Jaseph Posted May 20, 2015 Author Share Posted May 20, 2015 I agree reluctantagnostic, it's very interesting to read everyone's replies! I'm happy to see that letting go of christianity gives most of us a lot of freedom, a lot of new space explore and grow! That was not what I expected when I knew I couldn't believe any longer (it wasn't really a choice for me, my faith was just gone - the only choice I had was to either stay silent about it or come out of the closet); I expected that my life would become pointless, or at least become very difficult. Man, was I wrong! Wonderful lists people, I hope you find more and more freedom to enjoy your life & make it meaningful in your own way as xtianity becomes something of the past! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyanide Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 - Enjoy myself - Love myself and be ME - Have my own opinions and feelings - Have fun - Take care of myself - Go on this kickass forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ax345 Posted May 21, 2015 Share Posted May 21, 2015 3. I allow myself to do porn However, I don't do it. While I do allow myself to have sex (at least in theory ) I also made a change in the (seemingly) opposite direction; I am doing an experiment with nofap. I've almost completed my first month and it's very interesting. As a xtian I almost felt very guilty about doing porn and this guilt actually fueled my porn behavior. After my deconversion I learned to become more relaxed about it and now I've come to the point where I have let go of it, not because I should do it but because I want it for myself. I feel much more confident and I feel very relaxed. You've said several good things in your post, and this one is of particular interest to me. I was addicted to porn before and during my Christianity. Only several years after I left my faith behind did I decide to leave porn behind, too. I still can't resist peeping at it infrequently, but I think it does a lot more harm than good for all involved. Take it from me, if you get addicted to porn (which is not that difficult to do), it will degrade your real sex life. You will be less excited by the real thing, and if you "fap" enough, you will gradually lose your ability to have orgasms, both in real sex and in masturbation. I would encourage you to keep yourself open to having sex with consenting adults, while following your heart (and not religion). Only once did I have a girlfriend who was strictly a fuck partner for a couple months, and it was a lot of fun, but ultimately, I couldn't keep up that level of intimacy with someone I wasn't going to dedicate myself to. Now I'm in a great relationship and the sex is fantastic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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