LastKing Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Hello, I like every one els here, things did not go exactly go as well with Christianity as I had hope. I would like to move on with my life, (when it comes to religions for me, although I don’t have one, I believe it better try to bring peace with all groups, I have a problem though) I am having hard time letting go of the grudge I have developed against the people who tormented me during my days as a Christian. Its really for painful me because some the people that made life hell for me I thought were my friends but I would find myself gaged up on, treated as an outcast, have the dumbest people try to make me feel stuiped, told what to believe, what to like and a long list of other things. I was told not take a biology class in college because in contradicted Genesis, I was not a “real” Christian for believing that other religions came from God, Knowing about sciences, being friends and refusing to convert non-Christians and so much more. As I leave Christianity behind me, a big part of me feels more and more betrayed and taken advantage of by the people I use to be good friends with (now I truly dislike them for I see them for what they really are, bigoted, right-winged, war craved, closed minded fools. I have always had a firm belief that its better to bring people of all different religious background to gather but I am having hard time holding my self together when I see radical Christian behavior and I cant seem to let what happen go. I want to move on. Can any one give me advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator florduh Posted September 1, 2008 Super Moderator Share Posted September 1, 2008 I think most of us went through an anger phase. After all, the cult took a lot from you. You also feel guilty for being so gullible. It happens to the best of us! I'm mostly irritated with myself for allowing the manipulation, but I remind myself that they are experts at that, and we all have weak moments. Maybe a couple of rounds in the Lion's Den with some of the Christians who come here to "save" us will take the edge off. Anyway, you're certainly not alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
R. S. Martin Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Sounds like you've been through the works alright. I second what florduh said. This might not be good advice for a newly deconverted person but it's been very therapeutic for me to get onto a Christian forum where they don't ban anybody and really work through my issues. I can now see the irrationality of the religion much more clearly. But first there is the deep sense of betrayal and being lied to by those one should be able to trust most that one has to work through. That causes deep, deep anger or even rage perhaps too deep to express. Some of these issues we can only get in touch with in the safety of a forum where the Christians are not allowed to come with their toxic teachings. Welcome to the forums and enjoy your stay. Hopefully an environment of clear thinking will help you figure out which side is up and who you are now that you're no longer a Christian. This group might also provide a social base until you can manage to reorient yourself and find new friends to replace the traitors. Many of us had this happen to us. You are not alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jpcobe Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 I think anger is completely natural in your case. It was in mine, and it seems to be a resounding theme. The way I dealt with it was to feel sorry for those still stuck. That might seem a bit elitist, but it was really hard for me to let those beliefs go so I can understand where they are. In my case, it took a year of seeing the world differently to slap me out of my mindless belief. For many followers, they have never had occasion to really look at what they are doing from an objective standpoint. It's quite sad. Their reaction to you is exactly what I would expect. My advice is simple: treat them as people (confused, silly, manipulated). . .just people. Don't put up with any shit, and take the opportunity to show them the "light" when you can. When you can't, just congratulate yourself on being truly daring and intelligent. You've discovered something most of America is afraid of, and it's actually quite liberating. So go be liberated and do your best to avoid dwelling on acceptance--it's not a part of their belief structure. Jeff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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