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  1. When were christians EVER honest?
  2. Mericans, always need a war on something. I find the whole halloween thing completely ridiculous, but then I feel the same way about all our commercially driven celebration days.
  3. I was a traumatised child with overblown empathy. Jesus was my hero, and I wanted to love everyone just like him. I also felt personally responsible for his crucifixion. God was the kind loving parent I never had in real life. I was like a sheep to the slaughter.
  4. I am SO bad at accepting things I cannot change

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    2. bfuddled


      I hear ya. Sorry you're dealing with crappy people *hugs*

    3. milesaway


      same here. i've had it up to here with one-sided relationships. :(

    4. Margee


      'Acceptance' is the impotant key to accepting things that one cannot change. It's not an easy job...

  5. No mate I don't believe that for a minute, I think it is a silly made up concept. I avoid assholes like the plague, and I don't abuse people with power. I see what is there, in plain sight.
  6. When I was a kid I liked the song JOY JOY this must surely mean, jesus first and yourself last and others in between. That resonated with my natural propensity for looking after people, so I learned early to care deeply about everyone's needs. To me this has been the focus of my life, the way I thought we were meant to live to make the world a better place for all of us. During my time as a christian I was often puzzled by people not reciprocating that. I have spent a lot of my life crying because I think deep in my heart I knew the truth but just did not want to face it in all its glory.
  7. Some of us have early experiences with men being pigs, and no one really comes along to change our mind. All feminists have different reason for thinking what they do. Mine have to do with watching the behaviour of men for over 50 years. I see a lot of selfishness, ego and immaturity, and the women left behind to clean up the mess. For me, most men never actually grow up and realise the world doesn't revolve around them. I need to be with a man who is grown up enough to realise that is not the case. Lucky for me I am.
  8. Galien


    Just went to see my therapist. I have had such a long history of not getting my needs met. Seems every time in my life I have mentioned them to people, the people go away, so I just let things slide when I should not. My mother taught me I was not allowed to have needs, every time I tried to get them met I would be punished by her emotional withdrawal or her violence, or her getting angry at me because I had them in the first place. My ex husband used to do the same thing to me, the cult, the church, even my own daughter. I told my daughter that her abandonment of me had utterly destoyed me as
  9. Galien


    For just one year of my life, just one, I would like it if there was nothing to be angry about. That is yet to happen. No liars, no emotional. retards, no bludgers, no people where I have to carry the whole load for the relationship, no fairweather friends, no people who havent dealt with their own emotional issues. I'm just so fucking tired of having to beg people for the things I need. I want my life to be more than just working and my heart hurting and washing sox.
  10. For me, the best thing to do was walk away from all of it. Obsessing over it just made me crazier and crazier, and I had to set a boundary for myself. This shit owned my whole mind for four decades, all it ever did was keep me in a loop of fear and uncertainty. Now when people ask me questions about it, I always say I just don't care.
  11. University is a business like any other. It is held up in high school as a big deal, but like most things in life, when you get to experience them you realise they aren't that much of a big deal after all.
  12. Galien, you've been de-converted for quite a while haven't you? Yes, it started in about 2007 I think then just took on a life of its own. An estrangement with my kid over the past 12 months has made everything worse. It is like both of my main foundations in life have fallen apart. I am lucky I have a kind, loving partner, but not even that is holding me together this time. I guess its just too much to lose.
  13. I feel the same way, kind of like an orange with all the juice sucked out of it. After losing christianity I still had my family, then my kid stopped talking to me. I feel like everything that has kept me alive is gone. I'm like a shadow these days, I feel like I might blow away in the wind.
  14. Its pretty hard not to feel bad living in a world that has lost its way. If I had to live in America I'd HAVE to be ripped all the time or I'd hurt someone.
  15. I was hoping to spend eternity with a totally honest, totally pure being. Until then I was hoping to spread love in the world. Naive as fuck? You betcha.
  16. Galien

    Different View

    As it happens, this morning I have had two fights, one amongst a group of ex christians about why its not okay to be an asshole and another in a group of complex post traumatic stress disorder people who wanted to tell me everything that happens in life is always the parents fault. Perhaps I just dont choose my audience well
  17. Galien

    Different View

    In the past few ywars it has really come home to me how differently I view the world from the average person. Even growing up I saw things that other people either didn't see, or ignored. I was always that kid who pointed out the emporer was naked, and sadly for me I was surrounded by people who were not very bright. They laughed at my questions and told me my curiosity about the world was odd. I was lucky enough though to have access to libraries, that answered a lot of my questions when other people wouldn't. Wasn't until I violated a social norm that I realised exactly how different I a
  18. It's just plain mean to pick on people's beliefs. All of us have had to struggle with losing our religion. For the very senstive among us, that is a profoundly difficult experience. If we then go on to explore other belief systems that is no one's business but our own. No one needs to be calling other people names or telling them they are stupid. It is usually the deep people who explore belief, and the shallow who laugh at them. Immature and unkind.
  19. I just wanted to love people, and I would have been like that with or without christianity.
  20. Life doesn't have to be fair, but it is people who make it that way with their greed and ego and stupid pecking orders. Bring on death I say, has to be better than this idiocy.
  21. I have Complex PTSD, and I have had it all my life. It was made much worse by churches not understanding what was wrong with me and blaming my distress on my own lack of faith. I was in a cult for nine years which eventually expelled me, and another church that asked me to leave. I have lost all my "friends" twice, then my faith. The effect on me has been devastating in terms of my disgust of authority figures and my inability to trust people. I still have nightmares about being shamed in front of the church. I will never be able to be part of an organisation again. I can barely tolerate it fo
  22. I think women and men see it differently also. Women are trained from birth to look after people, being a mother means you lose yourself for decades. Any time you try and do anything for yourself and not others people call you selfish.
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