ConsiderTheSource

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    After 26 years of processing and reinventing history to fit the old book and being treated as a total doormat for living the life of a Matthew Chapter 5 "Christian"... and not understanding why I was treated with such disrespect... especially by the church folks.. and still "staying" with the church for many years...I was able to rewrite my whole mental operating system after forming these three words in my mind "god is imaginary".... and.... all of a sudden.. the way folks behave made total sense to me for the first time in my life. Just like the earth travels around the sun.. and not the otherway around. An adult life of anxiety just simply disappeared... I still have my last bottle of prescription medication from three years ago. Zero anxiety... and so much happiness. I now have 35 or so years left to REALLY LIVE!!!

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    Nope, there are no gods

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  1. ConsiderTheSource

    What now?

    Dexter, so much that gets in the way of living a totally free and relatively unmanipulated is our past mental programming. It comes from the church, society, family, etc. In the case of your friend it is clear it came from his grandfather. These expectations haunt us because we gain a sense of confort by having a mental touchstone, something we aspire to, something that set expectations for ourselves. The haunting is due to us choosing to be accountable to some outside agency or person(s). And, being outside of us, these mental touchstones often violate the very sense of who we are as a person. Here is what helped me get past all of this wasteful angst and anxiety. First, I chose to mentally dump all of it, make myself a clean slate. Then, I thought deep and hard about what was valuable to ME. What was it that I valued. What should MY personal touchstone/"bible" be. It took a lot of mental effort. When I got done I condensed down my own personal mental operating system to these ten very carefully selected words: "I care about facts, empathy, and treating all people fairly". This has been my mental touchstone, my "bible" for six years now. These ten words inform all of my thoughts, and guide my actions. The best part is that is all came from ME. No outside agency or person to account to. No one to feel shame to. And, no more need for any cognitive dissonance creating defenses as it is sooooo easy to follow a moral/behavioral code of one's own making. So, I would stringly suggest you undertake this same exercise. Come up with your own base mental operating system. It will not eliminate conflict with others, but it will eliminate any mental conflict with one's self. It is early in your journey. You will be fine.
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    Do you still get emotional over your deconversion?

    Ditto for me Fuego. I immediately bypassed the morning phase and went straight to anger. 8 years later I have calmed down greatly. But those first couple of years were pretty consumed by anger, both at them, and myself for not figuring it out sooner. I no longer feel it neccessary to "flip off" every church building I go past (not that there is anything wrong with doing this). But, it was excellent therapy at the time. Time does help heal stuff. I can spit tacks thinking about all of those wasted years. So, instead, I focus on making the most of every single remaining day of my precious existence.
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    My slow liberation from the patriarchy

    This is what needs to be fully answered. Is this what she really wanted, or did she just decide to fulfill a church/societal role because she was uncomfortable being outside the roles "they" expected for her. One way to maybe get to an answer for this would be to imagine her living outside of the church structure. No outside influence or pressure. If she was in such an environment, would she be happy and fulfilled in this role? Would she of chose this role on her own? If yes, good for her. If no, then she is not living for herself; and is totally dependent on "them" for her own contentment and happiness. She will forever have limited her potential happiness and joy.
  4. Well, I guess you could always send these folks notes of concern regarding their delusional mental state and their resulting illrational behaviors and how it all negatively impacts their lives, along with a suggestion of a councilor specializing in religious trauma syndrome. When they complain let them know the fault is with them, because they do not accept reality.
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    Things Fundies Say On Facebook

    Skip to the 50 second mark.
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    How many people have fully read the bible?

    All of it. Three time. At least it helps on Jeopardy, which seems compelled to bring religion into the show every other episode.
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    Things Atheists Post On Facebook

    Yes. Hence the difficulty and problem. It is all of those lies. Lie, after lie, after lie, after lie. I am 8 years into deconversion. Every day continues to be so much better and wonderful than those under indoctrination. I have successfully rerouted and rewired my mind. But, there is that archive of lies that is triggered at some level with every encounter with religious folks, their leaders, symbols, and buildings. In order to really scrub it clean would mean a very public repudiation of it all. But, we all know what the social cost of that would be. Yet, I am getting darn close to pulling that lever.
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    Emotional Health While Leaving Christianity

    You have identified exactly what you need to do to rid yourself of the angst anxiety you are feeling. You need to know and understand your personal moral code. You do this by spending whatever time it takes to write down in words what your personal moral code is. This code becomes "your bible". You will find it easy, and very satisfying, to live by your own personal morality. Yes, I did this exercise. I got my moral code down to ten words. They inform all of my behavior and actions: "I care about facts, empathy, and treating all people fairly".
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    Glad to be here

    Welcome Jen. It took me over 25 adult years to break free too. My mind was quite good at the mental gymnastics it takes to mentally maintain the greatest mindfuck ever created by man. The joy, freedom, and daily peace I have enjoyed in over the last 8 years or so has been amazing. I mourn often about wasting the best years of my life, yet am glad I wake up every day with an opportunity to live one more precious day of existance.
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    God cannot be judged by human standards

    Why do we keep on meeting them on their playfield????? Come on people! Item 1. Provide proof of existance. Item 2. So what? We are best off understanding as much as we can.
  11. My spouse > any belief set They are telling your wife that she has to view her husband as "less than". Sick bastards.
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    De-converting was crazy

    I was pushed to the wall by our closest legacy church friends. The only way to drive the point home was to say "Fuck the Holy Spirit". It worked. Have not troubled me since.
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    Things Atheists Post On Facebook

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    Christians blaming gays

    My fucking daughter? Christian creep you are.
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    Christians blaming gays

    Neither You are a bastard. My daughter and her wife will raise fine children. Judgemental prick you are.