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  1. Thank you to all of you. I'll just try not to worry too much.
  2. Spot on. It is wrong and it is damaging. I tend to think more and more that Christianity of the Fundy or Fundy-like kind is a danger to mental health and well-being.
  3. Well I guess you'd hope they'd only speak in tongues to you when it comes to Je-sus so you wouldn't understand what they are saying... On a more serious note: It must be so difficult to communicate with them, ignoring or dealing with all the Bible/"spiritual" talk they throw your way.
  4. Hello dave, Thank you! Am I guessing correctly that this is only possible for personal blog posts, but not for forum posts? OTRR
  5. Dear all, I just realized my ExC posts are found when searching for my username on Google. Is there any way to prevent this? I can't find anything in the Account Settings. Have a great day, OTRR
  6. Thanks for answering. Seems like you are thriving and working on things that have remained difficult, which is a great approach. If I may ask, what branch of the "fold" do your parents adhere to?
  7. This! This makes me so happy -- for you, and for any girl or woman who'll read this and need to hear this to be able to make it out of their very own versions of male dominated cults. We can all do this. We're not less, we're not to be dominated by anyone, and above all, there' s absolutely no need to "submit"! Thank you so much for telling part of your story, mrspearl. Also, your writing is beautiful and powerful. How did your journey out continue? How did you rebuild your life? I have a friend who got a divorce and left the church, too, and nearly nobody ever asked or talked about her anymore. We're still close 17 years later and she's strong like a rock. We're now laughing about the craziness and the ridiculousness of it all. And I sometimes feel sorry for all those who never left and stil think they know it all.
  8. I now almost nothing about CoC. Do you have any advice on where to learn more about it? Other than Wikipedia?
  9. Welcome, mrspearl, and glad you found us. Wishing you all the best as you discover these forums. I can relate insofar as I always felt like women were second class citizens in church. No more submission! More power to us! I am looking forward to hearing more from you. OTRR
  10. Don't bee so funny! Welcome to the outside world, glad to have you here, Bug! OTRR
  11. Hi William, Welcome. What leads you to the assumption rejecting god is my only option? Best OTRR
  12. This sounds very sad and painful, mich. Does writing help you to process things?
  13. Thanks for your reply. Happy to hear that things seem okay right now. But please watch out for yourself. Do I understand correctly that he also deconverted?
  14. Hi there, again, I just listened to episode one. Great stuff. Humor is such a good form of therapy, thanks for making me laugh! My favorite bits and pieces so far: the sex booth, of course, and "No hand clapping in my church!" I also totally relate to missing community. That's a biggie. But I guess it's also part of breaking free. Ironically, I also miss singing, although I don't miss those porn-like, ever repetitive worshit songs (see other thread) and the social control coming with church. Keep it up, Karen! OTRR
  15. Welcome, Karen! I love podcasts and will give yours a try. You made me laugh (old favorites). You'll be able to quote after a certain number of posts. OTRR
  16. A few thoughts/questions, Axelle... you don't have to answer them in case I'm taking it too far. 1. Would moving back in with them be a temporary or a permanent thing? Would it mean you'd move away later or not at all? 2. How far is abroad? Any chance of going "home" once a month for a (possibly long) weekend to help out and be with your mom (and/or somehow help out with finances)? 3. What's your SO's take on the matter? And your brothers'? Would they be allies or are they hardcore believers? To be honest, I would abso-f******-lutely not have my SO move in with me AND my parents at the same time if I were you. Dealing with a) moving back in with the fam while b) a family member possibly needs intense care while c) getting used to living with the SO and d) possibly having to find a secret spot for all things physical and, last but not least, e) possibly having to protect the SO from being converted would just be too much for me. And it might be too much for you, too. Maybe try to look at the whole thing separately for a minute: -- Is there a way to reconcile moving away AND the fact that you want to help/be with your mom? -- Telling your parents that your beliefs have changed and that you don't believe in virginity-'til-rapture is not per se linked to the whole situation, although it seems like. Why not tell them about the BF in a totally separate conversation first and see how they react? What I'm trying to say is I wouldn't "mix" topics at first. Telling them you possibily want to move away and/or discussing whether you'll move back in with them can wait a little bit. One thing at a time. This way, you could see how they react to your new beliefs and then decide how you want to proceed. Sorry, this is long... OTRR
  17. “Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. [...]” WTF?
  18. And how bored are you on a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being an exciting event of your choice and 10 being a two hour long Easter service with the sermon being about Jesus' family tree?
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