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AcrobaticDetective last won the day on February 24 2020

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    Ex-Catholic. Gen Xer. Married with children.

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  1. It's hard to say. I never feel like doing it. When I was young, I couldn't stop drawing.
  2. I can see it making sense in a dharmic way. It's good for our own well being right?
  3. I appreciate your thoughts, Fuego. I think we're describing either two different "highs" or two different ends of a spectrum. What you describe is much more mystical and otherworldly than what I think I was getting out of it. The "high" I felt was not so much a thing (mystical experience), but more of the lack of some thing (emptiness).
  4. I quit drinking years ago. Close to two decades ago. No AA. I just quit because it made me feel like a distorted version of myself. It was around the same time I got involved at church. Really involved. Over the years, as I lost that involvement and spiritual high, my ability to feel joy declined. As an atheist, it's completely gone. Was I just replacing one high (drunk) with another (spiritual), but never actually recovering? Or is this just religious trauma syndrome? Any insights? If a recovery group would help, do you have any recommendations? I'd want to avoid any theistic groups like AA.
  5. "Love your enemy." I haven't given up on the concept yet (it is deeply ingrained in me), but I am questioning it. Does it actually make sense from a humanistic or secular point of view? Taoist? P.S. I know it's not followed by most Christians, but I really tried to when I was a Christian.
  6. Being Christian for almost half a century has left a mark on me. Easter was always my favorite religious holiday. As a nonbeliever, as they say, I'd like to find an alternative way to celebrate. I was thinking of following some of the older pagan traditions. I'm not interested in goddess worship (still an atheist). Any ideas? What are some of your ex-Christian traditions?
  7. You're absolutely right. A part of my struggle is that I didn't have a very good upbringing. My Catholic faith (something I found as a new father and new adult) became the parents I never had. I used the church and Catholic writers to learn how to be a father. So even though I'm in my forties now, I feel like I'm flying blind. Fuckity for sure.
  8. That's an excellent point. Gives me something positive to focus on. Responding from my phone so please forgive the brevity.
  9. I don't think I have. I have church dreams though. Dreams where I am back at church.
  10. When I first admitted I lost my faith I found out my wife and children had already lost theirs or were at least to the point where they were ready to let go and my loss gave them permission. Here it is a year later. They talk about "Christians" and "the church" with so much disdain. They seem legitimately hurt by our prior life as Christians. It makes me feel awful. Wether it was then or now, I have always tried to do what I thought was best for them. But when I hear their complaints, disdain and ridicule towards our previous life I feel sick to my stomach with guilt. Have you struggled with this? Any advice?
  11. Wow! What a story. I'm glad you got free of that world.
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