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I’m still praying nightly and daily despite no answers. I ask for help and to stop things from continuously happening.. to stop the pain.. I ask for god to respond..I ask him to comfort me. Of course none of this happens .... 

I feel desperate and still somehow still believe inside. I just can’t stop this. 

What can I do..?

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40 minutes ago, Questioningone said:

I’m still praying nightly and daily despite no answers. I ask for help and to stop things from continuously happening.. to stop the pain.. I ask for god to respond..I ask him to comfort me. Of course none of this happens .... 

I feel desperate and still somehow still believe inside. I just can’t stop this. 

What can I do..?

 

I would say that you are putting a lot of emotion and energy into a fruitless exercise with praying... speaking as one who's been there and done that.

 

Without more context I'm not sure how much help I can be other than to suggest you focus on cultivating a positive mindset that doesn't require false fairy tales to try and make you feel better.

 

Your pain - do you refer to physical pain, emotional pain or a metaphorical pain? If physical or emotion I'd suggest a doctor or a therapist.

 

A big part of this is probably a cognitive dissonance problem where part of you knows religion is bullshit, but the indoctrination encourages to keep holding onto the dream. Maybe try some self reflection and find out what you are holding onto? Fear of hell, hope of an afterlife, afraid of death, wanting to see a loved one etc? I think these are the first important steps to full recovery from religious trauma.

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2 hours ago, Questioningone said:

I’m still praying nightly and daily despite no answers. I ask for help and to stop things from continuously happening.. to stop the pain.. I ask for god to respond..I ask him to comfort me. Of course none of this happens .... 

I feel desperate and still somehow still believe inside. I just can’t stop this. 

What can I do..?

 

If God isn't helping then talk to a human being. Humans are often quite helpful when God just doesnt seem to care.

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Yeah it’s just I have no support system they all just let me down..

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Habit and brainwashing. Sometimes hard to escape. Make no mistake, you have been brainwashed. There are professional deprogrammers who could help if you can't find your own way out.

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Many of us also prayed, fasted, claimed promises, quoted scriptures, "bound" the devil, etc, and nothing ever happened. The one reason for this is that there is no god there to hear us, no spirit creature cares if we go without food, none of the promises in scripture or any of the many stories of miracles are true they are all just stories, there is no devil or god just religions galore and nothing to make the magic real.

 

It is a sad thing that so many humans are intent on convincing others that all the stories are real and trustworthy, that billions are spent annually on making churches and sending people all over the world to preach fairy tales. If instead all that energy was put into helping our neighbors, feeding the hungry, visiting the lonely, and so on, how much better humanity would be. None of the crystals, spells, tarot readings, and other things that are supposed to be magic have worked either, but people continue to insist that it's all got validity.

 

I'm sorry that you are in pain. I'm sorry that the church promised you help and then gave you bullshit that didn't work. I'm sorry that all we can give you here are words. I hope the words can help you find a bit of strength in yourself. You are the one that has lasted through all of this, and all of the fake promises of help. You are the one that has lasted, demonstrating more strength that you may realize you have. Still, it sucks to have to be strong all the time. I don't even know how many real friends I have after years of associating with people. There are probably two or three out of several I know. The rest are good acquaintances, but I wouldn't be able to share anything deep with them.

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21 hours ago, Questioningone said:

I’m still praying nightly and daily despite no answers. I ask for help and to stop things from continuously happening.. to stop the pain.. I ask for god to respond..I ask him to comfort me. Of course none of this happens .... 

I feel desperate and still somehow still believe inside. I just can’t stop this. 

What can I do..?

 
Questioningone, I understand what it's like pouring out your heart to some god that doesn't listen, doesn't care, and replies with nothing but a void of silence.  I hope you are able to stop spending your emotions on this entity and channel it to real people, individuals who can in time genuinely care about you.  Reach out to us if you have to, send us a PM, spend time in the chat room but please, don't torment yourself with a god that isn't there and if he is, he doesn't give a damn.

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14 minutes ago, RealityCheck said:

 
Questioningone, I understand what it's like pouring out your heart to some god that doesn't listen, doesn't care, and replies with nothing but a void of silence.  I hope you are able to stop spending your emotions on this entity and channel it to real people, individuals who can in time genuinely care about you.  Reach out to us if you have to, send us a PM, spend time in the chat room but please, don't torment yourself with a god that isn't there and if he is, he doesn't give a damn.

 

@Questioningone

This is a good point. You can PM on the forum here or we have a real time chat room on discord provided you are on when others are. Usually there are only two periods every 24 hours when no one is on.

 

Please find details for our discord chat server here:

 

Hop on and start chatting. Ask questions etc. I think this would be far better for you than praying to a god that doesn't answer. We will answer... even if it's several hours later :) 

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6 hours ago, Questioningone said:

Yeah it’s just I have no support system they all just let me down..

Here we are. And we won't let you down.

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I too struggled with this. I call it a vicious circle. You're trying to break free from Christianity by turning to your Christian beliefs (brainwashing) for answers. It literally took me years to overcome it. I finally figured out how irrational it is. I couldn't find any rationale, answers or comfort in prayer. You're commisioned to think that you're incapable of overcoming things without god. However, you can do a whole lot more than you could ever imagine. You need to look inside yourself and come to the realization that god has never truly helped you in any way, quite simply because, he isn't there. It's been you the entire time. With that realization you begin to break free of Christianity's brainwashing.

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We don't truly choose our beliefs. Just recognize yours and accept them as a fact. Fighting off doubts as a Christian is just as unfruitful.

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On 3/3/2019 at 10:03 PM, Questioningone said:

I’m still praying nightly and daily despite no answers. I ask for help and to stop things from continuously happening.. to stop the pain.. I ask for god to respond..I ask him to comfort me. Of course none of this happens .... 

I feel desperate and still somehow still believe inside. I just can’t stop this. 

What can I do..?

 

*HUGS*

 

It gets better. You're in the really emotionally difficult and painful situation of coming to terms with the fact that the god you've been taught about isn't matching up with your personal experience. I promise, just take a breath and take each day at a time. Keep praying if it helps, but note that he does not answer and you are desperate enough to "hear from him" that you might find an answer to prayer where there wasn't one. You'll be okay and we're here for you. ❤️ 

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On 3/3/2019 at 8:03 PM, Questioningone said:

I’m still praying nightly and daily despite no answers. I ask for help and to stop things from continuously happening.. to stop the pain.. I ask for god to respond..I ask him to comfort me. Of course none of this happens .... 

I feel desperate and still somehow still believe inside. I just can’t stop this. 

What can I do..?

 

Yeah, sadly this is what we go through, and it's really painful to realize that there's no one there to hear those prayers. Hang in there, it gets better with time.

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