I have gone through decades of escaping from the Xian brainwashing I endured as a child. I was raised in a conservative, Xian family and experienced the Sunday brainwashing sessions, the summer bible school concentration camps, the family prayers and religious holidays. Even though as a young teenager, I started to question it all. As a young adult, even though I did not expect it all, being married to a Catholic, I went along with the program. However, in the last twenty years, I have gone through a complete reevaluation of my life and beliefs. I joined the Freedom from Religion Foundation and continue to support them. I contacted the church I was forced to become a member of, and requested that my name be removed from their membership rolls. I have tried to get a copy of my baptismal so I could have the destroyed as well. I even went so far as to break all contact with my parents and other relatives. They were all responsible for the xian torture. Some might argue that none of these steps were necessary and on the surface that may be true. However, it helps with the breaking the grip that Xianity can place on you.
I still remain married to the Catholic, but do not attend church or other religious based events. If it was ever presented to me that I had to select between remaining married and going to church, or divorcing, the marriage would end.
I have also become very liberal in my political beliefs. When you break away from Xianity, your eyes become open to so many other things.
I can only say to those suffering through any form of Xianity abuse, make a break for it. It is all based on lies to keep people enslaved.