It's Not A "god Thing"

[Blindsighted]

I mentioned before that my granddaughter died. She was 4 months old and spent 3 of those months in the hospital, enduring 2 open heart surgeries. It led my son to the realization that there really wasn't a god. Which opened the door for me. (That's a long story short)

 

Anyway, they've been trying to have another baby and will have a girl, due on their other daughter's birthday. A painful coincidence for them. Well they saw a family member when they were out the other day. This person used to be very close to us, but now is very distant because of our loss of faith. They asked about the baby, how far along she was, due date. When they found out they were due on the same day they told them it was a "God thing."

 

Really? If THIS is a god thing, then wouldn't the other have been a god thing too? Do they even realize how awful that sounds? "I killed your other baby, torturing her for 3 months, but here's another one for her birthday." My son just bit his tongue and didn't say anything.

 

I'm excited about the baby, but also very aware that this will probably be painful at the same time. And no, it's not a god thing; things happen by chance. And if people want to give a god credit, then they should give it the blame too.

[florduh]

And if people want to give a god credit, then they should give it the blame too.

 

Amen!

 

So sorry about the awfulness you're living with. 

[Lilith666]

That's disgusting that anyone would say something like that. How can anyone be so oblivious?

[Guest]

I think the next time someone declares some random occurrence a "god thing," I'm going to respond with, "Wow. You can read god's mind?!" Do these people realize how pompous they sound?

 

So sorry about your granddaughter. I hope this new life brings healing to your family.

[Ellinas]

Very sorry to hear of this history and of the offensive nonsense that has been aimed at the prospective parents.  The idiot who said that probably thinks God was just and right in allowing Job's family to be killed as well...!

[Guest]

I'm so sorry that your family is enduring such pain right now. What a fucking ignorant, disgusting person for saying such things and being so oblivious! Good lord. I hope that you guys find peace despite all of this.

[Blindsighted]

Thank you everyone. Comments like theirs make me very glad I've escaped and broke free from the brainwashing. I'm so glad I can think before spouting off such things anymore. Most of the time, at least.

[GirlOnFire]

Christian or not, that is soooo insensitive!!!  That person needs to learn some serious compassion and tact!  Religion doesn't give someone a free pass to be an insensitive moron....but there sure are a lot of Christians walking around who act like it does!

I'm so incredibly sorry your son, and your entire family, is having to deal with this whole situation.  It rips my heart out just thinking about it.  As a parent....ugh....I can't even imagine how painful that must've been (and continues to be).

[Storm]

I am sorry to hear of your loss.

 

This certainly irritates me as well. My wife and I have had two pregnancies that ended in miscarriage and both times I had to endure the christian vomit of things like "It will happen in God's time" and "God has bigger plans for you" etc. On the one hand, humans want to provide comfort to others in great pain. This is understandable and certainly a good thing. However, when it's done under the auspices of Christianity, it certainly isn't without irony as you have pointed out. If God does get all the credit, then he also gets all the blame. If God wanted something bigger, what could be bigger than a wonderful child? Why not just bypass the losing one just to get another. If God loved us so much, why cause intentional pain?

 

Being out of Christianity has helped me so much more than when I was a part of it. I can cope with life. I don't have to deal with cognitive dissonance. Yes, sometimes life just plain sucks. And it certainly would be good to blame god. But I just remember that with the good comes the bad. and with the bad, we appreciate the good even more.

[Blindsighted]

This person really is clueless. The timing will bring up so many sad memories. Longing for what isn't there. The weather, the time of year, the same gender baby, but it won't be her. It will be a new lovely girl, but not her. If this other person thinks a god orchestrated that kind of timing, to make it so similar and yet not, then their god is certainly sadistic.

 

My heart breaks at knowing when they cuddle their sweet new baby girl, and smell her, that all those sad memories will come flooding back.

[StillLooking]

I am so sorry for your and your son's loss. It was a severely painful period in your son's family lives and now you will be reminded of that when you guys are going to celebrate a happy event. I chalk it as a life coincidence as I don't think any deity has anything to do with it. That person is very tactless and ignorant no matter what he/she believes.

I wish your son and his wife strength and compassion for themselves to overcome the sadness that they will feel.

[rjn]

And yet, us "reprobates" are the bad and immoral ones? Sickening really. I'm sorry your family has had to endure this and having ignorant (if well meaning) Christians pour salt in the wounds. Best of wishes regarding this new pregnancy.