bronxo Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 As an atheist, I sould've added to the title. Dear ex-christians, I'm about to come out about my atheism to my parents. Initially, the idea was to do the coming out next friday. Tonight my dad called me, and we had a little talk. I then told him I wanted to come over next friday to tell him something. He called me back a few minutes later, asking me why I didn't come over immediately. I told him I didn't feel up to that, so now we agreed that he visits me tomorrow, alone, without my mother. I feel more comfortable that way. Also, my younger (deconverted) cousin is going to be there for support. Why I want to tell my parents is because they are gonna find out anyways and I experience some sort of blockade between us. I just have to come clean. But another thing struck me. My father loves me. And I cry. Please wish me luck, I'm having a hard time with myself now. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♦ ficino ♦ Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 These conversations are always hard, as you know, Bronxo, but it's good that you are going to speak the truth in love. Many people have found that there is not as much upset as they fear. But if there is a lot of upset, it's still better to be yourself to your parents, as long as you're not jeopardizing your economic or living status. Hang in there, bro. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jblueep Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'm proud of you bronxo. You will do just fine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Positivist Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Wow, that's huge. Just be yourself. Good for you for being honest. Hope it goes well! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kurari Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 *hugs* I wish you only the best of luck, Bronxo. Please do come and tell us how it goes. We're here for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedAtheist Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Best of luck champ, hope all goes well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConureDelSol Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 In some ways, I almost wish I could be you. I'm going to be stuck hiding for at least four more years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackpudd1n Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Good luck with it, B. Let us know how you go. here for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
London Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Good point, your father loves you. It will all be fine in the end. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Legato Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Just tell them. It's really that simple. Be brunt, honest, and straight to the point; cry through it if you have to, a lot of us did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xerces Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 When I came out to my folks they were shocked, my Dad told me atheists were just as bad as people that molest children. Not trying to frighten you, but be prepared if your parents are heavy fundies. All the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike D Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Wish you the best. Let us know how it goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronxo Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 The coming out moment is in history now. My dad called me about an and a half hour before he'd arrive that he wouldn't come because of the slippery roads. Since I was hesitant to go to their place, we decided to do it by phone. Fortunately, my cousin was with me and we used the speaker. I think he took it reasonably well. He didn't really understand why and how though. My cousin studies to be a social worker, so he helped me out every now and then, which I feel helped me a great deal. We agreed to call again this wednesday. I think we'll be meeting in 2 weeks or so. My dad doesn't really understand why I didn't want to meet them right away and at their place. I'll have to explain that a bit more. I don't feel a whole lot at this moment. I'm both anxious and excited about what is going to happen now. To me, it felt like a good talk and I feel I said what I wanted to say. I'll keep you guys posted and thanks for your support! It means a lot to me. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
London Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 It sounds like it went well. Glad to hear it. It may take him some time to understand. It's all new and fresh right now. It's good that your cousin was there for support. I wish you continued luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooley Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 You did a brave thing. Kudos! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ro-bear Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 These situations are hard on everyone involved. Good luck to you and to your parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackpudd1n Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 I hope it continues to go well, B Hang in there, and best of luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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