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In and out of Christianity

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Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

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14 minutes ago, arthur123 said:

Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

It's understandable to want to empathize with someone because they're sad, but to merely give them what you think they need to stop being sad rather than living your truth is not earnest, and if her happiness depends on you believing in xianity her happiness will also never be in earnest. Her emotions are something she herself is responsible for, and it's important to give her that space rather than to try to manage her feelings for her. Do you want to live the rest of your life letting your worldview be dictated by how other people, like your sister, feel? You will never be free that way.

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13 hours ago, arthur123 said:

Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

 

My grandparents and mother become practically hysterical sometimes over the state of my unrepentent soul. They thought my non-christianity was a "phase" and when it proved not to be they upped the ante trying to reconvert me back to Jesus. But I'm an adult and have the right to my own beliefs. I'm sorry for their upset emotions but they chose to follow a path that creates this much discomfort for them when someone they love chooses not to follow it.

 

You are most likely in a similar situation. You are not responsible for other people's emotional states. If someone embraces ideas that produce this sort of harm to them... it's unfortunate, but they willingly continue on in the system. The choice is between the short term pain and fears involved in breaking fee and the long term low level pain and fear of staying where they are. Why should you cater to their fears? Is there any other situation in which it would be appropriate to ask you to rearrange your life for someone else's delusion?

 

If they were afraid of sidewalks, would you be obligated not to walk on them?

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My eyes perked up when I read the word "help."

 

If you are not fully convinced that Christianity is a myth, keep doing your homework and let the facts land where they fall. If it leads you back to that life, well ok then. If it leads you out of that life and belief system, also ok. The main thing is that you make whatever decision you make for yourself. It sucks that you are going through this turmoil. We've all been there, trust me. No matter what, be honest and true to you. Not no one else. Fuck everyone else.

 

What do you want? That is a question you will have to answer. 

 

The best advice I can give you is to stop letting the thoughts of others control your mind. Because eventually, you won't have any thoughts of your own. Just the fear and projection of others. 

 

Take care and never stop believing in YOURSELF! 

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On 9/15/2018 at 7:42 AM, arthur123 said:

Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

Emotional blackmail is a favorite weapon. Don't fall for it. You are not responsible for how someone else feels about something. Grow a pair.

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You should let your sister know how sad it makes you that she is still being deceived by the jesus death cult.  If she doesn't immediately become an agnostic then you'll know your relationship is only one-way.

 

Seriously, man-up, boy.  This is your life.  Quit living other people's versions of it.

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On 9/15/2018 at 7:42 AM, arthur123 said:

my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore

 

Then let her be sad.   She doesn't get to live two lives.  Only hers.  You live yours.

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Do you all think that it is an abuse?

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10 hours ago, arthur123 said:

Do you all think that it is an abuse?

No, for the simple reason you do not have a gun to your head and can stop playing that game anytime you wish. It is all your choice, so perhaps it's self abuse. 

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