viridia Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Hi all, I needed a place where I could rant briefly on some heavy emotions and thoughts I had today. I woke up this morning very sick, so I stayed home from school. I fell back asleep around 6:15 and woke up to a text about two hours later. It was from my best friend saying he'd just gotten beat up. I didn't believe him at first, and thought he might have been playing with me since I wasn't there ("Oh I got beat up cause you didn't come to school ahhh" kind of thing) Well, as it turns out he did get beat up. Long story short, he asked me to come over to his house around 3pm after he had been home from the hospital. When I got there, his lip was swollen and he has this big gash stitched up in it...there was still blood on his pants and he showed me the jacket he'd been wearing, and it was covered with blood and dirt. I almost lost it right there but he seemed really collected, so I didn't want to seem like I was overreacting. But...ugh. I'm home now (was convenient for Ma to pick me up on her way home from work) and I'm just about to lose it. I cannot believe something so horrible happened to such a sweet person. It wasn't a targeted or planned attack, or anything; apparently the guy swung him around by his backpack, tried to take his wallet, then punched him in the face. The inside of his mouth is horrifying (he has braces). I honestly am at a loss for words. It tears me up inside to picture him getting socked in the jaw. I am so, so, so happy that he's okay, and that his injuries aren't nearly as bad as they could have been. But that motherfucker punched my best friend, who would never hurt anyone, who is the nicest person and has no enemies... I just don't know what to say! I am so angry that this happened. I am so angry that people in this world are so fucking stupid. I wish there was a god and that everyone was nice and perfect. I realized today that there could be no possibility of god, a god, gods, or anything like that. If there was he never would have let that happen to my best friend. He wouldn't let countless kids get jumped each day in my city, county, state, or country. He wouldn't let wars happen and he wouldn't let people MINDLESSLY BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF INNOCENT KIDS! I suppose I should just be happy that my friend is okay, and I am. I am beyond happy and relieved that he's okay, because I love him so much...he's basically my brother. He's okay, and isn't holding any grudges. But I can't stop feeling so sad--and I mean depressingly sad--that this happened. I'm sad that he's hurting and sad when I picture what happened and I'm sad when I think of the pain all of his friends and his mother and his little brother are feeling. And I'm angry, so fucking pissed that it happened. I know I need to get over it and accept that yes, it happened, but it seems impossible. I just hate this world. Ugh, I'm so sorry for going on like this but...ugh. I need somewhere to get it out :/ Thank you so, so much for reading. --viridia
hereticzero Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 School always was the most violence I've ever seen growing up! I got stabbed in the neck with a pencil just standing at the bus stop minding my own business! I hated going to school with a passion and was never so happy when graduation day came along. People do not need a reason to commit violence against someone, just an idea that the person they attack is unable to defend himself.
foolish girl Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 but he is okay. And the person who did it may not have to "Face god", but they do have to face their own life- and the consequences of living that way. And shit does happen...to ALL of us sometimes. There is more good than bad, though. An there is more neutral than good....These events are blips on the radar. Your friend will heal, you guys will feel less helpless (victimized) as time goes by. It is just like a break-up. The feelings are so intense, you can't imagine ever feeling better about it...but eventually, you do. You will both be okay. I am glad that he didn't have any major physical consequences from this. hang in there kiddo (see how I am old? I called you kiddo...)
Overcame Faith Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Viridia, your anger is justified and venting here was absolutely proper. I'm glad your friend was not injured more than he was and I wish him a speedy recovery. You seem like a true-blue friend to him. I'm sure he appreciated your going to him in his time of need. He is fortunate to have you as a friend.
Guest Babylonian Dream Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 I'm sorry about your friend *hugs you and your friend* I was beaten up alot in school. While not always obvious, sometimes people suspected I was gay and I got hell for it. That only helped to keep me in denial growing up. School was the 2nd most violent place, at home though, it was worse. I was constantly being beat by someone for something.
older Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 You are a compassionate person and the kind of friend many people wish they had. And you have every right to be upset. Justice will eventually be served, if not in this case then at some time in the future when the perp goes too far.
DesertBob Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I am sorry for your graphic introduction to the dark underbelly of life. It does suck, but the good news is, empathetic and kind persons such as yourself do exist. Look who your friend turned to for comfort and support. It's people like you who keep this life from being its own hell. Please don't ever withdraw from life or from others when ugly things happen, beyond taking care of yourself and recharging when you need to. Take the energy of the anger and outrage and disgust you are feeling and channel it into some constructive enterprise. Find out what your school is doing about violence and bullying. Maybe you can participate in such efforts, or start new ones if they don't exist.
viridia Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Thank you guys so much for your thoughts and concern and advice (: It is all greatly appreciated! My friend is doing very well, both physically and emotionally. When I went to see him this afternoon a few of our other friends were already there, and it was good to see him in high spirits His mom has pressed charges and the cops are (presumably) doing their best to get this kid (and some others my sister called the cops on last night, who were jumping this one kid pretty bad, she said). Me and a lot of our friends are still in shock about the whole thing. We just can't really get over it, and a lot of us are still very upset (it only happened yesterday but it feels like weeks) but you guys here have assured me it'll pass. It just seems so bizarre, how you always hear about people getting beat up and bullied, but it's one of those things you think will never happen to you or someone you love. Thank you guys (:
♦ Fuego ♦ Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 School always was the most violence I've ever seen growing up! I got stabbed in the neck with a pencil just standing at the bus stop minding my own business! I hated going to school with a passion and was never so happy when graduation day came along. People do not need a reason to commit violence against someone, just an idea that the person they attack is unable to defend himself. Yep. Story of my life. They do it because they enjoy it. It's a game they know they can win, so they relish it. My nephew was beaten with sticks until quite bloodied, and he knew the guys from his school that did it. No "reason", he hadn't done anything to them, they just didn't like him being different. Now he's a martial arts teacher and very strong and still level headed. They only motivated him to change for the better. I wonder if the bullies ever change, or just get jobs in management.
viridia Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 My nephew was beaten with sticks until quite bloodied, and he knew the guys from his school that did it. No "reason", he hadn't done anything to them, they just didn't like him being different. Now he's a martial arts teacher and very strong and still level headed. They only motivated him to change for the better. I wonder if the bullies ever change, or just get jobs in management. When I told my dad what happened to my friend, he told me a story of how this guy had started a fight with one of Dad's friend. Dad tried to defend him but got jumped by the guy's friends, and the guy broke his nose and kicked him so hard in the back of the head that he had to get 6 stitches. He said that he found out where this guy lived and waited til he got home, then proceeded to beat the shit out of him in his own front yard. He said he feels kind of bad about it now, since the guy became a devout Christian later in life. He hopes he's the reason he became a Christian lol But, I do love what you said. My friend commented that it was just so pointless now when he thinks about it. Guy tries to take his wallet, they struggle, one of them gets whacked pretty hard, and everyone bails. No words were said. It was just a random act of violence, and I don't think I'll ever understand that.
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