Mike D Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Maybe I am just getting old, but I really have no desire to go out to nightclubs or bars with my friends. For one I don't drink so that takes half the fun out of it, but usually by 10:00 I am tired, bored and I just want to go home and go to bed. Honestly I just find nightclubs painfully boring - and I am at the point in my life where I can't even fake being interested, it just doesn't work anymore. When I was younger it was the opposite, if I wasn't out partying at a club on Fri or Sat night I felt like I was missing out on something. Is this just something that comes with age? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dhampir Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I wasn't interested in that stuff 10 years ago, and I'm not even 30. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vigile Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 You're asking a board overpopulated with introverts? I never did get the club scene when the music is so loud you can't communicate even when shouting in one another's ears. It makes no sense to me. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeCoastie Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I used to work in bars bar-back, bounce, check Ids. I never really liked the bars I worked at. Too crowded, noisy, and dark. I prefer to drink in a quieter setting with a few really good friends.... and I can't dance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OpheliaGinger Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I don't care to go to bars or clubs. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedAtheist Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I like getting drunk, but not all the time. I'll go to a club or a pub and have a good time, as long as we can chat and dance and mingle with people. I don't like any place where you feel the music in your bones kinda thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onyx Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I have banned going to nightclubs in a certain street because of extreme drama. So it's mainly the Deaf Club or if I don't go with my friends, I will drink at home. Life is short enough without drama. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator Margee Posted April 17, 2012 Moderator Share Posted April 17, 2012 You're asking a board overpopulated with introverts? I never did get the club scene when the music is so loud you can't communicate even when shouting in one another's ears. It makes no sense to me. Vigile, right on - so true!! Even when I was a party drinker, I was a 'loner'. I partied all by myself at home with my own favorite music. I didn't want to talk to anyone or need to dance with anybody - I danced in my kitchen all by myself!! you know Mike....What I have discovered in life is that anything we do on a constant basis gets boring. That's why our jobs or relationships can be tiring because we do them on a day-to-day basis....everyday......It's takes some 'work' to make things exciting. Eating steak or ice-cream every night for supper would eventually get boring. this is why we need to be always 'creating' something new and exciting!! Even Solomen himself said in Ecclesiastes....repetition, repetition..........boring........ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Moderator florduh Posted April 17, 2012 Super Moderator Share Posted April 17, 2012 If your tastes and interests evolve over the years, you get to sample more of what life has to offer. To remain a barfly or club muffin forever seems rather limiting to me; there are so many other things to try. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeasabird Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I'm the same way, and for me it's a combination of a lot of things. First, while I still enjoy going out to a bar with a good friend or two, I prefer it to be a reasonably quiet place so that we can actually have a discussion to talk about kids, life, etc. This is in contrast to the reasons I used to want to go to the loud bars looking for a hook-up; that's just not important anymore as I am happily married. Yes I have also become more introverted as I age. Risk aversion also (usually) becomes more important as we age as we are more cognisant of our state of inebriation and desire to drive home safely and legally. This reduces the average amount of alcohol we ingest, and increases the amount of time we stress over how much we are drinking. We often also find ourselves with the potential for a longer drive home as age often comes with suburban living, thus lengthening the drive to a typical downtown bar scene. From personal experience, I'm also much more likely to get lucky coming home with my wife than when out on the prowl. This increases my desire to keep the plumbing working as well as end the night early before my wife gets too tired and goes to bed without me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackpudd1n Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I hate the whole scene, and have done for some time, and I'm only 26 lol. I have plenty of reasons, too: - hate not being able to hear anyone talk over the music; - hate the music full stop; - I don't drink; - can't be fucked wearing high heels anymore; - can't be fucked squeezing myself into tight little dresses I don't feel comfortable in; - can't stand being hit on by drunk guys when I'm clearly wearing an engagement ring; - it's a waste of money- I'd rather buy a new book (and read it); - I hate people bumming smokes; - I am no longer willing to be cold for the sake of looking good- if it's not warm enough to go out at night in a t-shirt, forget it it. otherwise, my jumper's coming too. - I don't enjoy violent drunken behaviour; - I'm over watching girls stumble around drunk in high heels and short little dresses, freezing their arses off. I just want to yell at them, "put a fucking jumper and some jeans on, and for fuck's sake don't wear high heels and tight, short dresses when you know you're only going to get drunk. IT'S NOT A FUCKING CLASSY LOOK AT ALL!!!" So that's why I don't go out anymore. I don't enjoy it, not one bit! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FeelHappy Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I still like bars (or at least ones that serve craft beer on draft). I never liked clubs and still hate them, when I go out I want to drink, talk and relax, not listen to loud music and dance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norton65ca Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Can't stand the scene. Don't enjoy pounding music, enjoy conversation too much to sit there and have my nerves jangled and ears pummeled all night. I have felt this way for years to be honest. Now, that being said, a good pub? There's my place. Good conversation, good mates, fine ale and a bacon sarnie and we're in heaven. I LOVE pubs. Despise clubs and pick up bars. On that note, I have been married for 17 years but even back in my youth, I felt profoundly awkward in the club scene, never did well in that social setting. Pubs.......hmmmm now I'm getting thirsty... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stryper Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Yes Mike you are getting "old". More to the point, while the bible is wrong about many things, when you become an adult you put away childish things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackpudd1n Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Can't stand the scene. Don't enjoy pounding music, enjoy conversation too much to sit there and have my nerves jangled and ears pummeled all night. I have felt this way for years to be honest. Now, that being said, a good pub? There's my place. Good conversation, good mates, fine ale and a bacon sarnie and we're in heaven. I LOVE pubs. Despise clubs and pick up bars. On that note, I have been married for 17 years but even back in my youth, I felt profoundly awkward in the club scene, never did well in that social setting. Pubs.......hmmmm now I'm getting thirsty... Oh, I should have added that my town's too small to have a club. So I was talking about pubs, but yeah, clubs are way worse than pubs. The only time I don't mind a pub is in Summer on a Sunday afternoon when they've just got some chilled acoustic music going on in the background, nothing loud. Sunday arvo sessions aren't that bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sybaris Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I'm almost 50 now and the clubs are not that appealing, at least not in the U.S.. In my 20's and 30's I spent a lot of time in Asia and would be out all night. When I'd come back to the U.S. for a visit and go out it seemed the clubs here were pretty tame and just dog shows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotalWreck Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Even when I was a party drinker, I was a 'loner'. I partied all by myself at home with my own favorite music. I didn't want to talk to anyone or need to dance with anybody - I danced in my kitchen all by myself!! Margee, you and I are so alike it's scary - I do the SAME thing (only I dance in my bedroom so I can close the door and nobody will see me!). I'm 29, and I was done with the clubs and bars thing by 25. It just got old after awhile. Plus, music is so shitty these days and hearing the same shit on Top 40 radio in remix form at the bars and clubs does not interest me AT ALL. I'd rather just stay at home and listen to music I like and I can drink a hell of a lot cheaper. The only time I like going out is if I go on vacation somewhere, and it's just because it's a good way to socialize while I'm somewhere else. Other than that, no thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vigile Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I'm almost 50 now and the clubs are not that appealing, at least not in the U.S.. In my 20's and 30's I spent a lot of time in Asia and would be out all night. When I'd come back to the U.S. for a visit and go out it seemed the clubs here were pretty tame and just dog shows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vigile Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Bars can be pretty great if it's the right bar and you go with the right friends. My friends and I in Italy used to spend time in a wine bar near our flat. It was tiny, but always full. We would order a bottle of wine and talk about everything under the sun as it breathed. None of this "who will get voted off American Idol" stuff. More like the discussions we have here on this discussion board. And usually later in the evening one of the patrons brought a guitar and the entire bar would sing old Beatles and Italian folk songs. Church has got nothing on this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrotherJosh Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I hate clubs. But I do like bars, pubs, and German beer halls. The more dimly lit the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdog Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Yeah Mike it's just age, we outgrow things and want more out of life. I use to go to clubs back in the day but not now. I didn't always like that scene but just did it because it was the thing a bunch of girls getting together did. I use to observe a lot. I am a bit of a voyeur, Not in a creepy kind of way, but I liked to watch people interact with one another, I liked looking at fashion, the music sometimes could be fun but really let's be honest not everyone goes to a night club just to dance it's a bit of a meat market to put it crudely and guys and gals go as they are on the hunt. And A LOT of that goes on in clubs. However with me saying that, now don't laugh......I did meet my husband at a club. LOL I wasn't even looking for anyone. I REALLY was out to have fun with my friends but my husband and I have been married 21 years. aww he was so cute. he asked me to dance and was a real gentleman. I certainly wouldn't recommend bars or clubs to meet a potential spouse but it does happen. These days I would be ok going out with my husband to a bar with some live music maybe once in a while. We haven't done that in a very long time. I am introverted but now and again I don't mind getting out and being social but mainly I am at home alone a lot. Everything I need and want is right here. And I enjoy my space and quiet time to listen to my own music, read, garden. and when my husband is here we enjoy each others company. Home life for me is safe and secure and comforting. And Margee I dance in my living room sometimes. I get a bit of a groove on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike D Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 Are there really that many introverts here? I honestly never thought of myself as much of an extrovert, but maybe I do have a slightly narcissistic side. There was this dance club/rave I used to go to in Chicago alot, it was in a big warehouse and everyone once in awhile I would dance on this huge speaker in the middle of the dance floor with a couple of other people (the speaker was probably 5 feet tall and had room for 3 or 4 people to dance on top of it). There was something kind of fun about dancing on top of a speaker looking down on a sea of hundreds of people dancing, with lots of them looking back up at us. If you don't like to be the center of attention, this speaker was definitely not the place to be! Damn there's a part of me that really does miss those days. Fuck I really am getting old, make it stop! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stryper Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 When songs from your high school days show up on the oldies station....your old. Happened to me first in 2001. Guns and Roses on the classic rock station. Could be passed off because the classic is more in terms of style. Happened again this year. That 90's Lilith Fair classic Landslide as played on MTV Unplugged. On the oldies station. Literally followed by James Brown. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thought2Much Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 When songs from your high school days show up on the oldies station....your old. Happened to me first in 2001. Guns and Roses on the classic rock station. Could be passed off because the classic is more in terms of style. Happened again this year. That 90's Lilith Fair classic Landslide as played on MTV Unplugged. On the oldies station. Literally followed by James Brown. I think I almost cried when I heard "Kiss Me Deadly" by Lita Ford on the oldies (not classic rock, but oldies) station. Granted, it was during an 80s weekend on the station, but still... And I never liked clubs, even as a young adult. I always felt out of place, and wondered if there was something wrong with me because I couldn't convince myself they were fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilentLoner Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I'm 24 and never once seen the appeal of the bar/nightclub scene. I'm not old yet am I? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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