, reading 1 Timothy 2:11-15 fixes that. LOL A man talking about women (in the first person) to empty chairs.............. haha, my youtube comment received too many dislikes. Success! I just watched the video. A lot of people seem to be posting it on their Facebook. It came out in July and nobody's made a big deal about it until recently. I'm sort of neutral about it. I actually don't know how I feel towards the video; it didn't make me cry at all, in fact, I didn't care for its message because I don't need some guy telling me all of this stuff. It's encouraging but...meh. One guy comes out and says "you're beautiful" and suddenly everybody changes the way they think about life? Hmmm...... I think it's always great to be extra critical of these things.
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