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The Pattern Of Deconverting Loved Ones


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I'm curious to hear from some of you who have been on this path for a while, and who have (intentionally or not) led a spouse or significant other down this path as well. I suspect that there is sort of a template for how this usually works, consisting of:

 

1. Coming out to them

2. Being asked "Why?"

3. Responding to the question with various observations and evidence

4. A cycle of debates over time

5. A period of silence and pondering

6. An announcement by the spouse that he/she has also deconverted

 

Has anyone had an experience that followed a different pattern? What time period does this tend to take? In my own experience, I can look back 5 and 10 years and see that I was already on the path of deconversion, but didn't realize it. If folks in your inner circle are not already headed this direction, I imagine it takes longer than if they are already questioning.

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i'm bring up questions and making out small points to some of my family. especially the younger teenage cousins. i wanna get SOME free thinking going on. at least get it going in the younger ones. *behind the backs of out parents*

 

like, where does god get HIS morals from? don't they seem suspiciously manmade?

did you know the bible is almost completely anonymous?

isn't it odd that a world wide flood 6000 years ago went unnoticed by other civilizations?

 

 

i haven't dropped the "a" word to my family. but my coworkers and friends know that i am an atheist.

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i'm bring up questions and making out small points to some of my family. especially the younger teenage cousins. i wanna get SOME free thinking going on. at least get it going in the younger ones. *behind the backs of out parents*

like, where does god get HIS morals from? don't they seem suspiciously manmade?

did you know the bible is almost completely anonymous?

isn't it odd that a world wide flood 6000 years ago went unnoticed by other civilizations?

i haven't dropped the "a" word to my family. but my coworkers and friends know that i am an atheist.

I would imagine that the subtle approach is used by many folks. In many regions and families the Xian tide is somewhat overwhelming.

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That's pretty much how it happened under my roof.  The extended family will never deconvert.

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