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Daffodil

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  1. How long have you been in Canada, Margee, you look like a steel magnolia - soft, sweet, and beautiful on the outside, but tough as nails when needed!
  2. florduh looks exactly like Dr. House!! I'm an older version of my avatar....Lmao you know.....more wrinkly...... Actually, I'll put my old picture up for 24 hours so you can meet me...K? * There I am except I've gained 10 pounds and my hair is a lot longer. Growing my hair was on my bucket list cause I never had long hair before in my life. florduh looks exactly like Dr. House!! I'm an older version of my avatar....Lmao you know.....more wrinkly...... Actually, I'll put my old picture up for 24 hours so you can meet me...K? * There I am except I've gained 10 pounds and my hair is a lot longer. Growing my hair was on my bucket list cause I never had long hair before in my life. Wow, Florduh, not bad at all! You sell yourself short! (Bwahahahahah! Who else can I draw out to give us a real pic!)
  3. Oh, you ARE a sexy sultry vixen, Margee, I knew it! Florduh, I guess looks don't matter if you put out?
  4. Oh and Jeff, I like yours. You have a very open, friendly face!
  5. Speaking of avatars, I know that's not you, Florduh, but surely that is you, Margee, you sexy sultry vixen!????
  6. No, you're going to need some time to adjust to how expensive cellos are now, IMHO. The calluses come from paying for it. You in or not? OMG, stop pressuring me! Yeah I'm in. I nominate Margee for lead singer. We need one singer who can hit really high notes like the guy in 'The Stylistics''. I got a real low voice. Actually I sound like a guy. I've been told in drive-through s, ''Thanks you sir - drive through''....... Maybe florduh can be the high singer..I heard his voice before cause I met him in person.....he sounds like a girl...... You met another ex-c?! So jealous! How did you pull that off? I'm an alto, too, so I can't do it.
  7. Your Mother Trebek *snicker*. I don't want to have to explain our name, so nothing too anti-religious. Rock of Aged works for me, but how old is yunea? Don't want to offend!
  8. No, you're going to need some time to adjust to how expensive cellos are now, IMHO. The calluses come from paying for it. You in or not? OMG, stop pressuring me! Yeah I'm in. I nominate Margee for lead singer.
  9. BTW, yunea isn't even on our continent and none of us live in the same state. How, exactly, are we going to do this? Sorry, but my anal retentiveness kicks in when things get serious!
  10. Well, I guess now would be the time to confess that I haven't actually touched a cello in about 22 years and I don't even own one now, so I'm going to need some time to redevelop the calluses and stuff.
  11. Yeah, but it totally backfired for the "Friday" girl - total one-hit wonder.
  12. Are we going to play small clubs or get a promoter and try to land some bigger venues (listen to me try to talk "business" like I know something! ???? )
  13. Hmm, I agree. Where's yunea and Margee? We need more ideas.
  14. Grumpy Old Farts? Disgruntled Postal Workers? The Misfits? (Wait, that one's already been used, hasn't it?) Minor Inconvenience?
  15. Well so far it's one guy and three women so, Dude and the Chicks? Nah, that gives you top billing. The Ex-C's?
  16. Yes, I do think women have a greater susceptibility to shame than men. I don't know quite how it starts, but I know that men never seem to feel shame if their homes are a mess or they're not spending much time with their kids or their weight creeps up. I suppose maybe they do if they can't afford a nicer car or something, but I really can't think of anything men feel shame over. I think there is just so much external pressure on women - magazines showing impossible (and thoroughly photoshopped) physical ideals of womanhood, the message that a woman should have a career and yet still bake cookies for the school bake sale, take the kids to soccer, cook a full dinner, have the same body she had at 20 despite birthing 3 babies, and be sexually ready and willing when daddy gets home - WTF!? It's unfair and I don't know exactly where to put the blame because in some ways we do it to ourselves, but yes, we are definitely more susceptible to shame.
  17. An unexpected benefit I experience now that my kids are in school is volunteering. I am the youngest volunteer (and I'm not that young ) in the two places I have volunteered in because all the other moms are working. I find a great deal of fulfillment in that and I wouldn't be able to if working. Both places I volunteer in have a terrible time getting and keeping volunteers because retirees are the only ones available and they can't always do the job.
  18. ^ The SAHM (and quirky personality) Manifesto! Love it! You said everything I feel but couldn't put into words!
  19. Just curious about people's avatars. I looked for daffodils but couldn't find one I liked. Baby orangutans are ridiculously cute, so went with that. How are we doing creating a new boring thread? You like? I could tell you what I'm planning for breakfast tomorrow (oatmeal)?
  20. Yeah, that's me with the guitar, and no. Why do you ask? Can you sing and play bass? Can carry a tune and used to play the cello, does that work? There's a guy playing behind you so thought it was a band.
  21. Hey, since I have you "alone" , I assume that's you with the guitar in your avatar, right? Are you in a band?
  22. Stay-at-home-mom here, and my kids are in school now, so I don't even have to care for them during the day anymore. My hubby and I have talked about me going back to work many times, but we both agree that until the kids are old enough to be at home for long periods of time, it is better for me to stay home. I can easily care for them when they're sick, run them to any after school activities, help them with their homework as needed, etc. When we want to travel, only my husband has to get the days off. I'm home all summer when they are. We've never had them in childcare and only rarely used a babysitter. We are very fortunate but have worked hard to be able to do this. We live below our means so we can do this. That said, and despite all the benefits I listed, I STILL feel sheepish whenever anyone asks what I do. I STILL find myself surrounded by working moms whenever we socialize and feel inadequate. I STILL, after 10 years as a SAHM, question whether or not I am worth anything. I rarely see women my age in stores during the day, as all the women are at work. The only SAHM friends I have are a few of my kids' friends' moms. Still, I make a point of staying after school to talk with them while my kids play and we occasionally get together for coffee. I'm glad you are in therapy as it sounds like you are definitely suffering from depression. It also sounds like you have a very supportive family and husband, which is amazing! All I can really say to help you is to keep reminding yourself of all the benefits there are to your staying home. Make a list and post it on your mirror to see every morning. By staying home, you are taking care of your mental health and that will make you a better mom and wife. You are available to care for your daughter when she is sick. You can travel easily. Accept the love and help from your family and keep working on your mental health. Get out and find those few moms that stay at home too, and cultivate some friendships as you are able. It will get better if you work at it.
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