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Galien last won the day on July 5 2013

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  1. I am SO bad at accepting things I cannot change

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    2. bfuddled


      I hear ya. Sorry you're dealing with crappy people *hugs*

    3. milesaway


      same here. i've had it up to here with one-sided relationships. :(

    4. Margee


      'Acceptance' is the impotant key to accepting things that one cannot change. It's not an easy job...

  2. No mate I don't believe that for a minute, I think it is a silly made up concept. I avoid assholes like the plague, and I don't abuse people with power. I see what is there, in plain sight.
  3. When I was a kid I liked the song JOY JOY this must surely mean, jesus first and yourself last and others in between. That resonated with my natural propensity for looking after people, so I learned early to care deeply about everyone's needs. To me this has been the focus of my life, the way I thought we were meant to live to make the world a better place for all of us. During my time as a christian I was often puzzled by people not reciprocating that. I have spent a lot of my life crying because I think deep in my heart I knew the truth but just did not want to face it in all its glory.
  4. Some of us have early experiences with men being pigs, and no one really comes along to change our mind. All feminists have different reason for thinking what they do. Mine have to do with watching the behaviour of men for over 50 years. I see a lot of selfishness, ego and immaturity, and the women left behind to clean up the mess. For me, most men never actually grow up and realise the world doesn't revolve around them. I need to be with a man who is grown up enough to realise that is not the case. Lucky for me I am.
  5. Galien


    Just went to see my therapist. I have had such a long history of not getting my needs met. Seems every time in my life I have mentioned them to people, the people go away, so I just let things slide when I should not. My mother taught me I was not allowed to have needs, every time I tried to get them met I would be punished by her emotional withdrawal or her violence, or her getting angry at me because I had them in the first place. My ex husband used to do the same thing to me, the cult, the church, even my own daughter. I told my daughter that her abandonment of me had utterly destoyed me as
  6. Galien


    For just one year of my life, just one, I would like it if there was nothing to be angry about. That is yet to happen. No liars, no emotional. retards, no bludgers, no people where I have to carry the whole load for the relationship, no fairweather friends, no people who havent dealt with their own emotional issues. I'm just so fucking tired of having to beg people for the things I need. I want my life to be more than just working and my heart hurting and washing sox.
  7. University is a business like any other. It is held up in high school as a big deal, but like most things in life, when you get to experience them you realise they aren't that much of a big deal after all.
  8. Galien

    Different View

    As it happens, this morning I have had two fights, one amongst a group of ex christians about why its not okay to be an asshole and another in a group of complex post traumatic stress disorder people who wanted to tell me everything that happens in life is always the parents fault. Perhaps I just dont choose my audience well
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    Different View

    In the past few ywars it has really come home to me how differently I view the world from the average person. Even growing up I saw things that other people either didn't see, or ignored. I was always that kid who pointed out the emporer was naked, and sadly for me I was surrounded by people who were not very bright. They laughed at my questions and told me my curiosity about the world was odd. I was lucky enough though to have access to libraries, that answered a lot of my questions when other people wouldn't. Wasn't until I violated a social norm that I realised exactly how different I a
  10. Galien

    Love Doesn't Work

    I can accept it, I just fucking hate it, and I hate being expected to live in it, but it is not unusual for gifted people to be stymied by being able to see how good we could be..... Never mind. Big fat smile commin' at ya Margee
  11. Galien

    Torn In Two

    You sound like a very sensitive person. As such you will always feel a bit different, and thats okay because you are. It isn't easy to see the right path but eventually you will find it.
  12. Galien

    Love Doesn't Work

    Margee, you are so right. That sweet little girl I loved so much is a selfish dick, and I can't do anything much about that. It does help to know that someone is listening, and thank you for it
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    Love Doesn't Work

    Well, I have had severe depression for forty years, so it was hardly bliss. I am glad I am able to see things more clearly now. Unfortunately though I see now how much christianity was holding my existential depression at bay, and now I no longer have any illusions, life is almost harder to bear than ever. Hopefully I will find a way through it.
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    Love Doesn't Work

    My daughter is 24. It appears she has borderline personality disorder and she won't get help. But because I am so emotionally fragile, and she has watched me suffer with what happens when people withdraw from me, I cannot understand why she would make me suffer like others have. All I did was ask her to get help, and get off the couch where she has been lying for the past 4 years refusing to work or study. If she is mentally ill, fine, but get help and don't just lay there. After I asked her to stop parasiting off me, now she has been parasiting off her boyfriend for a year and refuses to
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