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In and out of Christianity

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Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

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14 minutes ago, arthur123 said:

Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

It's understandable to want to empathize with someone because they're sad, but to merely give them what you think they need to stop being sad rather than living your truth is not earnest, and if her happiness depends on you believing in xianity her happiness will also never be in earnest. Her emotions are something she herself is responsible for, and it's important to give her that space rather than to try to manage her feelings for her. Do you want to live the rest of your life letting your worldview be dictated by how other people, like your sister, feel? You will never be free that way.

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13 hours ago, arthur123 said:

Help, I have been in and out of Christianity for about 2 times because whenever my sister is sad that I don't believe in Christianity anymore. So, whenever she is sad, I would say the sinner prayer.

 

My grandparents and mother become practically hysterical sometimes over the state of my unrepentent soul. They thought my non-christianity was a "phase" and when it proved not to be they upped the ante trying to reconvert me back to Jesus. But I'm an adult and have the right to my own beliefs. I'm sorry for their upset emotions but they chose to follow a path that creates this much discomfort for them when someone they love chooses not to follow it.

 

You are most likely in a similar situation. You are not responsible for other people's emotional states. If someone embraces ideas that produce this sort of harm to them... it's unfortunate, but they willingly continue on in the system. The choice is between the short term pain and fears involved in breaking fee and the long term low level pain and fear of staying where they are. Why should you cater to their fears? Is there any other situation in which it would be appropriate to ask you to rearrange your life for someone else's delusion?

 

If they were afraid of sidewalks, would you be obligated not to walk on them?

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