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How Do You Deal With "christianity" Moments In Your Life?


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Dealing with Christianity moments around you, when you are not a Christian:

 

(sigh) Let me start, I am at home still, until I get a get a proper job, money ect. So I am stuck for now. Now at home things are not overly fundamentalist (my extended family that is another story, very very very fundy) or even very Christian, BUT it does happen and when it does happen I get real angry inside about it, BUT I must stay quiet about it.

 

Now recently I have been watching The Millennium trilogy movies, my parents thought they sounded interesting as those you all know they have graphic nudity in the movies. In the first movie there is a few explicit scenes, my parents didn't say anything, the second there is a lesbian scene with nudity, and my parents all freaked out ran for the remote and skipped past that scene when it came on While my dad was running for the remote, I was like this:

 

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However noting that, violence is ok in movies and doesn't offend them just sex and "foul language". :ugh: I was able to go on the internets and see the scene (also see plenty of other stuff on the internets :wicked::HaHa: ) , so I don't really care but looking back at this issue it is hypocritical, Christianity. I am just saying, how do you guys deal with this stuff? This is an example of what I mean "Christianity" around you, when you are the only non-Christian. I have not told anyone I am not a Christian except a few people either and I have no plans to tell them, but some days it is very hard not to slip up.

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It's so easy to see the hypocrisy when you're on the outside looking in. My sister is a christian and has decided not to be friends with a long time friend of ours because she (the friend) believes in demons. I want to say to my sister, "How can you be such a hypocrite to believe in all the stupid crap in the bible and condemn someone for believing what the bible tells you?" The friend is more of a true christian than my sister (which is good and bad). It's really hard the longer I'm out of christianity to not 'out' myself. The other day we were playing a trivia game with my parents and the question was something like, What biblical character shows six out of seven characteristics of anti-social personality disorder? Before I could catch myself I shouted out, "GOD"! From the look on my mom's face I realized I made a big mistake. So I did some backpedalling and said Samson. Close call. It's tough. I try to remind myself to keep my mouth shut before I'm going to spend time with my family.

All of us here havel walked the walk and talked the talk so we know what they want to hear. I try to be true to myself and not actually say things I don't believe but I don't try to correct them if they think I am. People see what they want to see. Until I'm ready to tell them I'm fine with that.

Amusing that your parents' censorship actually led you to more explicit stuff on the internet.

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I don't deal with it too much but I have some Christian friends that occasionally say something that makes me facepalm. I had a Christian coworker tell me sometime ago that it was a waste of money feeding buying food for the dying children in Africa, better for them to die and hear the gospel than to live without hearing it!

 

I was just like:

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I had a co-worker say the "N" word yesterday. When she saw me shaking my head she asked if it offended me and I said yes it does. She said that's how she feels when I say mean things about Jesus. I told her Black people are real, Jesus is not.

I deal with hypocrites on a daily basis. It's really hard sometimes to keep my mouth shut.But when it's Mom and Dad and you're living at home that's a different story. Sometimes you just have to scream in your pillow or something.

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Sex scenes in movies while your parents are in the room = major awkwardness.

 

Seriously though, I know what you mean. My Mom went on and on the other day about her trip to Orlando where she went to see the "Holy Land Experience" - just kept going on and on about how awesome it was. She got to see a live re-enactment of the crucifixion and have the last supper with "Jesus" and even had her picture made with him. Ugh.

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I had a co-worker say the "N" word yesterday. When she saw me shaking my head she asked if it offended me and I said yes it does. She said that's how she feels when I say mean things about Jesus. I told her Black people are real, Jesus is not.

 

I love your response to this. :D

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I had a co-worker say the "N" word yesterday. When she saw me shaking my head she asked if it offended me and I said yes it does. She said that's how she feels when I say mean things about Jesus. I told her Black people are real, Jesus is not.

 

I love your response to this. :D

 

Yes those are two things that are not politically correct to say. We should try to respect their feelings. If those niggers want to blow Jesus and fuck him in the ass, we should respect their beliefs.

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Amusing that your parents' censorship actually led you to more explicit stuff on the internet.

 

They would totally flip if they knew what I have really seen and have saved on my HDD. :grin: That scene in the particular movie, that is nothing to what I have watched and seen on the internet. I am guessing more "Christian" households are like that though (ever since the birth of the internet), they try to censor but yet the complete opposite happens :lmao:

 

In all seriousness though it is our culture nudity/sex = bad, violence = good. :shrug:

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Amusing that your parents' censorship actually led you to more explicit stuff on the internet.

 

They would totally flip if they knew what I have really seen and have saved on my HDD. :grin: That scene in the particular movie, that is nothing to what I have watched and seen on the internet. I am guessing more "Christian" households are like that though (ever since the birth of the internet), they try to censor but yet the complete opposite happens :lmao:

 

In all seriousness though it is our culture nudity/sex = bad, violence = good. :shrug:

 

We're good Christians who fight for our country and our beliefs. We put bible verses on our guns. We don't like homos or atheists. Welcome to America, the land of the dumb and proud. And we're ready to kill for our comforts, so watch out.

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i deal with the shit daily, its what happens when your in rural bible belt. i simply try to ignore it but sometimes its fun to poke.

 

like yesterday i got into a argument with a "radical" conservative :Wendywhatever: over the topic of islam and fo course most christians are arrogant about the whole subject anyways so he is telling me that all muslims are evil and their radical becuase their quran tells them so. i told him you couldent be judgmental of others in their belifes becuase their difrent than yours and explained to him some of the reasons why radical islam exist alot of it having to do with past experinces with the west.

 

he told me that he was a "religionist" not a rascist and that he didnt judge "them":banghead:

 

we are still freinds though its just we get into arguments alot over politics and world issues but jesus how arrogant is the church....

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Well religion does not = race :shrug:

 

Just saying, I see what you are saying and well I have lot to say on the issue of Islam and Christianity (many threads on that), but Christians are against Islam for a different reason than I am or others on here are.

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i deal with the shit daily, its what happens when your in rural bible belt. i simply try to ignore it but sometimes its fun to poke.

 

like yesterday i got into a argument with a "radical" conservative :Wendywhatever: over the topic of islam and fo course most christians are arrogant about the whole subject anyways so he is telling me that all muslims are evil and their radical becuase their quran tells them so. i told him you couldent be judgmental of others in their belifes becuase their difrent than yours and explained to him some of the reasons why radical islam exist alot of it having to do with past experinces with the west.

 

he told me that he was a "religionist" not a rascist and that he didnt judge "them":banghead:

 

we are still freinds though its just we get into arguments alot over politics and world issues but jesus how arrogant is the church....

 

Just imagine the shock it's going to be if he wakes up and realizes how shitty he thinks. I'll never get over that shock, it was one of the most painful and horrific realizations I've ever had. That's why brainwashing is evil.

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When I go to visit my religious kin, I ask to watch 'The Passion of Christ' as soon as I get to their house. And, I watch it over and over and over until they beg me to watch something else on television. Then I get the remote and the whole television room to myself!

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I'm in the same boat, Ramen. After my summer job 5 hours from my parent's house I was unable to find a new job in town, so I had no other choice but to move back to my parent's house and work at their new business to make some money. While no rent is nice and I need to save money anyway, the downside is I basically have no life now, family is very Catholic as are most of my friends from high school (who I don't interact with anymore really) and I don't think I am going to meet many new people in the town I have lived in for 15 years >.< I don't go to church, and they know I am not Catholic anymore. Just yesterday though my brother asked me how I broke the news to my parents that I wasn't Catholic anymore...I think he might be going the same route.

 

I try to ignore it but it's really hard, especially when family talks about things I disagree with (anti-same sex marriage, anti abortion, anti premarital sex, ect...) and they are the same as your parents, turning the channel or fast forwarding a DVD with a sensual or sex scene in it (I'm 22 and my two brothers are 19 and 15, mind you LOL ) and watching Faux News all the time. Arugh!!

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I have a co-worker who askes me almost everyday if I want to go to church with him. I always say "no, wanna come over and drink and watch porn?" It supprisingly does not bother him enough to get him to stop asking but he gets my point. I do hang out with a few people who are catholics or christians but they know my position and never really say anything about religion to me. I think I scare most of them anyway.:pureevil:

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I have a co-worker who askes me almost everyday if I want to go to church with him. I always say "no, wanna come over and drink and watch porn?" It supprisingly does not bother him enough to get him to stop asking but he gets my point. I do hang out with a few people who are catholics or christians but they know my position and never really say anything about religion to me. I think I scare most of them anyway.:pureevil:

 

Wow, that's dedication on his path..should ask if he'd like to come to an atheist meeting, and tell him to bring live babies as he'll need them for the worship service. If he says "I thought atheism wasn't a religion" reply with "that's what we want you to believe" and then cackle. Hopefully he'll believe you're serious, or if not crazy and leave you alone either case :P

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I have a co-worker who askes me almost everyday if I want to go to church with him. I always say "no, wanna come over and drink and watch porn?" It supprisingly does not bother him enough to get him to stop asking but he gets my point. I do hang out with a few people who are catholics or christians but they know my position and never really say anything about religion to me. I think I scare most of them anyway.:pureevil:

 

Wow, that's dedication on his path..should ask if he'd like to come to an atheist meeting, and tell him to bring live babies as he'll need them for the worship service. If he says "I thought atheism wasn't a religion" reply with "that's what we want you to believe" and then cackle. Hopefully he'll believe you're serious, or if not crazy and leave you alone either case :P

 

He knows I'm crazy...lol. I knew him before he found religion and he desperatly tries to "save" me. I think he thinks that if he can turn me (probably the biggest anti-god person he knows) then he has ensured his place in heaven. He's a nut job for the church, I'm a nut job against it. Halloween is actually Christmas for me, I take a week off, decorate like hell, and celebrate the whole month of October.

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The best way of dealing with "Christianity moments" in my life is to deliberately re-read the most appalling sections of the Bible, like the bits on genocide or slavery, or sexism or homophobia or Hellfire & damnation. I am suddenly reminded what a crock the whole thing is and why I left this absurdist nonsense in the first place. This strengthens my atheist resolve and any Christianity around me I can just chortle and scoff at in a very smug manner.

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I mostly keep my mouth shut and pretend it didn't happen. I always have a strong physical reaction, though, like I am choking and there is a shot of adrenalin I get. I hope I can get to the point where I just laugh it off, but I'm not there right now.

 

Sometimes it's easier than others. Like with the fast forwarding thing--I'm pretty sure most people's parents would do that anyways, regardless of religion, and most of us would be grateful for the awkwardness we were spared. Some things I still haven't figured out--like what to do when someone sneezes. I want to do the socially proper thing and offer a wish for their health, but "Bless you" sticks in my throat and I don't know of another socially recognized phrase to replace it with. I don't want to be rude, but since I have a problem with "bless you," what does an atheist say? I may have to look this up... ;-)

 

Living at home with Christian parents (also being financially dependent on them) is an awful situation for all parties involved, because I feel you have an obligation to allow them freedom of expression and respect for their beliefs in their own home. I lived at home as a backslider (I was saying atheist by then, but hadn't officially outed myself, but I think they knew) for 8 months and there was a lot of tongue-biting and vague nodding. Get out as soon as you can! Your relationship will be better when you can meet them on more equal terms.

 

I loved some of the reactions that people have had on this thread, especially the trivia game and the work situations. I haven't had to deal with anything like that at work--people are generally pretty professional.

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