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Is He A Pedophile? A Potential Controller?


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That 11-year-old needs to know that if a man makes her feel weird like that, she's totally okay to walk away from him or get an adult to intervene, and to cause whatever commotion she must to make that behavior stop.

 

Yes. Somebody does need to talk to the 11 year old.

 

But I'm not understanding exactly what happened. Did the adult touch her in an erogenous zone or was his body two feet away from hers or perhaps something between? I don't want to guess.

 

I'd say that a crash course in boundary-setting is way overdue, personally, especially for that little girl he pawed on the dance floor.

 

Correct.

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He also has a post in his albums of a dishwasher full of 18 glocks. "Doing dishes" he says. Why the hell does he need so many guns?! Ugh, I think I am going to call the police department and tell them about his bullshit. See if he is allowed to have a sheriff shirt, fake badge, and dress in a brown shirt and pants with a sewn-on sheriff star.

 

The more I think about it the more I get disturbed....

 

Okay if you are going to contact the police then you need to pick his real offense here. I understand that you have multiple reasons to hate him. I can totally relate. But you don't wan the police to write you off as just having it in for the guy. If you make half a dozen accusations and the first five don't fly the police might not listen to you anymore.

 

What exactly did he do to the 11 year old?

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I think you are correct about him having tried out and not made it. I found pics on his facebook (I'm really beginning to feel like a stalker LOL) of law enforcement academy training. Somehow, he did get a gun with the sheriff emblem on it, but not all his guns have this. I am wondering how he got it in the first place. Surely they just don't hand those out to trainees? Maybe he made it but got fired for misconduct in some other city and he has moved here... I don't know. Maybe he really is a volunteer... evenso, he states he "used to be" a volunteer, so why does he still post pics of his outfits and guns and do citizen's arrests? Even if he were legitimately involved with the force somehow, a dishwasher full of his 18 glocks is still disturbing. Perhaps I am just being too protective.

 

As for the dancing, he came up behind her, not even a couple inches away... in fact, his front end was touching her back end. He swayed side to side while holding her arms up in the air. He was holding her close enough that she swayed with him It was one of the club dance songs that is popular these days, but I forget the name of it.

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He certainly sounds like someone I'd stay away from. From what I've read about pedophilia it's difficult to determine whether or not a person is a pedophile. There are a list of characteristics, however a note at the top of it said very clearly that anyone can have these characteristics and not be a predator, so you can't really use that as proof. Finding evidence is what you need, most predators keep child porn because they can't help themselves, that's their downfall.

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As for the dancing, he came up behind her, not even a couple inches away... in fact, his front end was touching her back end. He swayed side to side while holding her arms up in the air. He was holding her close enough that she swayed with him It was one of the club dance songs that is popular these days, but I forget the name of it.

 

Okay if a man grabbed an 11 year old girl in public and forced her to give him a lap dance then why didn't anybody else try to stop it? Didn't somebody at least tell him to knock that off?

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As for the dancing, he came up behind her, not even a couple inches away... in fact, his front end was touching her back end. He swayed side to side while holding her arms up in the air. He was holding her close enough that she swayed with him It was one of the club dance songs that is popular these days, but I forget the name of it.

 

Okay if a man grabbed an 11 year old girl in public and forced her to give him a lap dance then why didn't anybody else try to stop it? Didn't somebody at least tell him to knock that off?

 

It wasn't a lap dance, they were both standing. I'm not sure anyone except those of us by the dance stage noticed. There were only kids on the stage at that time... Everyone was involved in their conversations and such. I saw a few people exchange looks, but like I said, my family doesn't confront people in public. It was harmless enough for the three minutes it lasted. I'm sure (hoping) that someone said something to him afterwards. I did notice the dad of the girl come up and bring her to sit with them for a while after the dance was over.

 

And yes, plenty of people display the so-called characteristics of a pedophile and I realize that is just me being protective of my little cousin. It is not something I would bring to the police unless I knew of an actualy crime.

 

The cop impersonation bit I am still considering how and when to bring it up, if at all... We'll see how the next several weeks unfold. I'm not going to jump into any action but I will be very aware and observant.

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Anyone else would have had the same concerns as you, it's nice to read that you care about your cousin :)

 

This guy sounds like he's very socially naive, and the whole impersonating a police officer thing could land him in a lot of trouble if he pushes it too far. He may be mentally ill, his behavior is certainly very strange.

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IF he really is the type of person that everyone in this thread seems to think he is (myself included), the ball has already rolled too far and he will be a BIG problem for your cousin and her daughter far into the future.

 

The potential for ruining their lives IS there. I've seen it happen to other women. I know a lady who married a nice Christian guy 6 months after meeting him. The day they got back from their honeymoon, he explode in anger over something stupid. She stayed married in that hell for almost 11 years. She got a divorce. And now 6 years later, he still makes her and her sons life a living hell.

 

Too bad love is blind... Everybody is vulnerable in the initial stage of a relationship when the juices are flowing. Especially young, single mom's.

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The guy sounds like a colorful character. As another person pointed out, your cousin is blinded by love, she will not heed your advice. She's in the infatuation stage right now, she's unable to see any fault with him. I know that he won't be able to pretend to be Prince Charming once they move in together. She will see first hand what type of man he is.

 

I am curious! When I was a charismatic Christian, I never dreamed of moving in with a man! I would have been excomunicated!! I don't understand how they are moving in together when they are supposedly Christians. I know that most christian men that I know can't keep it in their pants. I thought that they would be having sex in secret... But moving in together without being married truly surprises me.

 

If I were you, I wouldn't get involved unless I had some solid and undenial evidence that the man is a criminal. From your description of him, he's definitely bad news. After all, he had 2 wives in 3 years, he has some issues. But, your cousin sounds like the type of woman who will only learn from her own experiences. Some people learn the hard way. If your cousin asks you for your opinion, you should be honest. However, it sounds like she has her mind made up regarding her boyfriend.

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Yes, isn't that crazy to move in together and try to remain celebate? I asked her what their pastor said and she said he wasn't happy about it, but could understand given her economic circumstances. I guess he believes that they will remain celebate. HA. That will last maybe two days, if they aren't already lying about being intimate.

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I'd be tempted to call the cops about his suspicious behavior towards acting like a cop. That really is worrying all by itself, because people who do that are delusional cray crays.

 

Every single other thing screams CREEPER to me, but others are right in that your cousin won't listen. Do have that talk with her daughter.

 

...Yeah, I'd call the police about his gun/dick waving behavior too. Say nothing about your cousin or anything else, just "he worries me and I think he might be impersonating an officer." It might get some real uniforms over there and something real done.

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Getting engaged quickly in and of itself is not really a big deal. I did it (we had known each other 10 days).....but when you combine it with all that other stuff - HELLO! Red Alert! Red Alert!

 

I am the only one who thinks this is a woman who will end up a victim, possibly a dead victim, of domestic violence in the name of "making her obedient?"

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Am I the only one who thinks this is a woman who will end up a victim, possibly a dead victim, of domestic violence in the name of "making her obedient?"

 

Probably not dead. But severe emotional trauma taking place for she and her daughter over the years? Yes!

 

That is what I see coming, in my opinion.

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Sadly, me too.... and the thing is I could see her trying to get out of it if it weren't for her newfound misogynist faith.

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Sadly, me too.... and the thing is I could see her trying to get out of it if it weren't for her newfound misogynist faith.

Its more than that...

 

You have not only the religion, but also the fact she's a single mom needing financial aid, he SEEMS to like her daughter and vice-versa, the relationship is new and she THINKS she's in love.

 

There's always more to it. But that's all I can think of at the moment.

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