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    After 26 years of processing and reinventing history to fit the old book and being treated as a total doormat for living the life of a Matthew Chapter 5 "Christian"... and not understanding why I was treated with such disrespect... especially by the church folks.. and still "staying" with the church for many years...I was able to rewrite my whole mental operating system after forming these three words in my mind "god is imaginary".... and.... all of a sudden.. the way folks behave made total sense to me for the first time in my life. Just like the earth travels around the sun.. and not the otherway around. An adult life of anxiety just simply disappeared... I still have my last bottle of prescription medication from three years ago. Zero anxiety... and so much happiness. I now have 35 or so years left to REALLY LIVE!!!

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  1. ConsiderTheSource

    The Difficulty of Full Deconversion

    ....and ditto for the concept of "nothingness". How is possible for there to be absolutely nothing? It is the ultimate paradox, how is possible for there to be "something", and if there is not "something", how can there be "nothing".
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    New Game: You Might be an Ex-Christian if.....

    ...and daydreams too. And just general thoughts while living. It is all so much better now.
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    As a Bi Girl - Nothing I Did Would EVER Be Good Enough

    Any behavior or thought that cause no harm to anyone can not be immoral. Being Bi causes no harm to anyone. Being Bi must be moral. It is the thoughts and actions of the church that harm people who harm no one. It is religion and the church that are immoral.
  4. They are masters of the awful art of passive aggressiveness.
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    Things Atheists Post On Facebook

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    Another Rant... Republianity.

    Riven, it is called "selective grace". Grace is given to the selected (Trump), while admonishment is given to the outgroup non-select (Obama). Self serving and convenient, isn't it? They have sold out to ends justify the means "Survivor" mentality. They have made a poor bargain. Short term glory, long run demise.
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    Old Christian books

    Burn baby burn!
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    I Will Choose Free Will....

    With the exception of your father, everything; I mean almost everything, in your testimony sounds soooo familar.
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    Back in the Closet. Again.

    Aiyana, I have no new practical advice to offer. I wish I did. I do have this to share: No belief set, religious or otherwise, is more valuable than the mental health of my children, my spouse, or anyone else I deeply care about. You have the right to expect the same level of respect, love, and care from your family. Your spouse and the extended family, and your church friends are telling you they do not value your mental health. They are not there for you. It is only about what you add to their lives. Does any one of these folks listen to you with empathy and compassion? Is anyone 100% on "team Aiyana"? Because, from what I see, team Aiyana deserve 100% support. You need to move forward, and make the decisions as needed. But, please, going forward,when facing with a difficult choice or dilemma, please, please be 100% on team Aiyana, and choose what fills her sense of well being and happiness.
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    42 Reasons Why

    I greatly appreciate your list. I am surprised you experienced #42 so early in the deconversion process. I got hit with "You must not of really ever believed" about a year into the process. Pissed me off to no end! Really, after everything I did during the previous 25 years you devalue and write me off like used chalk? Now that I am 8 years in these "tactics don't get to me much at all. But the process to get to this point was so very painful. But, so totally worth it.
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    How did you break your parents’ hearts?

    I lost my last sibling and my last patent 13 years ago at the young age of 45. I fully disposed of religion 5 years later. Yes, waiting is a strategy. And, it makes the "coming out" so much easier. But, you are severely constraining your one and only singular existence in the meantime. It is definitely an individual choice, with out a right answer, with any choice leading to hurtful consequences of one kind or another.
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    What question could Christianity never answer for you?

    Apologetics always has an answer for every INDIVIDUAL question. So, all of my individual questions always received an answer. Example: How can the earth be 6,000 years old when the fossil, geological, celestial, and DNA evidence clearly shows the earth at several billions of year old? The answer: "God pre aged everything to test your faith". And, yes, I was indoctrinated/programmed enough to accept this answer in my 30's; especially when it temporarily relieved a huge cognitive dissonance burden. For 20 of my 25 years in I "parallel processed" this world on two tracks: A church track and a semi reality track. I could not get the two to reconcile. It drove me crazy. The totality of everything was just too much. I "knew" there must be some way to reconcile both tracks. One day while looking out over Mt. Hood. a question came to my mind: "What if god was imaginary"? I processed this, and very quickly literally everything fell into place. It all made sense, especially people, their choices, communication, and behavior, made sense. I dumped my 25 years of indoctrination that day. I swear I could feel my mental operating system rewriting itself in my mind. That was 8 years ago. Nothing in that time has convinced me to reconsider the conclusion that god is man made and imaginary. These last 8 years continue to be the best of my life.
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    Long overdue hello to all!

    Hi Riven, Wow, so much of our stories are near matches. 25 years. Ditto here (I broke free 8 years ago). I was heavily involved with actual home visitations, sharing the "word", and dozens of "conversations". "Especially since I didn't come from a religious family upbringing. " Same here! Except. my agnostic parents did utilize Sunday School at a church for free babysitting. Based on your profile picture it is very likely we are in the same general area. My spouse and I are looking to make new friendships to replace our legacy religious relationships. I will PM you via this cite our contact info if you have an interest. Hang in there. Life with one's one personal morality/value set is sooooo much better then anything I experienced under my 25 years under indoctrination.
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    Do you ever feel stupid about how long it took?

    I am with you Jace. 25 years not fully lived. 25 years I can not get back. BUT, I found my way out 8 years ago. I have been living every day to its fullest. The journey is not without its difficulties, but so worth it. Would love to share coffee and talk you through it, but it is not likely you live near Oregon.
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    Do you ever wish you could grow up ''normally''?

    Yes. But, this is not an easy decision. By saying Yes I am saying I want the 25 lost years of my life back, but, at the price of having zero experiential empathy for those stuck in the greatest mindfuck, and thus ending up being less caring of a person then I am right now. I would choose gaining the 25 years.