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Riversong

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    Mother of 2. Recent exC

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  1. Anyone else a fan of Joseph Campbell? He wrote many books centering on comparative mythology. Joseph Campbell I also love this one from Fyodor Dostoevsky: “I think the devil doesn’t exist, but man has created him, he has created him in his own image and likeness.”
  2. Interesting! My mbti is infp and 16 personalities gave me the same.
  3. I am a 5w6. I think enneagram stuff is kind a fun because they show you how your personality can change under stress and what things you can aim for. But you guys have me intrigued. I’ve never heard of the 16 personality test! Going to check that out now!
  4. It’s hard to balance other people’s needs for the church’s support against what we need during De-conversion. So glad you’ve found a helpful therapist! That was key for me. Best wishes.
  5. I’ll be thinking of you. I hope the letter writing can help. It has been two years for me as well- I remember your matrix post was one of the first I read on here.
  6. Yes! I really love these sentiments and hope to pass on the same sort of ideals.
  7. Best wishes for healing. I have found that this doesn’t come from churches or Christian therapists. It’s a hard road but you are worth it.
  8. In the last month, I’ve begun doing trauma release exercises at the advice of my therapist. You can check out the site here-https://traumaprevention.com/n The idea is that, in the case of trauma, energy is trapped in the body. TRE provides a way to release that energy without re-living the emotional aspects of the trauma. I’ve found it helpful so far and have been inspired by the testimonials on the site. Just passing it along in case someone finds it useful! “TRE® is an innovative series of exercises that assist the body in releasing deep muscular patterns of stress, tension and trauma. The exercises safely activate a natural reflex mechanism of shaking or vibrating that releases muscular tension, calming down the nervous system. When this muscular shaking/vibrating mechanism is activated in a safe and controlled environment, the body is encouraged to return back to a state of balance. Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (or TRE®) is based on the fundamental idea, backed by research, that stress, tension and trauma is both psychological and physical. TRE®’s reflexive muscle vibrations generally feel pleasant and soothing. After doing TRE®, many people report feelings of peace and well-being. TRE® has helped many thousands of people globally. TRE® is designed to be a self-help tool that, once learned, can be used independently as needed throughout one’s life, thereby continuously supporting and promoting personal health and wellness.”
  9. It can be hard to find/rediscover hobbies after religion. I used to love cooking and for a long time after life fell apart, I wanted nothing to do with it. A year later, I’m loving it again. i try to stay flexible with hobbies. I’ve never been a person to pick one thing and stick with it. Recent things I’ve tried have been needle felting- use a special needle to repeatedly jab a ball of wool(very therapeutic, lol). Also belly dancing- look up videos by Irina on YouTube. I also live in an older house and have kept busy by painting rooms, or the wood trim. Ive watched many kdramas on the app viki. I enjoy using Pinterest. Even if I don’t pick up a particular craft, I do enjoy collecting ideas. Tryto to be patient with yourself. Losing religion is an immense change.
  10. Yes! If it is of help to anyone, I learned the term scrupulosity thru this forum. It’s a type of ocd, and addressing it in that way, with my therapist, has been incredibly helpful. I can hardly fathom the amounts of emotional energy I put into religion. So glad I’m done with it.
  11. Those quotations are hilarious! Thanks for sharing!
  12. Yssss to the ptsd and religious trauma syndrome. And narcissistic parenting. An antidepressant helped me a lot as well as my therapist who is trained in trauma. She actually is a Christian, but understands the mind fuck that xianity can bring. Best wishes to you. It does get better
  13. Yes- I have a vivid memory from the first week post Christian. I had left a blanket out on the line at night(sorry-Stay at home mom here). I suddenly remembered it and brought it in. In such a case, I would have thought, thank-you god! I would never have remembered that without you! That time, I thought, “great job, self.” Same thing happened like the next week when my toddler daughter broke her leg. Instead of praying the whole way to the emergency room, I talked to her and comforted her. We had a caring physician(even though I didn’t pray for that) and my daughter was fine. just talking to to a friend about how we can be ourselves ow, without having to worry about our “witness.”
  14. I suppose this is my second secular Christmas. Last year, I still went along to the Christmas Eve servie. This year, not gonna happen. ptsd and social anxiety? Pretty sure I don’t need to tag along to a church service to help my mom feel better about herself. Back in therapy this month and it’s been great. Wer are planning on doing a nerd game fest Christmas Eve and then Christmas Day being Chinese food and watching Star Wars.
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