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Ro-bear

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About Ro-bear

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  • Birthday 06/12/1959

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    None I know of

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  1. Losing something one used to share with loved ones is tough. Also, I feel constrained about expressing my worldview because of where I live, the kind of folks I work with, etc. It makes me an outsider in some respects, and sometimes I like to feel as if I belong.
  2. Most of my friends are Christians. Religion almost never comes up. Are you sure you are not sabotaging your relationships with Christians? No offense intended.
  3. When the Santa myth was exploded, God was collateral damage. I didn't have much faith anyway, since God was invisible and didn't talk to me; he was practically nonexistent. At least Santa left presents and appeared in department stores, though the number and fakeness of Santas raised suspicions. But when the parents came clean about Santa it was all over but the residual fear. I was about six I guess. By twelve or thirteen the maybe-I'm-wrong fear was gone. I mentioned something once about not believing in front of my mother and quickly learned that was something I should keep to myself. That's what I have done, more or less, in the forty years since. But Mom and Dad know. Everybody knows, but I don't think they talk about it.
  4. Donal Lunny and Andy Irvine, "The Blacksmith" Killer.
  5. Can't get in. I'm seriously jonesing.

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      You're mailbox... messagebox is full !

  6. If you feel the need to say "I am not ashamed" of your faith you probably are ashamed or sense that you should be.
  7. People look at complex problems and long for simple solutions, Bro Jeff. It's wishful thinking and despair as much as stupidity, thinks Ro-bear.
  8. You will never be able to reconcile your lack of belief with her belief. You will only end up hurting each other.
  9. Actually, I am quite pro "withholding information" but I don't think that's the same thing as telling a blatant lie. True. And watching a baby drown is not the same as drowning a baby.
  10. But if you get caught lying, doesn't that make things much more complicated? Doesn't lying about some of those things just make you suspect? For example saying you never ever wished you'd remained single. Don't we all have those feelings sometimes? Why can't you just say so? My lies tend to fall into the unverifiable category, so getting caught is not a problem. For instance, I don't lie about where I've been, who I've seen, or what I've been up to. I don't cheat on my wife or have a secret life, so those sorts of lies are unnecessary. As for the Do you ever wish you had remained single question, it calls for a yes or no response, and my honest response is more complicated than that. It's basically along the lines of "Yes, because then I could have a variety of sex partners and I wouldn't have to put up with your annoying traits and I could do whatever I want, but overall I like our life together very much and I love you and the kids and I would not trade for what's behind Curtain Number Two so can we skip the fight and go straight to the make-up sex?" So "no" is simpler for me, and there is my inner Thoreau that constantly exhorts me to "simplify, simplify." Sheesh. I think you can tell the truth and not lay all that out too, ya know? How about,"well, sometimes I think the single life might be nice but then I think of how much I love you and I wouldn't trade you and the kids in for anything"! Hey, that is good! If I could consistently pull that off, I would rarely have to lie at all. Unfortunately, I have a heavy hand on the truth spigot, and when I open it you wouldn't believe how much honesty gushes forth. Therefore, I have to try to be moderate with the truth, as, indeed, I try to be moderate in all things. This set of exchanges is an excellent example of an honest person being portrayed as a liar. Every time I see this I shake my head. Robear was the only one with the guts to fess up. The most honest person here. And damnit, someone nailed him on it. And that my friends is why I, like Robear, will tell the same types of lies. Most people are not smart enough or perceptive enough to see the innocence of his confessions. Go ahead slam me for what I said. It would just demonstrate that many people can't deal with an honest exchange. Mongo I like ro bear too, but then I would have to ask, why the assumption that various sex partners would be something better than just the one who loves you, that his boredom with the one is somehow her fault, and that his traits are any less anoying than hers?? The grass is NOT always greener. Of the three "assumptions", I only assume the first. Prior experience as a single man supports that assumption. I have been with no one but my wife in over twenty years. I love my wife, but I would be far more excited to find I was sleeping with, say, Samantha Brown of Travel Channel fame tonight. I think lots of guys are like that. Just shoot us all, me first I guess. I do not assume my "boredom" with her is her fault; same thing would happen with Samantha Brown after twenty years. I do not assume her traits are any more annoying than mine. In fact, I resent the implication that her ability to annoy outstrips my own prodigious abilities in that regard. I am so good at it, I don't even try to annoy others but somehow manage. My dear wife is probably as annoyed by my conflict avoidance behavior as I am by her conflict seeking behavior. And, because we love each other, she often gives me the peace I need and I sometimes give her the conflict she craves. Mostly for the make-up sex, though.
  11. But if you get caught lying, doesn't that make things much more complicated? Doesn't lying about some of those things just make you suspect? For example saying you never ever wished you'd remained single. Don't we all have those feelings sometimes? Why can't you just say so? My lies tend to fall into the unverifiable category, so getting caught is not a problem. For instance, I don't lie about where I've been, who I've seen, or what I've been up to. I don't cheat on my wife or have a secret life, so those sorts of lies are unnecessary. As for the Do you ever wish you had remained single question, it calls for a yes or no response, and my honest response is more complicated than that. It's basically along the lines of "Yes, because then I could have a variety of sex partners and I wouldn't have to put up with your annoying traits and I could do whatever I want, but overall I like our life together very much and I love you and the kids and I would not trade for what's behind Curtain Number Two so can we skip the fight and go straight to the make-up sex?" So "no" is simpler for me, and there is my inner Thoreau that constantly exhorts me to "simplify, simplify." Sheesh. I think you can tell the truth and not lay all that out too, ya know? How about,"well, sometimes I think the single life might be nice but then I think of how much I love you and I wouldn't trade you and the kids in for anything"! Hey, that is good! If I could consistently pull that off, I would rarely have to lie at all. Unfortunately, I have a heavy hand on the truth spigot, and when I open it you wouldn't believe how much honesty gushes forth. Therefore, I have to try to be moderate with the truth, as, indeed, I try to be moderate in all things.
  12. That's great. Did you pen that? Yes. I'm sure it is the subconscious influence of Oscar Wilde, from whose lips this sort of folk wisdom fell like leaves in autumn. I read The Picture of Dorian Gray last week, and it drips with aphorisms.
  13. But if you get caught lying, doesn't that make things much more complicated? Doesn't lying about some of those things just make you suspect? For example saying you never ever wished you'd remained single. Don't we all have those feelings sometimes? Why can't you just say so? My lies tend to fall into the unverifiable category, so getting caught is not a problem. For instance, I don't lie about where I've been, who I've seen, or what I've been up to. I don't cheat on my wife or have a secret life, so those sorts of lies are unnecessary. As for the Do you ever wish you had remained single question, it calls for a yes or no response, and my honest response is more complicated than that. It's basically along the lines of "Yes, because then I could have a variety of sex partners and I wouldn't have to put up with your annoying traits and I could do whatever I want, but overall I like our life together very much and I love you and the kids and I would not trade for what's behind Curtain Number Two so can we skip the fight and go straight to the make-up sex?" So "no" is simpler for me, and there is my inner Thoreau that constantly exhorts me to "simplify, simplify."
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