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    I'm an ex-fundie going on two years, navigating this thing called life.
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  1. ^^This. However, I just don't care, most of the time. I know who's being foolish and it sure isn't me.
  2. All of my friendships besides one, and they don't even know I'm an atheist, because I don't need to become the focus of the church gossip circles. We just have nothing in common anymore, and I don't need interventions or to be told that I've gone over to the devil. Some family relationships are strained. Other more distant family relationships I've broken off because they were toxic to begin with. It requires building a whole new support network.
  3. The blame game is never any good. I'd drop him and run. You deserve so much better.
  4. Red flags. This is controlling behavior. In any healthy relationship you are allowed to say I and me when discussing how you feel etc. Why the fuck is this dude telling you you have false leaders and don't know your savior? Religion and brainwashing. My only advice is run, and run fast. There will be better things and someone that values you for who you are, trust me. I'm sorry to tell you this but people who are involved in xtianity are children in many senses of the word and haven't grown up - how can they be when god and Jesus are leading them and they're told they're not allowed to trust themselves and practice self responsibility? I would highly recommend reading Marlene Winell's Leaving the Fold so you understand what exactly is going on here.
  5. Reason number 1 I will never date anyone of any religious persuasion: all of them can turn into monsters overnight if they fail to use logic and reason. Yes, even the most kind and loving of them can do awful, horrific things if they lack those faculties or don't know how to use them.
  6. Girl, count yourself lucky. You do not need that patriarchal crap and yes, that's what you would be getting, even with the most loving of men, if they are religious. In other words, you would be beneath him in every way that matters because his christ is above him and he's above you. You don't want that. You need an equal. Let him go and go after better things.
  7. If you're referring to me, I'm not "looking for offense" - I'm saying don't associate qualities or emotions with beliefs.
  8. It took me a long time to get to where I am. Plenty of people walking over me and taking advantage of me. Years of frustration and resentment. But then a very good thing happened - I left the god delusion and the church, and grew up finally. So I'm just trying to tell people how it is - leave these kinds of people instead of wasting your time with them.
  9. Well then he should have been more clear. As it is, he seems to be implying that male feminists are highly emotional people and can't handle debate.
  10. You didn't actually answer my question, why did you mention "breaking down and crying" in association with feminism? Feminism: the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. Nowhere in that definition do I see specifications for expressing emotion such as crying.
  11. Which is exactly why I wouldn't be friends with them to begin with, they're the kind of fair weather 'I'll be your friend as long as I don't hear about your real shit in life' friends, and what does that say about them? Completely non supportive. I'd move on, upwards and onwards and all that, and if they want to know why, tell them it's because they can't deal with the shitty side of life in a realistic manner.
  12. What's the assumption here - that people who 'break down and cry' as you put it, are feminists? Sure sounds like it. Otherwise, I really can't see why you had to associate the two of them in the same sentence.
  13. Personally, I haven't, the types of people who tell me to toughen up with that meaning take the revolving door into my life and the revolving door right out of it as well. I've had enough of their kind and they're no longer welcome. You're a guy though, so I'm guessing you could be dealing with some typical "don't talk about your shit" machismo. Which is never productive in the end anyhow, imo.
  14. It's better to be left unsaid in that case, and "I don't know what to say, so I won't give advice" is the proper advice. This "toughen up" shit just makes some scenarios ten times worse (by piling guilt on people and making them feel inadequate, when they may have enough to handle as it is).
  15. More context required. "Potentially harmful", in what way? Why are you afraid, possible physical violence, emotional abuse, another reason? Also if you know another person might do you harm, and are afraid of them, I'd ignore any and all 'toughen up' comments and do what's best for me - avoiding or getting away from the threat altogether. You don't require any kind of validation or advice from another human to do what's best for you (that's how they can control you), just do what's best for you.