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Daffodil last won the day on November 21 2018

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  • Birthday 10/26/1967

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    Easygoing, in awe of nature, insatiably curious, politically independent

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?

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  1. Let it go, Derek. There is a whole world out here of real flesh and blood people you can actually see and hear when you talk to them! I deleted my profile years ago and have no regrets.
  2. What an asshole. Happy to heal any and all that came to him back then, but can't be bothered to lift a finger for anyone now.
  3. Well, when you can literally justify anything - even completely opposing ideas - with the Bible, why not!
  4. Trump is the devil incarnate! He will destroy us! Hillary is the devil incarnate! She will destroy us!
  5. Ask and you will receive . . . Yeah in my 20+ years as a Christian that only worked in hindsight with a heavy dose of rationalization.
  6. And there is one simple response that can rattle them: If I did everything you do and was still not a Christian, how do you know you aren’t also fooling yourself?
  7. What amazes me is that they never take it to the next logical step. If god wants this so bad, why does he leave it to fallible humans to make it happen? Why doesn’t He do it himself? He’s all powerful, right? Where is his “hand” in all this?
  8. We have actually had this problem more in the reverse. My husband doesn’t try to fix my problems too often, but I used to get very angry and start ranting when he would tell me the problems he was having at work. He would tell me what he was thinking during the issue and I would say, “Did you tell them that? You should tell them!” (I’m a very easygoing even-tempered person until someone I love is being hurt or treated unjustly - then all bets are off!). He was very patient with my outbursts for a long time, then finally one day angrily told me he couldn’t talk to me anymore. I now have to bite my tongue and just listen when he vents about work if I want him to share with me. Hard to do, but I do it because he needs to vent and I’m the only “safe” one he has to vent to. Relationships are hard - but SO worth it!
  9. Yup, when my husband insisted he was thinking about nothing, I couldn’t believe it. But, he is an honest man and I finally quit asking him unless he had a certain look on his face indicating he WAS thinking.
  10. My family is like yours - we’re weirdly happy and cohesive. My brothers and I were raised by a mainline denominational minister and SAHM wife. I and one of my brothers went evangelical during college and the other avoided religion until he divorced his first wife and married a nominal catholic. Now they go to the same kind of church we grew up in (but both their kids were baptized catholic, lol!). My evangelical brother is the only one still really religious, including homeschooling all four of his kids, but he never pushes his religion on anyone. I think there are two things that make us all get along so well, and it’s how my husband and I run our family as well - respect and lots of humor. We treat each other as adults and don’t try to control or manipulate each other. Our parents raised us to be confident, self-sufficient independent people and we have gravitated to spouses of the same mold. On top of that is a heavy sprinkling of humor. We spend most of our time laughing till we cry as my dad had a great sense of humor and taught us to see the funny in most things (though he was actually clinically depressed but undiagnosed until his last years). My husband and I often wonder to each other why we get along so well and the only things we can come up with are respect and humor.
  11. Your situation is the same as my husband’s was. He deconverted first and I initially resisted. The most powerful thing for me to finally step over the edge (I was slowly deconverting for years and didn’t realize it) was that he didn’t change when he deconverted. He was still the same kind, logical, supportive, funny, responsible, loyal man I had fallen in love with. He basically opened the door and showed me it would be ok if I went through it too. The thing that has continually reinforced my decision to walk through that door is the fact that my life has not changed AT ALL! Going to church or not, praying or not, reading the Bible or not — those things that I was told were crucial activities for my relationship with god — don’t make the slightest difference in my life. I always had a sneaking suspicion that god didn’t really care because he never answered my prayers. Now I know he doesn’t care because he doesn’t exist and the proof is in the fact that nothing happened when I quit him. Just keep loving her patiently and being the man she fell in love with, answering her questions logically and in a matter of fact way, and her own brain should take care of the rest.
  12. Don't know where this came from, but it apparently made the rounds of social media awhile back and I just now came across it. Thought I would share it as it made me smile. Having a religion is like having a penis. You're very proud of it. You're glad you've got it. You probably look after it. It may influence some of your decisions. But ultimately, it's private, And there aren't many people who want you to wave it in their faces.
  13. Yup, now it’s just what people do together when they're naked that gets him all bent out of shape!
  14. Awesome! Those stupid songs don't take any talent or creativity whatsoever, and yet people weep and fuss over them. It's just insane!
  15. You took the words right out of my mouth! I used to sing along until they would get to the parts where they would repeat four words 5, 6, 8(!) times and I would just sigh, roll my eyes and wait for it to end. Downright painful!
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