Daffodil

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  1. I will probably be in the minority here but . . . eww! 🤢
  2. Oh and what about the trans folk that think people should date them no matter what their preference is? Gawd! I need to go to bed. Goodnight!
  3. Ok, I seem to be on a rant - sorry! I’m better with words than numbers, but let me see if I can calculate that last one out. He is black and a man. Being black makes him a victim automatically (+1), but being a man makes him an oppressor (-1). However, since being black negates his male oppressiveness, he shouldn’t lose that point, so he gets a victim rating of 1. She is female and Latina. Each of those gets a point for sexism and racism, so she gets a 2. Wait, his name sounds vaguely Muslim, so presuming he is a Muslim to some degree, he gets a point, so now they’re even. But wait again! She could be an immigrant or the child of an immigrant, giving her another point! And did the story mention he had spent time in prison? If so, he was undoubtedly there only because he is a black man, giving him another point for racism . . . Do they actually do this in their heads when deciding who to advocate for!?!
  4. All the extremes are shooting themselves in the foot. I understand that some female celebrities are pulling away from the MeToo movement because high profile Muslim members and others are supporting openly anti-semitic Louis Farrakhan. Feminists can't stand Transwomen because that sort of "dilutes" feminism. White progressives claim white people are racist without apparently looking in the mirror. The MeToo movement wants every accusation to be accepted as fact despite the actual fact that humans can lie - even women - and because of that, due process is absolutely essential. And a female Latino(a?) manager of a Chipotle restaurant is fired for telling black men (known to "dine and dash") that they must pay first before receiving food! Wait, she's female and Latina - how can she be racist? How can you fire a woman that has achieved a level of power sought after by feminists? Where are the feminist activists crying foul? I don't know which "victim" I'm supposed to advocate for here. It's completely insane and I don't know whether to laugh or cry!?!
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    Have at it, Y'all...

    What amazes me is that they never take it to the next logical step. If god wants this so bad, why does he leave it to fallible humans to make it happen? Why doesn’t He do it himself? He’s all powerful, right? Where is his “hand” in all this?
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    Wife Advice Needed!

    We have actually had this problem more in the reverse. My husband doesn’t try to fix my problems too often, but I used to get very angry and start ranting when he would tell me the problems he was having at work. He would tell me what he was thinking during the issue and I would say, “Did you tell them that? You should tell them!” (I’m a very easygoing even-tempered person until someone I love is being hurt or treated unjustly - then all bets are off!). He was very patient with my outbursts for a long time, then finally one day angrily told me he couldn’t talk to me anymore. I now have to bite my tongue and just listen when he vents about work if I want him to share with me. Hard to do, but I do it because he needs to vent and I’m the only “safe” one he has to vent to. Relationships are hard - but SO worth it!
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    Wife Advice Needed!

    Yup, when my husband insisted he was thinking about nothing, I couldn’t believe it. But, he is an honest man and I finally quit asking him unless he had a certain look on his face indicating he WAS thinking.
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    Was your family "weird" too?

    My family is like yours - we’re weirdly happy and cohesive. My brothers and I were raised by a mainline denominational minister and SAHM wife. I and one of my brothers went evangelical during college and the other avoided religion until he divorced his first wife and married a nominal catholic. Now they go to the same kind of church we grew up in (but both their kids were baptized catholic, lol!). My evangelical brother is the only one still really religious, including homeschooling all four of his kids, but he never pushes his religion on anyone. I think there are two things that make us all get along so well, and it’s how my husband and I run our family as well - respect and lots of humor. We treat each other as adults and don’t try to control or manipulate each other. Our parents raised us to be confident, self-sufficient independent people and we have gravitated to spouses of the same mold. On top of that is a heavy sprinkling of humor. We spend most of our time laughing till we cry as my dad had a great sense of humor and taught us to see the funny in most things (though he was actually clinically depressed but undiagnosed until his last years). My husband and I often wonder to each other why we get along so well and the only things we can come up with are respect and humor.
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    Wife Update

    Your situation is the same as my husband’s was. He deconverted first and I initially resisted. The most powerful thing for me to finally step over the edge (I was slowly deconverting for years and didn’t realize it) was that he didn’t change when he deconverted. He was still the same kind, logical, supportive, funny, responsible, loyal man I had fallen in love with. He basically opened the door and showed me it would be ok if I went through it too. The thing that has continually reinforced my decision to walk through that door is the fact that my life has not changed AT ALL! Going to church or not, praying or not, reading the Bible or not — those things that I was told were crucial activities for my relationship with god — don’t make the slightest difference in my life. I always had a sneaking suspicion that god didn’t really care because he never answered my prayers. Now I know he doesn’t care because he doesn’t exist and the proof is in the fact that nothing happened when I quit him. Just keep loving her patiently and being the man she fell in love with, answering her questions logically and in a matter of fact way, and her own brain should take care of the rest.
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    Religion is like a p***s

    Don't know where this came from, but it apparently made the rounds of social media awhile back and I just now came across it. Thought I would share it as it made me smile. Having a religion is like having a penis. You're very proud of it. You're glad you've got it. You probably look after it. It may influence some of your decisions. But ultimately, it's private, And there aren't many people who want you to wave it in their faces. ☺️
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    What has happened to me?

    Yup, now it’s just what people do together when they're naked that gets him all bent out of shape!
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    New Game: You Might be an Ex-Christian if.....

    Oh, HELLLLL to the yeah!
  13. 🤣 Awesome! Those stupid songs don't take any talent or creativity whatsoever, and yet people weep and fuss over them. It's just insane!
  14. You took the words right out of my mouth! I used to sing along until they would get to the parts where they would repeat four words 5, 6, 8(!) times and I would just sigh, roll my eyes and wait for it to end. Downright painful!
  15. Well damn! That’s enough for me. Change my status to believer! 🙄
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    Leaving religious family

    Wow, I totally came out all preachy, there, lol. Sorry!
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    Leaving religious family

    You're in the right place, because we've all been where you are now, and some of us have yet to "come out" to our loved ones. It's ok. What I told Samuel is the same for you. It's not your fault that they have allowed a fantasy to take over their thoughts and feelings, and it's not your fault if they are "hurt" by your disbelief. They have done that to themselves. Love them as any child should love their parents, but be gently firm in your resolve. The more logical and unemotional you are when you tell them, the less they will be able to guilt you or manipulate you. I don't know your situation or how fundamentalist your parents are, but the deeper they are in beliefs, the more likely they are to react strongly and try to guilt you. My mother isn't a fundamentalist, but even she threw some whoppers at me. Just be matter-of-fact about it and refuse to be drawn into a debate about any of it. Maybe you enjoy debate, but I would suggest that with family and all the emotions that tend to be involved, debate really isn't a great idea. Just keep telling them that you just don't believe it anymore and you hope that they can respect your lack of belief and know that this does not change how you feel about them.
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    Leaving religious family

    Baby steps are still steps. Keep your eyes open and trust your instincts. If it sounds like BS, it probably is. And you don't have to live her life, nor do you owe her your allegiance to her faith. You are your own person and your own health and sanity should be your focus. Family, especially heavily indoctrinated family, can be very manipulative. If you feel you are being manipulated, step away from them. Don't let guilt get to you. She did her job getting you to adulthood. That doesn't give her the right to dictate how you live your adulthood. Clearly, your brain fights against indoctrination, so go with it!
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    Trip to Rome

    Never been outside the US, but love to watch videos of other people giving ideas and what to think about. My understanding is that Europe as a whole has been inundated with tourists because of cheaper airfare, rewards credit cards, the economic improvement of the Chinese, etc. so the typical tourist sites are overcrowded and unpleasant. If I ever get across the pond, I plan to go to lesser known areas and maybe stay in an AIRBnb situation away from the hotels and such. Here's one site you might check: https://theculturetrip.com/europe/italy/articles/11-hidden-gems-in-rome-even-the-locals-dont-know-about/ I also hear that pick pockets are rampant and have all kinds of creative ways to get to your valuables, so be extra wary and read up on that.
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    God cannot be judged by human standards

    Want to shut them down? Try this: You’re right! I can’t judge something that does not exist.
  21. It is annoying that in times of need, often the most helpful/attentive are Christians. They shower you with food and sympathy, and it just feels really nice to be cared for during those times. I've often wondered what would happen now that we're out, if one of us got cancer or died. Outside of family, would anyone notice or care?
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    Jordan Peterson-Why I don't go to Church

    Actually, according to his version of the story, he is “quite willing” to use whatever pronouns an individual wants him to use, he just does not think the university or any other entity should force him to do so. He has said that on several occasions and I agree with him on that note.
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    Jordan Peterson-Why I don't go to Church

    This may be more simplistic than it is, but I still think the best way to instill it is to just keep using the Golden Rule. If you wouldn't want it done to you, don't do it to anyone else! Except for the extreme sociopaths and psychopaths, I think that pretty much covers it. Also, can we refute some of these darn fallacies, please? I mean, if you say you are a Christ Follower and you proceed to do the exact opposite of everything he ever said to do, you are NOT a true Christ Follower! Sheesh!
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    Jordan Peterson - The Problem With Atheism

    You're welcome! 😀
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    Jordan Peterson-Why I don't go to Church

    They're so interested because he is somewhat on the side of the alt-right, and they are looking for intelligent people they can quote. I say "somewhat" because he denies some of the things that can be easily inferred from what he has said. It is one of the things that I find most irritating about him. How many times have I heard him say, "Oh, but I didn't say that!" and then go off on another word salad.