Popular Post Kittenswonderment Posted March 13, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted March 13, 2018 Hello My name is Suzie. I was a worship director in a little baptist church in New Zealand, went to bible college, married a nice Christian boy, gave my entire life to God. Got fired as worship director because I didn’t want to force volunteers to practise too much. Had no chance to explain myself or talk about ways forward the pastor just decided to kick me out and tell the congregation I had decided to step down. Decided to leave the church but still kept my faith for a wihile. Eventually all the little things added up and I decided to try living for a day without God to see if it was any different.... it wasn’t. So I gave up trying to please a hateful God, left my abusive husband, came out as a flaming lesbian, moved out of town and here I am! It’s been horrible and heartbreaking I would never go back. I’m hoping to meet some nice like minded people here. It’s a tough world on your own. <3 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 13, 2018 Share Posted March 13, 2018 Welcome! It sounds like you have been through a lot. Yes, its a tough world out there on your own, but you're not, you have this community, and they can make a great difference. Stick around, we have this site, as well as a chat room, and you're welcome there too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kittenswonderment Posted March 13, 2018 Author Share Posted March 13, 2018 I love the quote in your signature! Thank you for being so welcoming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator LogicalFallacy Posted March 13, 2018 Moderator Share Posted March 13, 2018 50 minutes ago, Kittenswonderment said: Hello My name is Suzie. I was a worship director in a little baptist church in New Zealand, went to bible college, married a nice Christian boy, gave my entire life to God. Got fired as worship director because I didn’t want to force volunteers to practise too much. Had no chance to explain myself or talk about ways forward the pastor just decided to kick me out and tell the congregation I had decided to step down. Decided to leave the church but still kept my faith for a wihile. Eventually all the little things added up and I decided to try living for a day without God to see if it was any different.... it wasn’t. So I gave up trying to please a hateful God, left my abusive husband, came out as a flaming lesbian, moved out of town and here I am! It’s been horrible and heartbreaking I would never go back. I’m hoping to meet some nice like minded people here. It’s a tough world on your own. <3 Hi Suzie A fellow kiwi who has flown the religious coop! Welcome to Ex C. As TS said feel free to join us in our chat room on Discord - details here We are actually planning a voice meet at the end of the month if you wanted to join that - either as participant or just listening to all our wonderful accents. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 13, 2018 Share Posted March 13, 2018 37 minutes ago, Kittenswonderment said: I love the quote in your signature! Thank you for being so welcoming. I'm currently reading her book (Infidel), highly recommend it. This community welcomed me with open arms and it made a real difference in my life over the last year, I hope I can return the favour. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
◊ DestinyTurtle ◊ Posted March 13, 2018 Share Posted March 13, 2018 Welcome, Kittenswonderment! Yes, the type of people you describe are not interested in your story... nor any story that isn't useful for them accruing power, validation, or money. On the other hand, I bet the people on this website are super interested! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 1 hour ago, DestinyTurtle said: Welcome, Kittenswonderment! Yes, the type of people you describe are not interested in your story... nor any story that isn't useful for them accruing power, validation, or money. On the other hand, I bet the people on this website are super interested! Yes, we are, it would be nice to hear your ex-timony in more depth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caro Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 4 hours ago, Kittenswonderment said: Hello My name is Suzie. I was a worship director in a little baptist church in New Zealand, went to bible college, married a nice Christian boy, gave my entire life to God. Got fired as worship director because I didn’t want to force volunteers to practise too much. Had no chance to explain myself or talk about ways forward the pastor just decided to kick me out and tell the congregation I had decided to step down. Decided to leave the church but still kept my faith for a wihile. Eventually all the little things added up and I decided to try living for a day without God to see if it was any different.... it wasn’t. So I gave up trying to please a hateful God, left my abusive husband, came out as a flaming lesbian, moved out of town and here I am! It’s been horrible and heartbreaking I would never go back. I’m hoping to meet some nice like minded people here. It’s a tough world on your own. <3 Hi Suzie, So nice to hear from a another NZer. I hope you make some new friends in your new town soon who will love and encourage and accept you for who you are. My experience is that Christians are can be extremely judgemental and will find any way from scripture to justify why anything bad that has happened to you. They almost can't help it after years of blessings and curses indoctrination. I will admit I do not understand homosexuality. It has always seemed to me like eating dinner with two forks or two spoons etc but I have never walked in the shoes of a gay person so I know I have no right to judge their feelings just because I don't understand them. I will write my own testimony out in full and then pin it to the link when I get time. I am just as surprised to find myself on this forum as you probably are. Just know you are not alone, Kia Kaha. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator LogicalFallacy Posted March 14, 2018 Moderator Share Posted March 14, 2018 1 hour ago, Caro said: Hi Suzie, So nice to hear from a another NZer. Hi Caro Two new kiwi's in the same day. Welcome. Well we Kiwis are taking over Ex-C. - Shhh its a plot! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caro Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 35 minutes ago, LogicalFallacy said: Two new kiwi's in the same day. Welcome. Well we Kiwis are taking over Ex-C. - Hi LogicalFallacy, i noticed on your profile that you are interested in ancient humans and ancient earth. Can you recommend and good books with solid information which you have read on these topics. Coming from a Messianic background where there is a lot of emphasis on the 7 thousand year timeline in the Bible I would learn how to disprove this. Thanks Caro Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Realist Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 3 hours ago, LogicalFallacy said: Hi Caro Two new kiwi's in the same day. Welcome. Well we Kiwis are taking over Ex-C. - Shhh its a plot! ... there are and have been a quite a few of us here over the years. I see I am coming up to 12 years on this site! Welcome to you both! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
disillusioned Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 Wow, that took an abrupt turn... Congratulations on getting out, and welcome to ExC! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 Welcome Kitten, Glad you were able to get out of the craziness of Christianity. You have been through a lot. Hopefully you can continue to find the joy and happiness you deserve without "God". Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geezer Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 I'll add my welcome too. I'm certain you'll find a lot of helpful information here & I know you will find a lot of likeminded folks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mymistake Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 Hello Suzie. Welcome. It sounds like you have learned a lot about life recently. Sorry if the road is painful. Perhaps things will improve now that you have new direction. Feel free to ask us anything. We're listening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orbit Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 Welcome to the site!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelleymak6376 Posted March 15, 2018 Share Posted March 15, 2018 Hi @Kittenswonderment WELCOME! Sorry to hear of your struggles but glad you found this site! And glad you are living a full life now! I am also new to the forum and newly ex-christian...and everyone has been soooo welcoming! I'm sure you'll feel right at home here! Hope you have a terrific day!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanForsman Posted March 18, 2018 Share Posted March 18, 2018 Hi Suzie. There is a US woman named Joy who did a number of posts here regarding her life serving Christ and her church and then how in her late 40s the doubts came in and she broke from the church, As it turned out during the time she was posting here she initiated a divorce with her abusive patriarchal husband. I just finished reading her book and her story sounds so very close to what you've shared here of your own. Perhaps it would be a story you would enjoy reading. Here is a link to one of her posts after she'd been on this site for a while and had come to "know" a number of us. If you keep reading through the comments you'll see how she's deciding to move on into divorce as responds to us commenters. http://new.exchristian.net/2015/05/joy-unspeakable-part-10-submission-101.html?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter Her book, Joy Unspeakable, is available from Amazon. Just put Joy Hopper in the search box and it will come up if you decide you want to take a look at that. It is tough on your own but new friends will come who will be accepting of your much improved new world view. The most important thing is that you are learning to trust yourself and your ability to reason. Congratulations on all the great changes you are making! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quinntar Posted March 23, 2018 Share Posted March 23, 2018 On 14/03/2018 at 8:10 AM, Kittenswonderment said: Hello My name is Suzie. I was a worship director in a little baptist church in New Zealand, went to bible college, married a nice Christian boy, gave my entire life to God. Got fired as worship director because I didn’t want to force volunteers to practise too much. Had no chance to explain myself or talk about ways forward the pastor just decided to kick me out and tell the congregation I had decided to step down. Decided to leave the church but still kept my faith for a wihile. Eventually all the little things added up and I decided to try living for a day without God to see if it was any different.... it wasn’t. So I gave up trying to please a hateful God, left my abusive husband, came out as a flaming lesbian, moved out of town and here I am! It’s been horrible and heartbreaking I would never go back. I’m hoping to meet some nice like minded people here. It’s a tough world on your own. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axelle Posted April 8, 2018 Share Posted April 8, 2018 Wow, very impresive change of life. Good for you! I used to participate in a music ministry too. I hope everything works out well for you, thanks for sharing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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