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  1. It's been 5 years and I'm still mad. I do not think i will ever not be mad. Everything in the media, even secular media, tells us you can't ever be happy or move on until you let it go. I think that's a half-truth at best. I think we will always be angry because it is unjust, and good people are unhappy about injustice. Even if you're not good, it is right and a sign of health in your self esteem to say that it wasn't okay to be treated this way. To exploit a vulnerable fellow human and mess with someone's head is not okay, ever. If that is something that happened to you then I thi
  2. So you had to make a judgment here by leaning on your own understanding?
  3. I don't think that's weakness, Rachel. Anyone would want that.
  4. Wow, Nature, that's intense--does he also refuse to go to the doctor as a result? Another strategy might be to research why it is "unbiblical".
  5. Hmm, that's interesting. The Secret came out around the time this mentality seemed to take off in my church. I wonder if there were any christian responses to this book that were published a year or so later.
  6. Sounds like prime Rifftrax material.
  7. CBT is enormously helpful, not foolproof but still really really good. After just one session of learning how to do it I got enormous benefits and i highly recommend it to anyone else dealing with anxiety My psych and I are actually looking into whether I have PTSD from all of this, which is categorised as an anxiety disorder too. Yay. I envy you your lessened fear, for me realising i was going to die and that was likely that meant that instead of having an eternity to live, I just get another 75 years or thereabouts. And yeah, after enough bad conversations I had to ad
  8. Oh my god, that's amazing! Google is giving me nothing unfortunately, just misspellings of Norman's name.
  9. Hardest part... do i have to choose just one? The anxiety I live with, caused by being raised to fear. The inability to trust insitutions or commit to something bigger than myself. Not knowing who I am or what I want anymore. Every month realising a new layer of how fucked up my childhood was as a result of religion and my parents combined. Fearing death including a newfound fear of flying. Realising how controlled and unhappy my family is because of this cancerous religion. Going from being the golden girl of the family to being the black sheep. Reconnecting with an old Christian
  10. Focus on Jesus, not on people? "He's dead, sweetie, he's not doing much these days..." But I get what you mean. I don't have a good answer for you, @Bookworm . It was my refrain right up until I left. I just want you to know I hear you.
  11. Hey Lost, Wow, I have a lot to say about this. First of all, I know the fear. It's the fear that when you ignore those impulses to go back, to pray, to praise god, that you are 'hardening your heart' and will have only yourself to blame on judgement day. In some sense, you are hardening your heart. You have to, because being in the cult so long has meant people have stomped on it until it is goopy mush. But this doesn't mean you are sinful. What you have to remember is that Christianity operates on its own internal logic. By simply thinking "I'm
  12. Does this mean any 2018 converts don't actually have their conversions kick in until next year?
  13. So woah, i forgot to refresh the page before posting that last comment and a whole lot happened in the meantime! Considering you can make the Bible say whatever you want, unless end has specifically stated somewhere that they are a biblical literalist, we might have to give them this one.
  14. hmmmm... that's potentially a good point. However couldn't he still be a divine son? That's still a pretty dang good sacrifice. Admittedly I'm coming at this from the perspective of always having prayed to god, not Jesus. Within the context of my own faith it felt weird to pray to the son and not the father. @end3, thanks for your response. I'm also curious as to whether you think your faith or how you live your life would have to change much if hypothetically you discovered the Trinity was a false concept. Personally I know a lot of people don't think the T
  15. Ok so I did some reading up on Norman Vincent Peale... thank goodness for Wikipedia! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norman_Vincent_Peale Sections of interest include the basic intro section and also part of the section on the criticism he received. Norman Vincent Peale (May 31, 1898 – December 24, 1993) was an American minister and author known for his work in popularizing the concept of positive thinking, especially through his best-selling book The Power of Positive Thinking. He served as the pastor of Marble Collegiate Church, New York, from 1932 until h
  16. According to Proverbs 3:5-6 though, we can't lean on our own understanding. If you can't trust your own so-described 'faulty reasoning' then how do you know that your interpretation of doctrine is correct?
  17. I'm feeling oddly validated right now. I didn't realise it was something so many people had experience with. And @Casey thank you so much for all the information! I am definitely going to check out Norman Vincent Peale as I'm very curious as to how this was spread in modern times.
  18. Oh, wow, I see it now. Don't know how I missed that. Holy shit.
  19. I'm in a contemplative mood. Christians, in this day and age, what does the doctrine of the Trinity actually accomplish? If it were taken away, would it affect your faith in some practical way? Without it, God could still send his son to Earth to be the saviour... yet so many creeds and statements of faith explicitly state the belief in the Trinity is non-optional for them. Historically I know this was included to combat breakaway sects during the early church days--but would it actually make a difference to what and how you believe now? No hidde
  20. May I ask roughly what time period you had your childhood in? For me it was the 90s-00s. That's exactly the impression I came away with! Everyone was so medieval-times-level superstitious and it just felt wrong! And these were the same people who would quote 2 Timothy 1:7 constantly.
  21. We've all been sucked in and damaged by our own beliefs. I don't know that anyone here could criticise you for what happened to you, @1989. Does anyone know what that banned comic is implying? Just that they were beating the child or something worse?
  22. Did anyone else grow up with or encounter the following particular belief: If you speak negatively about your life, those words coming from your lips will then allow satan or his spirits to make those negative things happen in your life--sort of like letting a vampire cross your threshold. Examples: I told someone I was feeling really sick that day and they said, "well don't speak that over your life or you'll get worse!" When I had my second car accident I noted to my dad that "these things always seem to happen in January" and he immediately got really ups
  23. Get angry. Get as angry as you need to. Give yourself permission to feel it. Ignore the fear that comes with feeling so much anger that you were always taught not to feel, even as a child. That anger is over a miscarriage of justice and it should be felt. Eventually, once you have felt it and acknowledged its legitimacy, the anger will give way to pain and sorrow. the pain and sorrow that comes with knowing that everything that has happened to you is in the past and it cannot be changed, no matter what you wish they did and no matter what you wish you did or said at the time. With sorrow comes
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