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About TABA

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  • Birthday September 24

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    From childhood Catholic to lukewarm conservative Christian to agnostic atheist

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  1. Hi nithin and welcome to our community! I’m confident you’ll find being here to be helpful. It certainly has been for me, since I made my first post five years ago. I’m one of those people. Although I only go to Mass because my wife likes to go, I do appreciate the beauty of the church, the stained glass and other art work, the organ music and even the familiar ritual. All while believing none of the theology. It’s kind of a cultural event for me. So don’t feel you have to expunge all aspects of Christianity from your life. And the appeal may fade in due course anyway, o
  2. Good to hear it went so well with your parents. That’s one less thing you have to worry about!
  3. Even though he probably doesn’t deserve it, I think it would be good if you made the decision to forgive your dad, if you haven’t already done so. This doesn’t mean letting the past go, it doesn’t in any way mean minimizing the wrong he has done, it doesn’t mean having a relationship with him going forward if he survives this. But it would be a favor to yourself as you head out on your own. You don’t have to tell him or tell anybody. Just say it to yourself: “Dad, I forgive you”. It won’t change your life but I think it will draw a line of sorts that needs to be drawn. Just my thoughts
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    Hey Adam5, nice to meet you! I see that the last time you posted here was in 2015, which was after I had created an account, but before I summoned up the courage to introduce myself. I’ve come a long way since then, thanks to this community, and I now try to give back by helping others through the deconversion process. No doubt the internet has proven to be very damaging to religion. I’d like to think I would have deconverted sooner if the net had been around when I was in my teens and twenties. It would be nice to think that the decline of religion means
  5. Hey ZP, it was good hearing from you the other day. With all the shit you’ve had to deal with, all the dysfunction in your family, you’re to be congratulated on the progress you’ve made. I’m not sure how many people could have kept their heads, as you have, when all those around them were losing theirs! As for whether to go see your father or not, I’d look at it this way: do you think you’ll be likely to regret it later if you don’t? At this point I’d say you don’t owe anything to him, your mom or your sister. My concern is for you. Personally I’d probably lean toward
  6. If there is a community standard - apart from the common ground of us all being formerly Christian - it’s more a standard that withholds belief in the absence of good evidence. I think it’s accurate to say that the prevailing view here is de-facto agnostic atheism, meaning lack of belief in any god, without actual certainty. I say “de-facto” because some who occupy this position of non-belief prefer to avoid the “atheist” label in particular. But it’s non-belief nonetheless.
  7. Haha. Only if you hate them and you want them to hate you.
  8. Hi @cnfrankenstein and welcome to the community! We are always happy to get new help and I look forward to you contributing to whatever topics come up that you feel inclined to chime in on. You never know what’s going to come up on any given day! Feel free to tell more of your deconversion story, or to start a topic on whatever interests you. Again: welcome aboard. Glad to have you!
  9. Most “Christians” are in fact half-assed Christians, for this reason. In fairness though, even the most serious Christian has to ignore the parts of the Bible that contradict other parts. The challenge is to decide which parts to run with and which to ignore. Most believers leave that up to the denomination they ended up in.
  10. “Agnostic suggests Josh has no Standard and might make shit up as he goes.” This is a disappointing start from E: portraying a lack of certainty as dishonesty.
  11. Haha, yeah we are a bit top-heavy right now. Not all the Mods are very active.
  12. Hey @SerenelyBlue I’m so glad to hear you’re doing so well now! Thank you for letting us know. Sometimes we lose touch with people and wonder how they’re doing. I recall when you were much less clear-minded and more anxious. People here might not have been sure how to help you but we were sure you were not trolling us or trying to be that way. So good you got the help you needed. I trust this community helped you look at Christianity objectively once you were in a position to do that.
  13. Good observation, Myrkhoos. In 1 Timothy, Paul contradicts his views of women in the church as he expresses them elsewhere, because 1 Timothy was not written by Paul. It is widely accepted - outside of fundamentalist circles - that 1 Timothy, 2 Timothy, 2 Thessalonians, Ephesians, Colossians and Titus were not written by Paul though the writer claims to be Paul. These may not have been Paul's words but the ideas - including the misogyny - came to be part and parcel of Christian teaching to this day. Much Christian teaching is derived from books written by liars claiming to be Paul. Major
  14. Hhand, I moved your post to the Podcasts section. The Testimonies section is for, well, testimonies. We’d be interested in hearing your story if you’re inclined to share it.
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