Single Status Update
Just because a person is an atheist/non religious doesn't mean that they're suitable to be a lifetime partner. Likewise, just because a person is a Christian, doesn't mean that they're unsuitable. If I had to commit to marriage I would rather have a faithful, stable, Christian wife than some of the individuals I've seen in the atheist community so far. Of course, I don't know the whole story or what else could have gone into her decision (besides pressure from her Christian mother and her child).
(Sorry, I meant to reply directly to your status but posted here by accident, I can't delete this now).
Thank You for the reply Reality Check
I don't know really details about this whole story. But I know and I always felt that this girl does not fit into Christian beliefs. During Christian home meetings she was asking many questions, just like me and she was reading lots of books (I am different, I hate reading).
She was raised only by her single mother, cause her dad died, because of alcoholism. Her mother used to be an alcoholic, but Jesus saved her.
I guess romance with a secular man (a little bit Catholic actually) disappointed her and maybe she started to feel hopeless with a whole perspective to raise a child alone.
Here where I live, maybe there is 5 % of Protestants in my whole town. Maybe 5 groups that count around 30 people, SO I was hoping that there are some people who like me have doubts, are not afraid to admit it and I was hoping thst I'm not alone with my deconversion.
I think that her break from Christianity was not intellectual actually, so she easily was catch by goodness of Christian freinds and family that she always knew.
Weird thing is that her cousin left church without a word and I have to admit that I was impressed and that gave me some hope that one day I will do the same.
I thought that her cousin will influence her. And I thought that it happened...
By the way...
It made me kind of sad that what You wrote about some individuals from Atheist Community. If they are unstable and can not stay in a relationship for a long time...it sort of give Atheists a bad name.
And yeah, people prefer to have morally good friends and family members, cause they are stable thanks to "God has everything under control".
Christian partner better than a secular one? - good topic forb a new thread
Currently there are two Christian women in my life who if given a chance, I would date without hesitation. They are both attractive, highly motivated, have much going for them, are uplifting, and most importantly they are stable. I would date them over the atheists who wallow in cynicism, complacency, ect (although, I can't say I am without those faults myself). They have exactly what I'm looking for in a partner and I'm willing to overlook belief differences. Likewise, when I was a Christian I was very attracted to an atheist girl because I could be myself and free around her. At the time, it was what I was looking for and what made me feel complete. That was years ago however, and the atheist movement has been contaminated with self righteous justice warriors, identity politics, self victimization, and a whole other basket of ills that I find repugnant. I can't be myself anymore without offending someone. I'm also attracted to raw femininity which again, the atheist community seems to discourage. The point I'm trying to make is that for many, a person's religion isn't the main factor in determining compatibility. The perceptions in this forum are skewed because many have been hurt by Christianity and therefore cannot be with someone who embraces it. I've been out of the faith for long enough that those wounds have healed and I can look at the world in a different perspective.
While a Christian, I saw my peers dating secular individuals for a multitude of reasons. I've also seen atheists do the same. Your friend is dating a Christian man because he probably offers something that her atheist peers do not. Maybe he offers her the security and stability that she lacked for most of her life. Maybe he offers the love and affection she's been craving. If that's the case, don't be disappointed or concerned. Instead, be happy for her, maybe get a chance to meet this guy. You may find the reason why she is attracted to him. Maybe yes, she did leave Christianity for non-intellectual reasons or perhaps she is in a transitional phase like some people here. I do wish her the best.
Yeah, You are right
I think that if these Christian girls that You know are notfundamental in their beliefs You have a chance to build with one of them a really great relationship.
All the best for You in Your plans