Brianna Posted August 11, 2020 Share Posted August 11, 2020 My ex boyfriend and I had been in a serious relationship for 3 years and it was great despite us being 2 different religions. He is Christian while I am a non-Christian. I helped him move ahead in life and he was my strength. We brought out the best in each other. It was agreed that I would convert to Christianity in due time. Upon having the conversation again 3 months ago, he flipped the script and said he would not be able to ask me to marry him until I become a Christian. He became adamant and basically started forcing me. I was in shock as this was never discussed in the last 3 years. He then went on to say that he wants to become more religiously inclined and get involved in the local church. He also stated that he wants to live his life for Jesus only going forward and will now dedicate his life to Jesus and serving his people. He wants to donate all his savings to the needy, and maybe even become a pastor if Jesus wants him to. He has stopped watching tv, listening to any music that is not gospel and wants to spend most of his time in church. He said if I wanted to be with him, I would have to live the same as well. He believes that Jesus is talking to him and wants him to live in such a manner. He says he will give up absolutely anyone or anything for his religion and to live like that. He lives in fear that if he does a single thing that is not Christian inclined, Jesus will punish him. I knew I wanted a different kind of life. I believe in God and I pray every single day but I want to do other things in life as well. Like work, live a good life, travel, have a family. And he wanted that too. He broke up with me because I did not want to live this new version of life that he decided within a few days. He basically gave me an ultimatum. It's either that life that HE wants or we cannot be together. I feel betrayed because he threw away 3 years of love and future plans for a decision he made over a few days. He refused to understand my logical points or even try to compromise to meet my needs and wants. Its basically his way or no way to put it bluntly. He believes that if he compromises even a little, he will be hurting Jesus. I am so shocked and confused by all of this. This change and the break up was so sudden. I never saw it coming. Prior to 3 months, he was a fun loving man but still loved his religion. Now he is basically like an extremist. He speaks like someone who is brainwashed. He has become so cold hearted towards me. He does not even take my calls or respond to my texts messages anymore. Yet he was so in love with me. Prior to this, our relationship was beyond amazing and we were at such a good place as a couple. This is not the man I fell in love with or was in a relationship with for 3 years. I am gutted and heart broken because I am so in love with the man that I was with for 3 years who is nothing like this. How do I move on or even understand what is happening? Can someone please help me try make sense of this. It's been 3 months yet I am still so miserable and heart broken. I do not want to be without him but I know I cannot give him what he is asking. He is asking me to change myself to meet his needs and that is so unfair. I know that but how do I move on when I know what kind of person he really is? 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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