bluewizard Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 Recently, I've been given options by my Dad as to whether or not I want to go to church. This has come as a big shock to me all of a sudden, as some of you know, I've been forced to go to church for as long as I can remember, and it all started with a simple "Are you going to church or not" a few weeks back. This is coming from my Dad who has said things in the past like "The more you enter that church the better your chance is of being saved" and I've had numerous religious fights with him, I really dont know what's got into him not making me go, I guess maybe hes just tire dof not making me go, mayhbe he's just tired of no effect occuring. But it's great not having to go, church was horrible for me to go to and now I dont have to go, it was a Southern Baptist church too and independence feels so good. So wh would he suddenly give me options to not go? Have any of you bee in in my situation before? I'm 19 now by the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smellincoffee Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 Congratulations on your freedom. Your dad might think pushing you to go to church will only push you away from it -- that's why my parents haven't nagged me to go to church while I've been staying with them during winter break. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhia Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 Congrats a million times over! Now, let's just see if he'll continue this under the pain and threat of you tattooing triple 6's on your skull. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mwc Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 So wh would he suddenly give me options to not go? Have any of you bee in in my situation before? I'm 19 now by the way. Could be that you're 19 and he's finally realized the choice is yours. Could be he's tired of trying. Could be some sort of "reverse psychology" thing (you'll soon realize what it is you're missing). Could be he just don't care anymore (which almost touches on all the rest). No matter what it is...enjoy it. mwc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Well, I'm 42, and a parent, I've never been in your shoes, but I was a fundy parent for a time. Why would he do this? now? I think MWC may have hit the nail on this, it could very well be your age. Are you in school? As a parent I might think it would be better to have you at home, in school and not going to church, then have you blow up about church, move out, no longer be able to afford school, and end up working. At least at home he can still have some influence over you, once you move out, you're out. Also, as a parent my kids well being is vital to me, as a christian you being saved would be tantamont, but I also want to see each of my kids get an education. This is all speculation granted, I don't know your father. I'm just saying what I might do in his shoes, and what I might think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluewizard Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 Yes, I'm a sophomore in college, he basically knows I want to move out of the Bible Belt and somewhere far away when I'm done with college, which will be in 4-5 semesters, so I guess he doesn't want my sole reason for moving out having to go to church, I really dont know, maybe he just doesnt feel like continually trying in vain to force me to become a Christian. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExConfusedChristian Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 Wow - that's major!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RankStranger Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 Congradulations on that small measure of freedom. I also was raised in Tennessee by fundamentalist parents... and was required to attend church damn near every time the doors were unlocked- until I moved out at age 18. Haven't been back since. You've already made it to adulthood with your sanity intact. That's more than I can say for several kids I knew in church. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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