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    Fox Lake, Illinois
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    writing movie reviews, reading on skepticism topics, drawing
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    I'm a woman in her early 40s who has always found religion (and the lack thereof) fascinating. I love spending time with my friends, family and pit bull.

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  1. Hello all, I just moved into a new condo days ago. It's the first time I'll be on my own since 2005. I've almost always lived with friends, family or love interest; it's exciting and scary at the same time. Anyway, I've been thinking about Christian music and how I miss it sometimes. I used to be an Amy Grant fan, but now if I listen to her songs the words get in the way, so to say. For example, she has one called "In A Little While." Basically, the words tell you that although life is hard, in a little while we'll be dead and in heaven. The melody is pretty, but you can see why the lyrics don't sit right anymore. Does anyone else have fond (if complicated) memories of Christian music?
  2. I left the Christian church about 20 years ago. (Well, now I go to a Unitarian Universalist church but mainly for the sense of community. They're accepting of atheists, agnostics and free thinkers.) For years afterward I still feared hell. Sometimes I prayed, "If You want me to believe again, You have to give me good reasons. It's not fair to send me to hell for unbelief, if You didn't provide evidence." But as the saying goes, the heavens were silent and Christian apologetics didn't convince me. For example, Lee Strobel's Case for Christ seemed completely one-sided. Over time, my fear of hell has diminished but it is stubborn. It's like the claws of religion, digging deep into you. It's not rational, but over time and with thought and reason it gets better. I agree with MOHO: baby steps.
  3. In answer to the original question... I've never been married (and have been dating other women on and off, for years now). But when I was in the Christian church, the misogyny of the Bible and its God always disturbed me. Even as a teenager, I remember talking to a pastor about it one on one. He joked that yes, although the Bible does instruct women to submit, we all knew who really wore the pants in families, ha ha. It made me wonder at the time why the Bible said that at all, if we could just chuckle and ignore it. When I was in my early 20s I recommitted myself to God. As part of that, I had frequent Bible study meetings with an older woman, my spiritual mentor. She thought my use of gender inclusive language was funny and unnecessary. She talked about wanting her husband to lead more often, so she could happily submit as a Christian wife. For various reasons we had a falling out. Her attitude about the role of women really bothered me, among other issues. When I was a Christian I read lots of books on the subject (women in the church). I was a complementarian. We believed in equal partnership between men and women. I remember one argument, that the Bible's passage on the man being the "head" of the woman only meant he was her "source," like the head of a river. After all, woman originally came from man in Genesis. Even at the time I thought it wasn't a very strong argument. The sexism in the church upset me all my life. I really don't miss that kind of environment.
  4. In Matthew 16:28, Jesus says, "Some who are standing here will not taste death before they see the Son of Man coming in his kingdom." Obviously, this didn't happen. Some Christians say he was referring to the Transfiguration, but that seems contrary to the plain meaning of the text - that some people in Jesus' era would live to see his return to earth. So how do Christians understand the passage? One could say Jesus never said this, but then the Bible would be wrong and not inerrant. Apparently, either the Bible was wrong or Jesus himself was mistaken. It's one or the other.
  5. Hi. I'm looking for other people who are interested in skepticism, atheism, apologetics and Christianity. I grew up in the Lutheran church. In my early 20s I earned a degree in biblical studies, but that experience led to my deconversion. It's a strange analogy, but I think of it like someone who loved hot dogs finding out exactly how they are made. Now I don't ever want to eat another hot dog. Goofy, I know. But I'm still fascinated by the big questions, and how and why people believe. Thanks for reading.
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