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LongWayAround

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LongWayAround last won the day on August 14 2014

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About LongWayAround

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    I have come to the conclusion that there are no gods that we know about that are real.

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    No convincing evidence that any exist.

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  1. Thank you for the kind thoughts and the hugs. It is appreciated.
  2. This part of the forum is called rants and replies so I am going to rant. My dad is dying. He has been a faithful Christian all his life and an active elder in his church for at least 30 years. For the past few years, he has been battling prostate and lung cancer which has recently spread to his brain resulting in tumors and a stroke. Most of the time, my dad doesn’t know who I am, where he is, or what year it is. He is unable to walk unaided and does not have complete control over his bodily functions. My dad was a strong, proud man and to see him reduce
  3. That is great news geezer! I am in a similar situation with my wife and I don't have any expectations that she will ever question her faith. I guess there is hope but I am going to keep my expectations at zero to avoid disappointment.
  4. I go to church with my wife. During the "worship" portions of the service I like to entertain myself by singing alternative lyrics to the songs. I either change the words to reflect what is really in the bible (i.e. "thank you for the way that you love us" becomes "thank you for the way that you club us") or I change the words to make the object of the song my cat instead of god. It is funny how much more real it is singing about my cat than it ever was about god. (i.e. "you are god alone.." becomes "you are cat alone..."). When I get bored with those, I sometimes resort to just inse
  5. Our firm provides building design. The majority of the congregations we serve feel that it is important that you are the same religion (and denomination) as them and that you understand their beliefs and can design a building that supports their style of worship. As a side note, church groups are probably one of the worst groups to work for. You generally have to deal with a large committee rather than a single point of contact and the people get so emotional during the process that sometimes it isn't worth it.
  6. I am one of several partners in the business. The other partners are catholic, methodist, and non-practicing baptist. I haven't told them about my deconversion because it quite frankly doesn't affect our work or our relationship except for this one issue. I am not sure how they would react. I won't lie about being religious or about what denominational flavor I am or was. Its not worth it to me. Having done work for many different denominations and religions in the past has been beneficial in that I know more about their beliefs and practices than the average person. It comes in h
  7. I am in a business that provides professional services to many different kinds of clients including churches. The percentage of our work that is with churches is probably around 5 to 10% per year but varies. Since I have deconverted, I have not been approached by a church to provide services until this past week and I passed the project off to one of my business associates. On the one hand, I have no problem taking their money and providing a good service. On the other hand, I don't want to help them to indoctrinate kids or attract more people to their building. In the past, it ha
  8. I am very aware of the tragedy in Orlando. My wife and I have been discussing this all morning. It is a horrific tragedy. We cannot even begin to imagine what the parents are going thru today. God did not do this. God did not ordain this tragedy. I mentioned once in a post here about how we lost our twin daughters. It was like being hit by a freight train. I’ve watched friends at a very young age die of cancer. I’ve had two friends who committed suicide. My parents both suffered and died from cancer. Two of my cousins died in a car accident. Five years ago I was diagnosed with a r
  9. I wanted to join in to offer encouragement and to say good luck with whichever path you choose. I have been deconverted for a few years now. My wife continues to be a devote christian. When I first came out to her, we had a lot of in-depth conversations about what I believed or didn't believe and why. Then after a while, she did not want to talk about it any more. I don't bring it up either but will answer honestly and gently if she asks me a religious based question. When I came out about deconverting, my wife ramped up her at-home bible study and general religiousity to an even h
  10. Yes, I do have kids and they are grown now so I have the perspective of seeing what worked in the long run and what did not. I stand by my original suggestion to be honest with your kids. Pretending to be something you're not or avoiding the hard discussions because they're difficult will just add to the problems down the road. That doesn't mean you have to be blunt or harsh or give your child more information than they can handle for their level of maturity. I agree with your closing remark Hockeyfan, Randinem knows her kids and will be the best judge of what will work for them.
  11. My opinion is to be honest with your kids about what happened. In the long run, I believe that they will respect you more. The situation presents the opportunity to teach them an important life lesson. That lesson is that is that no matter how invested you may be in something, if you acquire new knowledge that shows that what you believed is not true, you adjust your belief rather than adjusting facts to support your incorrect belief. The other aspect that will be important during this time is to continue to show your kids through your actions that you care for them and that your feelin
  12. It has been about two years now that I have been an ex-christian. It was about a three year process before that of reading the entire bible, researching various topics that I had questions about, praying that god would give me satisfying answers, then eventually coming to point where I realized I didn't believe. After reading a lot of posts on Ex-C, I decided that I was going to tell my fundamentalist wife that I no longer believed but I was going to do it slowly over time and in small bite size pieces. I started with expressing doubts about various christian topics then became more and mor
  13. So, is this the antithesis of Vanna White...
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