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    Heathen. Former Catholic. Unequally yoked. Potty-mouth.

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    hell no

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  1. Thank-you for sharing your story. My 17 year old son has Aspergers so your anguish is familiar to me. Despite his best intentions, it seems my son is destined to learn social etiquette the hard way. We all make mistakes and you must learn to forgive yourself. Try not to ruin the present moment by obsessing over the past.
  2. “God’s ways are higher than our ways”. This sentence is one of many in-built, phrases/protective mechanisms of christianity, which keep you from questioning and leaving. This realization was the final straw for my faith.
  3. I replaced god the father with mother nature. Nowdays I am more likely to have a euphoric experience at the top of a mountain rather than inside a church. Nature is endlessly fascinating. One of my new core values is to tread lightly on the earth. I am comforted, weirdly, by the idea that after the climate change apocalypse, when humans become extinct, nature will continue doing it’s thing.
  4. If there is such a thing as a benevolent god then surely he would see your suffering and understand your dilemma. And he would know exactly what it would take to convince you that Christianity is true. Why does he remain silent? How is that fair?? The conclusion I eventually reached was that an interventionist god does not exist.
  5. Bart Ehrman has a book coming out soon about the invention of heaven and hell: https://www.amazon.com/Heaven-Hell-Afterlife-Bart-Ehrman/dp/1501136739
  6. I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. My 22 year marriage did not survive my deconversion. In the final years we fought constantly, mostly about how to raise our 3 kids. He insisted on what I consider to be religious indoctrination. Someday our kids will probably be explaining the divorce to psychiatrists. It’s painful for you now but truly you have been spared an enormous amount of future suffering. Best of luck.
  7. My ex husband had scrupulosity immediately before he went into hospital with psychosis. He was excessively praying, crossing himself, looking for “signs” of satan, etc. Scary stuff to watch. He is now a fundy christian and still thinks that mental illness can be fixed by prayer alone. Good on you for seeking professional help with what has the potential to be a debilitating disorder. Best of luck.
  8. Great information thanks @Margee. Do you consider some versions of Christianity to fit into the “cult” category?
  9. @Myrkhoos Great insights, thank-you. Can you recommend any books about cult manipulation techniques?
  10. Some Christian axioms have been appearing in my brain lately, narrated by voices from my childhood. As an ex-christian, I now recognise these phrases as in-built protective mechanisms of Christianity, burrowed deep into my subconscious, designed to drag me back to the fold. Below are a few: We cannot judge God in human terms. Apostasy is the worst of all sins. Do not put the Lord your God to the test. The fool says in his heart, "There is no God". Trust like a child. You didn’t pray with a sincere heart. Doubting Thomas. The threat of hell (this one should probably be at the top of this list). Recognising these protective mechanisms would have been helpful during my de-conversion process. Do you know of any other platitudes/protective mechanisms of Christianity? I also stumbled across this related video:
  11. I too am 47 and was indoctrinated with camels and needles and such. My catholic priest took a vow of poverty to renounce his worldly possessions. He said that “Without money we would all be rich.” How is your relationship with money unhealthy? Do you waste money? Is money dirty? The root of all evil? I choose to view my frugal attitude towards money as generally a good thing. Our dying planet does not need more consumers. I lead a simple life, growing my own food, shopping at second-hand stores, and teaching my kids to do the same. I do own my own house so of course this makes a big difference. It means that I don’t need a large income or need to work full-time. I would rather have the extra time than the extra cash. My only regret is that I haven’t saved much money for my retirement, so like you, I have some catching up to do. In past eras, extended family would look after their elderly, community would look after the poor. Perhaps that is what is meant by “Without money we would all be rich”?
  12. The christian eastern orthodox church has largely prevented this pedophilia problem by allowing priests to marry and have families. In fact I think marriage is mandatory. Are there any figures for pedophilia among married catholic marionite priests?
  13. The covering up is what disgusted me to the point of deconversion. I was told that humans are fallible and I must not to judge a religion by a few bad apples. Yeah, religions would be great if there were no people in them...
  14. How could one rule out a psychotic episode as the cause of this?
  15. I don’t think religion is a mental illness although Freud did, and I like this quote of his: “Religion is a system of wishful illusions together with a disavowal of reality, such as we find nowhere else but in a state of blissful hallucinatory confusion.”
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