Ann

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  • Birthday 12/19/1970

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    Sharing a good meal with friends and glass of wine is my happy place.

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  1. Ann

    Feel somewhat Relieved

    Sorry to hear about your wife's pain. My mom has had Fibromyalgia for years. As far back as I can remember. She is super sensitive to everything (obvious exaggeration, but sometimes feels that way). Anyway, she had pain in her head and eventually had all of her metal fillings replaced with ceramic fillings or some kind of filling that did not use any metal. Something to do with her being sensitive to the mercury. And then the pain in her head went away. Not offering a diagnosis, just maybe my mom's experience can help your wife in the future. I hope she gets help and a solution to stop her pain soon.
  2. Ann

    #metoo - next on the chopping block

    I think I understand your sentiment of ^ and am not mad about it. There has been a "knee jerk" reaction to the whole #metoo thing and is getting out of hand IMO. I don't know if you realize that women get tired of men accusing them of being hypersensitive or hysterical/crazy etc... It's dismissive. And yet, I am guilty of calling myself "crazy" at times.
  3. Ann

    #metoo - next on the chopping block

    IMO....The #metoo is a "trigger" topic because of fear. I wonder if some men are so defensive about the subject because somewhere in the back of their minds they may have said or done something inappropriate? Most people have because we are human and make mistakes. Not that all men are predators, just that upon reflection, maybe some men think that if "he" got busted for that, then what about that time I said or did...xyz? Does that make me a bad person too? What if my life got ruined because I made a bad decision or had poor judgement? The reason I ask this is because I have said inappropriate things to male coworkers in the past and realize I made a mistake. What if the guy I said those things to felt uncomfortable and didn't say anything? And there lies a double standard because men in general are perceived to not care if a woman told them they looked nice or sexy etc... Some would like the "compliment" and some would not. Same with women. I've also been guilty of harassing a guy. I was in a bar with friends and had too much....long story short, I kept challenging an acquaintance to "whip his dick out." I could see it made him uncomfortable and because I was drunk (no excuse) I continued with the challenge until the poor guy left. I was a dick and and asshole and feel ashamed about my behavior. I wish I could apologize to the guy, but he was a an old acquaintance that I had bumped into and did not see him again or have his contact details...I'm sure he would be grateful for that! If that moment in time could have ruined my life and career....I don't know...maybe it should, but then again I think that the punishment would not have fit the crime. So if a woman (me) has been guilty of such things then I believe it is quite possible many men have also made mistakes and worry that mistake, that they regret and know is wrong could ruin their lives forever.
  4. Ann

    I'm Still Alive....and a STILL Deconvert

    Holy shit Ag! Sorry to hear you've been hurt. How scary! Hope you have a speedy recovery and can get back to doing what you love.....churning out yummy and beautiful tasty treats. 🍪🍰🍮 And I've missed seeing you around here.
  5. Monks always reminded me of Catholic priests....I wonder why they arrested the whistleblower monk? Probably a power/grab for money play. I hope they investigate the shit out of this.
  6. I guess it depends on what you mean by assimilation. I can't speak any of the official languages in Belgium, yet I think the Belgians would say I have assimilated because I'm white and look and dress like them. I also picked up on the different social cues here. Belgians are very quiet and think Hollanders and Americans are loud (we are) and therefore, rude (we are not). They don't like chit chat and if you don't know someone personally, never pay them a compliment because they think you must want something from them. I'm actually looking forward to moving back to the States and being able to strike up a conversation with a stranger and chit chat. Racism in Flanders is pretty prevalent....under the surface, it's not "in your face racism" but when I see the percentage of people that vote for Vlaams Belang (a racist political group veiled under conservative principles...they had to change their name years ago because they were condemned in a trial for racism) we all know it's there. Vlaams Belang's numbers have decreased since 2007, but I don't think it's because all of sudden, people were less racist. When Arabs started to come to Belgium seeking refuge....well, the Belgians I know are not happy about it...because mainly Arabs look different and dress differently. The majority of Arab immigrants are also super conservative because of their religion....the Belgians would say "those" people have not assimilated, yet most of the Arabs learn to speak Dutch and send their kids to public schools. Public pools have been closed because of problems with Arabic men ogling the women at the pool (kinda like American men on French beaches....I can always tell if a man is American when I go to the beaches here...it's as if they've never seen boobies before). I guess it got too creepy in some places and instead of addressing the problem, they closed the pool. Some pools require men to wear speedos for "hygienic reasons" because that keeps the Muslims out. So when I think of assimilation....I think it's more looking, behaving, and being seen on the surface as "one of us" and not the language so much. Belgians in general aren't very religious. They mainly go to church for funerals, weddings, and baptisms. A lot of the kids attend catechism because it's tradition to throw the kid a party upon completion, but after that, church kinda gets left behind. Which is nice because I've never heard a Belgian say "I'll pray for you." Socially, the church does unite the people.
  7. Ann

    So, transparent aluminum is a thing.

    I remember when I got my first cell phone. It was a flip phone and I loved it because I could play pretend Star Trek communicator.....Even though the cell phones now are like little computers, I still miss the flip phone. Hanging up was fun.
  8. I have to admit that speaking different languages in a country will inhibit assimilation. The question I have is....Is that a bad thing? Must we all be cut from the same cloth? I'm asking these questions because your comment has given me a lot to ponder. In Belgium, there are 3 official languages. Dutch, French, and German. The German speaking area is very small and therefore has not power or influence and mainly ignored in the country. But the Dutch speaking side (Flanders) and the French side (Wallonia) are usually at odds with each other.... mostly political. I've heard that in business if a Walloon and Flemish are in a meeting everyone will speak English because each side does not want to give an advantage to opposing side. Belgium even lost a contract with a cargo company that would have brought in jobs (can't remember the name, maybe DHL?) because of the fight over which side the planes were going to approach to land. Each side wanted the other side to bare the brunt of the noise caused by the planes. So language does separate people and brings an "us" vs "them" mentality. I often wonder if Belgium would just pick one language "officially".... and of course everyone could/would speak their own mother tongue at home...if the official language would help things run more smoothly. This will never happen because which language do you choose? On the other hand.....learning to speak a different language has been proven to improve cognitive skills, increase in memory, and lowering the risks of brain ageing. My Belgian friend is fluent in Dutch, English, and French. Whenever we travel abroad, she can easily "pick up" important phrases, read menus, etc...within days of our stay. I'm extremely jealous as I took 6 months of Dutch 5 days a week, 7 hours a day, and cannot communicate at all using Dutch. She also decided to learn Spanish and is almost fluent after taking a course once a week for a year. I'm sure there are many more benefits to learning more than one language that I am not aware of....my question is...Is assimilation the most important thing in a society? I keep hearing the phrase in my head "assimilation is futile" from the Borg in Star Trek....cause I'm a weirdo....and think that maybe there could be a balance between assimilation and the freedom to express yourself using another language than English in the States...I do think English should be the official language, but encourage "foreigners" to speak what they want at home. What benefits would you have if you had been taught both languages? Back to my friend....she married an Englishman and has two boys, now adults. They speak Dutch and English fluently and have two mother tongues because of how they were raised. These boys are very Belgian and were able to assimilate even though English was taught at home. You see not being taught Hindi (I'm assuming Hindi) at home as a positive thing...I see it as a pity and lost opportunity for you.
  9. Ann

    So, transparent aluminum is a thing.

    Transporters next!....oh please let it be transporters...
  10. Ann

    Hell no

    Sin is make believe too??? What will religions use to scare us with if there is no such thing as sin?