ZenPaladin Posted August 6, 2020 Share Posted August 6, 2020 20M, graduated 2 years ago. For me, I was basically an autistic loner, plus some family drama that had already been going on for years(mom started having issues with her then boyfriend at the time). I was VERY socially awkward in middle school, then my family moved and there were still quite a few things I didn't understand about making friends or which things were socially acceptable. Even when I did find some common ground with some folks later on, what I found is that in HS once you move past freshman year people tend to have their friend groups picked out, especially if they carry over from middle school. I was never bullied or faced outright ostracization but there just wasn't the same openness as the grade levels went up. Never went to football games(I thought they weren't much as I heard folks just went to take Instagram pics), tried wrestling once, but wasn't in good shape at the time so didn't try out long. Did writing club for awhile and tried drama, they were ok but still felt like they were supposed to be more meaningful or something. Eventually I graduated and the fact I didn't date, or have a license till just before senior year ended, or basically have what was shown to me via TV and movies since I was a kid bugged me and had made me somewhat bitter. I did try to keep in touch with some people but aside from initially a small handful of folks wouldn't get replies when messaging on IG. Now the folks I did initially spend a bit of time with afterwards we don't talk anymore. But as time went on, HS began to feel more irrelevant even though both my parents at one point said it was the best years of your lfie and I had missed out on the ''high school experience''. My dad had grown up in the inner city but got into basketball in school and became popular with teachers cutting him slack and students doing schoolwork for him. Got a scholarship initially, but then hurt his knee and then came other bumps in the road in life down to him meeting my mom, having me and my sister and the years of arguing and dysfunction that would follow. My mom still has the occasional rant about how kids today play video games and stuff but when she was a teenager ''you couldn't fine me at home, we were at the mall and the movies or drove all the way to the beach''. Also, with the occasional former classmate I have talked too as given some more perspective. Back when doing Judo at my local community college, one of the fellow students(tall stocky dude with beard, nice guy) had gone to my school apparently, and when discussing this with him he straight up said, ''don't judge friendships off of high school because everyone is immature.'' Another girl I saw at CC when I asked her if she missed HS and she said no, she simply said ''it was just a bunch of drama''. One girl I had had art with had been a cheerleader, but when getting in touch with her earlier in the pandemic, she had actually not really had a great time in high school either, saying it was the worst part of her life actually since I guess something had happened with friends iirc. So all this in mind, it has given me some perspective that alot of people, even some of those you might assume otherwise didn't really enjoy high school much despite what pop culture has drilled into many people. And really, it seems the term ''peaking'' could describe some people who make the claim that they are the best years of your life. 4 years out of 70-80, and they are the years when aside from some exceptions, you don't have much money and know next to jack-shit about real life. Personally I look forward to my desired career of being a park ranger. Hiking, helping people, cruising in my own state issued truck, catching poachers. That beats shitty drama and math class any day. Thoughts? Is this really something that teens should be told and expected? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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