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About Taphophilia

  • Birthday 10/28/1966

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    The state that looks like a limp penis
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    Books, museums, traveling (domestic, foreign, interstellar), warping time, folding space.
  • More About Me
    I am an Ex Christian

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  • Still have any Gods? If so, who or what?
    Porcelain God. (but only when I drink)

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  1. Christmas is the religious participation of celebrating discounts at retail stores like Best-Buy and Wal-Mart. It involves parking lots, standing in long lines to buy things made by poorly paid little Honduran kids and sometimes the ritualistic human sacrifice, known as trampling. I refuse to participate.
  2. As I've read the Christian responses here, one thing struck me, and has been mentioned. They only are willing to understand their own worldview of religion, which is the Americanized version of Fundamentalism. It's as if they insist on living in a bubble and refuse to give any merit to and outright reject any other ideas or cultures other than their own. Sad really, to be so shallow. Which brings me to "the love of Jesus". From a fundamentalist perspective, I believe this is a self-esteem issue. Their self worth is tied into something outside themselves. It's based on their emotions and their own feelings. "I can love myself because Jesus loves me." They have to color everything with "Jesus love" because it the foundation of their self-worth. I can certainly see how someone who needs something to provide them with self-worth and self-love not be able to understand why we have rejected it.
  3. Just in case you missed the big letters at the top of the page, we are the one's who have rejected Christianity. I have not seen you ask any questions to gain any understanding of why left the faith. To make assumptions, like you've made, of the very people you are addressing is idiotic. I would also like to point out this is Ex-Christian.net NOT Atheist.net. While many here are atheists, not all of us are. Just because someone rejects Christianity does not automatically make them an atheist.
  4. We find the nearest tree and hug it. Which is one of the easiest ways to spot an atheist. As an atheist cannot walk by a tree without hugging it in order to listen to nature.
  5. If you really want to know... It wasn't like we woke up one day and decided to not believe any longer. Most of us here were as invested in our Christian beliefs as you are. It was a process. We searched our hearts and prayed, yes, we prayed. It came to the point where we had no choice. As you can well imagine it was a painful process. To simply think we rejected Jesus or our Christian beliefs lightly or to think that we simply wanted to "live in the world" is ridiculous, or at best, and shows very little depth to your understanding of why we left the faith. I did not reject Jesus. He slowly disappeared as I tried desperately to cling to him. Here are the books I read. They were and are some pretty scholarly books. I had gone to the library and requested them through the lending library program. _Early Gentile Christianity and it's Helenistic Background_ _The Ancient Mysteries - A Sourcebook of Ancient Texts_ _The Riddle of the Resurection_ _Deconstructing Jesus_ _Celsus On The True Doctrine_ While, yes, my faith was in crisis, I still wanted to believe. The book that killed my faith was this one: _The Case For Christ - A Journalist's Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus_
  6. What I find disturbing is organizations such as "Feed The Children" or "Christian Children's Fund" spend enormous amounts of money on just advertising. They buy expensive time slots all over the US. A fraction of what they spend on advertising could feed an entire village for years. It doesn't seem to be about helping anyone, but eliciting an emotional reaction, in a prime time slot, to get donations.
  7. Vendredie, The guy was an immature douche bag who was not even creative enough to come up with a valid excuse to break up with you. I would suggest this to you. If you see him in public pretend like you barely know who he is. You are happy, confident, and too busy to even remember some guy you went out with for a week. If you are pissed, scream in your room, hit pillows, curse him in private or on forums. In public, you barely remember him because he's not even under your radar.
  8. movingon, The problem I see here is not the religious beliefs. You've been dating this guy a couple of months and your mother already has you getting married to him and having children with him. This is the huge problem. Why does your mother think any man you dating, you are going to run to the alter and start cranking out kids? As if your ultimate fulfillment in life is to be a wife and a mother.
  9. Love is not an emotion and god has nothing to do with it. It's part of the reward system in the brain. The brain then links it to all types of specific emotions. Lust (the craving for sexual gratification), driven by androgens and estrogens. Attraction (romantic or passionate love, characterized by euphoria when things are going well, terrible mood swings when they’re not, focused attention, obsessive thinking, and intense craving for the individual), driven by high dopamine and norepinephrine levels and low serotonin. Attachment (the sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner) driven by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin.
  10. As Hans says, the other dimensions are in the here and now. They are also on a subatomic level not above us or apart from us. What you are describing here is not a dimension in science but an parallel/alternate reality which is science fiction, not science fact.
  11. I never set out to deconvert from Christianity. As a matter of fact, I set out to reinforce my faith. The more I read the more I realized that outside the Bible and Christianity, there is no evidence that it's true. Yes, a lot of physicists believe in god. I asked my boyfriend, whose father is a nuclear physicist, why this is. He said they see and understand order. However, if there is a god, it's not the Christian god who created everything perfect. It would have to be a god who learns from nustakes and builds on experience. It would have to be more like a committee of engineers, "We'll try this and see if it works." Edit: Even if there is a god, how does that guarantee an afterlife?
  12. Abi, While I do not know for sure, it is only from experience in that I've seen behavior like Ameen's before. As I read what Ameen wrote, as he rambled on and on, I was simply reminded of a very hormonal teenage girl. I have seen this type of behavior in transgendered male to females who begin taking estrogen and go through a puberty. I cannot say, for sure, that is what it is, as I have no way of knowing, but the mood swings, the manipulation, the touchiness, the whining, and above all the "No one understands me!!" So, who only knows? It is simply pure speculation on my part and the fact that Ameen was acting like a whiny ass 7th grade girl. (If there is a hell, it's not fire and brimstone. There could never be any eternal torture inflicted that could compare to the pain, suffering and anguish of an eternity of middle school.) I am going to tell you this straight. You deserve real love and respect. Not only from your relationships, but from yourself. It seems to me, and I may be way off base here, that you have been focusing on trying to make someone else happy rather than focus on your own happiness and emotional needs for a very long time. I've been through this crap all before. I've been cheated on, lied to, made to feel that it was all my fault because somehow I just couldn't "fix" them and resented for the fact I couldn't "fix" them. I was stalked, kicked out of my church (which led to my deconversion), and had my tires slashed. Plus, I had three little kids under seven to take care of and support all the while trying to hold onto my sanity. I know what it is like to crave normal and have no idea what normal is anymore. I know what it is like to feel I am losing touch with reality and feel all the hopelessness and desperation that can only accompany all the drama. I am not a drama person and neither are you. However, people in our lives create all the drama for us without any regard to our health or well being. They simply suck us dry and expect more and more and more until there is nothing left to give and are pissed off at us because we are simply empty. What I have learned is that life should be the ups and downs, your relationship should be the calm in the storm, not the freaking storm, where you are not really sure what way that wind is going to blow, be it a gentle breeze, a thunderstorm or a flash flood of drama. This is simply not a healthy way to live. With all the freaking drama in your life, no wonder you want to drink. But you know that not dealing with it is not going to make it go away. What I have had to learn and to only accept from anyone who I have a relationship with is that while I am an accepting and forgiving person, I expect that to be reciprocated. Just as I accept them for who they are, they must accept me for who I am with all my strengths and limitations. I had the relationships from hell and, yes, they are hell indeed. I also know what it's like to be in a relationship of equals, where we both inspire each other, challenge each other in constructive ways, believe in each other, want the best for the other person. We are each others calm in the storm when life becomes the roller coaster it can be and we celebrate the highs that life can bring us also. Sound wonderful? Trust me, it is. But...there is a catch to having this type of relationship. You have to work on healing yourself and work on your self-esteem. You simply cannot attract healthy people into your life if you are not in a healthy place yourself. If you have to, take Kevin up on his offer. I know for a fact that he would welcome you with open arms and keep you safe until you can heal. The refuge he offers is real. I would trust Kevin with my life. I only hope that you can recognize the strength and courage that you possess. You are worth so much more than this and deserve all the happiness you want. Kim
  13. What I've seen here, with the latest Christianbot, is that while he feels the need to evangelize, he is not able to handle any type of confrontation. This person has no spine. He's going to go through life being taken advantage of because he can't stand up for himself.
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