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  1. Daffodil

    For Ex-Christian Women

    Most liberating - Not having to consciously turn my brain off to accept the ridiculous ideas my faith insisted I believe. Most difficult - Hiding it from friends/family. Some know now, some don't. Still difficult.
  2. Taking a break for awhile. Will check back in sometime later. Have a great summer everyone!

  3. The response given was good advice, but they did not go far enough. If these grandparents (both sets!) are willing to have a whole ceremony done without the knowledge or consent of the parents when the child is a baby, what else are they willing to do!? They need to find new babysitters, even if they have to sacrifice to pay for it, and inform the grandparents that they have lost their childrens' trust and will no longer be allowed unsupervised access to the grandchild.
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    Being challenged by Catholic family members

    I would also add that if there is a strong chance of them ambushing you with an intervention, I would start coming up with excuses not to meet them in anyone's home. Offer to meet them for coffee in a restaurant or something, but try to avoid homes. They will have a harder time harassing you in public.
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    Being challenged by Catholic family members

    e me back to attending Mass every week. Never been catholic, but did study it with the intent of possibly becoming one as I was deconverting from evangelicalism years ago. I think the current pope is possibly your best defense against this kind of thing. After all, he is supposed to be god's representative on earth for catholics, right? So no matter how much they throw hell at you, keep coming back to "The pope says everyone is going to heaven, so I have no reason to fear." If they challenge that, then challenge them for being catholics that do not hold to the pope's teachings!
  6. I may be alone in this, but I say more power to 'em! Keep them all in one place so we can keep track of them!
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    Why didn't God heal this Christian

    Nope, he was a Jew!
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    Why didn't God heal this Christian

    Very sad indeed, but don't you worry because /sarc/ God's ways are mysterious. It is the sin of pride to question Him. God needed Nabeel in heaven with Him. God must have thought Nabeel's work on earth was finished. God used Nabeel's suffering as a testimony of faith in the face of tragedy. All things work together for good to those that love God. It was time for Nabeel to go to his forever home in heaven. We should be rejoicing! God has a plan for Nabeel's wife and daughter. Nabeel's suffering strengthened his character and made him more Christlike. We have no right to question God. He made the earth and the heavens. Who are we to question Him!? Rationalization - the cure for any and all cognitive dissonance.
  9. Daffodil

    Much better use of a church

    That is gorgeous! Would love to dine there! ETA: Just noticed they put the giant brewery tanks in the altar area. That's awesome! And they left the Latin sign above the altar intact. My brain is just blown!
  10. Excellent use of an unused but very beautiful old church. https://www.treehugger.com/interior-design/church-netherlands-converted-transformer-library-books-day-party-room-night.html
  11. Daffodil

    Aw crap! She knows.

    Forgot to mention, she can be manipulative, though. She’s now trying to get me to show the movie, Heaven is for Real, to my family. She bought it for me a long time ago and I promptly put it away and forgot about it. I keep telling her none of us want to watch because it’s not our kind of movie, but because my brother and his family liked it, she insists we will too. She wanted me to promise I would show it to them and couldn’t understand why I would not promise. Sucks that it has taken me this long in life (and a deconversion) to learn how to deflect manipulation, but whatever.
  12. Daffodil

    Aw crap! She knows.

    Thanks! That’s a great response! It’s funny, several of you have thought it was insensitive or harsh for her to say that. I know tone does not translate online, but I didn’t take her statements as harsh at all. I thought they were quite logical. I have thought the same thing myself and have wondered what my dad would have thought if he had still been alive. As I mentioned in the OP, he was a mainline pastor, so he was pretty open minded despite his own beliefs. I like to think he would have been sad, but accepting. We’ll never know, though, and it’s pointless to speculate. My mom, however, though I adore her, is a champion worrier and more emotional, so I am used to this kind of thing from her. Thankfully, she has spent her entire life as a mainline member, so I don’t have to deal with any of that fundagelical crap from her. She’ll be the easier one to deal with.
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    Aw crap! She knows.

    She’s 79, and I was going to let her live out the rest of her days in blissful ignorance, but she figured it out. FWIW, I don’t think we owe any explanations or “confessions” to our believing friends/relatives. We live our lives as we see fit, and if they notice, then we deal with it. At least that’s how i’m dealing with it. I try not to lie, but it does get tricky. My best friend knows I don’t go to church anymore, but assumes I still believe. I know that the words “best friend” and “big secret” don’t go together, but i’m still feeling my way through this like everyone else.
  14. Daffodil

    New Game: You Might be an Ex-Christian if.....

    Oh snap! Did you really do that? Ballsy!
  15. https://pjmedia.com/faith/pope-francis-defrocks-9-ukraine-monks-for-rogue-exorcisms-following-so-called-prophetess/ Pope Francis defrocks monks for performing exorcisms without permission, but not priests for raping children. Speechless . . .