Ro-bear

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About Ro-bear

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  • Birthday 06/12/1959

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    None I know of

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  1. Losing something one used to share with loved ones is tough. Also, I feel constrained about expressing my worldview because of where I live, the kind of folks I work with, etc. It makes me an outsider in some respects, and sometimes I like to feel as if I belong.
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    I cannot have friendships with Christians.

    Most of my friends are Christians. Religion almost never comes up. Are you sure you are not sabotaging your relationships with Christians? No offense intended.
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    Goodbye Ernie

    Thanks to all for condolences. I went back to work today because it seemed easier than staying home. It still hasn't hit me. It wasn't a big surprise. Dad has been going downhill for weeks. Diagnosed with Alzheimers in Oct., moved to memory unit in Nov, fell and broke hip in Jan, then just got weaker and weaker... Dad died real hard. The last week he didn't speak a single intelligible word, never seemed fully awake, wouldn't make eye contact, never left the bed, which had to have rails to keep him in.. When he was animated, he had the look of a frightened animal. He writhed and moaned a lot. He made one nurse throw her back out when he rolled out before we got the rail bed. He bit another when she moved him to prevent bed sores. Bit her right on the tit; she showed me the impression. Hospice provided palliative care, but shit it wasn't enough. No one would let an animal go through that, but a person has to. If I ever get that diagnosis, I hope I go straight home, set my affairs in order, and blow my head off. Sorry for the downer, but I can't talk about this in person right now, so I do it here. Service Saturday. Younger daughter will go straight to prom after, then off to college next fall. *sigh* I'm just not that comfortable with changes of this magnitude.
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    Goodbye Ernie

    My dad died this morning. All I felt was relief, but I left school anyway. I figured helping Mom with the arrangements would be better than risking an emotional breakdown at school. Anyway, got through all that and still nothing. I think it will happen sometime, though. I just hope I'm alone when it does. I wish it were the weekend.
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    Thoughts On Homosexuality...

    I figure that gay people find out they are gay instead of choosing it. Like straight people do, and, I presume, bisexual people.
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    I Am Superior To You

    I like books, especially old ones. I like the way they smell. I like the feel of my fingers on the page.
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    Jesus-Free Christmas

    How many of you still celebrate Christmas? I mean decorations and all. I love my Jesus-free Christmas and always have. The baby Jesus was always the lamest part of the holiday, and once I kicked his ass to the curb my Christmas spirit has increased ten-fold. Yes, I have a tree, Yes, I put up lights. Yes, I decorate the mantle. I even have a freaking yule log. I play the holiday music, though I generally favor the secular pieces. I say "Merry Christmas" to people. Christians stole the holiday from the pagans, and now I steal it from them. My kids have always loved Christmas, but for years they had no idea what the basis of it was. Apparently, that does not matter much to kids.
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    Catheter Ablation

    The doc thinks it went well. They sent me home yesterday. My body hurts so bad I can hardly move. I don't know why this procedure left me in such a state. Maybe I don't do anesthesia well or something. They gave me the weak-ass hydros, not the good one I had for shingles a few years back. But I was strong enough to shower today. In a month I have a follow-up visit and maybe we'll start to see if it worked. Doc says 70% chance. Thanks to all for good wishes. LongWayAround, your story is very encouraging, but I would so hate to go another round. This has rendered me so incapacitated that I almost wish I had expired on the table. How anyone can tolerate this pain I'll never know. Still, if I'm running a 5K in a year it will be well worth it.
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    Catheter Ablation

    Anyone here ever had one to fix a-fib? I'm doing this tomorrow A.M. and I am a bit nervous. I can't go on with the condition, though. I have to do something because it is affecting my ability to do my job.
  10. You haven't changed a bit, BO. I guess it's terminal.
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    Is Islam Hostile To Religious Freedom?

    Did someone suggest that Islam was not hostile to religious freedom? LOL. Who are these straw men?
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    Your Politics

    I left Christianity long before I was an adult or interested in politics. My politics went from Reagan Republican to Libertarian to left of everybody Democrat.
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    Plan For Retirement

    I am no financial expert. I am an English teacher. I have never earned more than 50K in salary. But in four years, at the age of 59, I will retire a fairly wealthy man. I still can't believe it myself. Here is how it happened: Last week I found out I had an account I didn't know about. Although my first degree was in business, I have no interest in it, nor any aptitude. My wife handles the finances, except for my stock and 401K notifications, which she hands to me and I put away without looking at too closely. My 401K from a job I left seventeen years ago had an account balance almost exactly matching one of my two other stock accounts, so I somehow conflated the two in my mind. I had made no contributions nor made any changes in the account in all that time. The stock I bought back when I was with the company has flourished in the years since. So how did a clueless wonder like myself end up with such a fat retirement? I bought stock in my late twenties and thirties. That is the only smart thing I did (besides not selling any of it); everything else I did, like losing track of the account, failing to diversify or rebalance, was stupid. I'm lucky I didn't lose it all, not that I would have noticed. I never sell any of the stuff, because I bought it so I wouldn't eat dog food in retirement. I didn't think Social Security would be around still, because I was a Republican and I believed other Republicans. So my wife and I have been living modestly for over twenty years with the reasonable expectation of a comfortable retirement. When we found out about this account, we nearly fainted. We will be eating quality groceries in exotic locales. I post this only partially to boast. The thing is, I have to tell someone. I don't want to tell my friends and family, at least not yet. What I want most of all is to give some advice to the younger members here. Plan your retirement NOW, while you are young. Buy as much stock as you can afford, and live within your means. Don't carry a credit card balance. Buy, don't rent. You wouldn't believe how fast the years go by. FYI, I am on top of things now. I am halfway through the diversification/rebalancing process to reduce my risk and position myself to retire. Don't count on Social Security to fund your retirement. There is practically no such thing as a pension anymore. It's up to you. Max out your 401K contributions, especially if your company matches contributions. If your company has a stock purchase program, go for it. Don't leave money on the table. Over time, that shit can grow like you wouldn't believe.