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About TylerJ

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    I am 23 and I just recently deconverted after going to bible college and now I am studying forestry instead.

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  1. I lost probably around $15,000 paying for Bible college. Still paying off those student loans for a colossal waste of time. I am going back to school but I already used my pell grants from FAFSA so thank god I still have my grandparents college fund that they didn't let me use on Bible College (which was smart even though I didn't appreciate it at the time. I wonder if they knew I was going to change my mind on this whole religion thing?).
  2. Thank you so much everyone for the responses! I will do my best to look into all of your guys' advice! To answer some people's questions, I don't consider our church to be fundamental per say, but there are definitely a few members who are (One couple in particular believed that the world was going to end last weekend based on that crazy documentary that's grounded in very literal interpretations of Revelation). The members are mostly older conservative people, but the sermons are somewhat progressive sometimes. My husband is very strong in his faith for the most part, but the last few years I have thought I sensed some doubts on his part, particularly after he had a conversation with my atheist younger brother a few months ago. I do think there is a way for our marriage to survive and I think I could even convince him to go to the light so to say, it just all depends on so many variables. My husband is the main bread winner though I do work part time. I am going to school. I do have a work history and I am capable of finding work to support myself, plus family who would support me.
  3. So I met my husband in high school. We went to the same school and youth group and then we went to the same Bible College. We got married a year before we both graduated. It's been 3 years and my husband finally got his first ministry job as a youth pastor and I have lost my faith. I don't know really what to do, when or how to tell him. I am scared of what it will do to his job, that we depend on as the main source of income, and what it will do to our social standing in the community, and most of all our marriage. I wondered if anyone else went through anything similar? Ideally I could convince my husband to see truth and reason, but even then our lives would have to go in a drastic new direction, and I am the kind of person who likes plans and predictability.
  4. I know, that's how I got to be where I am now. I just thought it was an interesting phenomenon and wondered if other people went through the same thing.
  5. Since I have become an ex-christian I have noticed that as I am researching things like evolution and the big bang that I am having to do what I can only assume is repaving neural pathways in my brain. At least that's what it feels like. I have to stop certain thought processes and decide to go in another direction and I find myself coming back to thoughts and ways of thinking that I was taught in Bible College and before in church. I know intellectually that they are incorrect, but my deconverted mind has not broken the habits it's used to yet in order to form new ones. Does anyone else feel like this? What did it feel like? How long did it last for you? I have always thought of myself as a skeptical person who thinks for herself and questions everything and so becoming an atheist I think is a natural evolution of myself, I was just raised in a Christian home and so even though this process feels natural it is strange at the same time; feeling like you are rejecting a piece of programming that you were never aware was being inputted in the first place. Like I knew I was being taught, its just didn't feel like programming. I hope that makes sense.